Annoyed when asked to describe music tastes?

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I don't really like being asked. I like a subset of "arty" pretentious music that hipsters listen to mixed with other random assorted music.

I can pretty much have some form of meaningful music conversation with anyone. When they say "Oh, I like everything" it's usually more like the Blues Brothers quote "Oh we've got both kinds: Country AND Western!".
My "everything" is usually a bit bigger and often contains at least some of the music they like. I know the difference between Beethoven's middle and late string quartets (I have the sheet music, too), I can tell you why Necromantheon is the first band in years to GET Thrash Metal, I can (or at least could) play several of Dave Gilmours guitar solos half convincingly, and I know why Hamza El-Din is considered one of the finest Oud players. I can talk about Azeri composers (Isn't Fikret Amirov's Nizami just devine?), and I saw Miles Davis in concert (oh f*****g YES!). I love black and death metal. Even the church burning satanist s**t (I AM Norwegian, after all), but I don't paint my face like a corpse to go see Satyricon or Immortal...
My biggest holes would have to be Hip-Hop and rap, although I have and like some albums (and Lauryn Hill at the PinkPop festival in 1999 is on my top five gigs ever list). I once owned every Frank Zappa album ever released, minus the original pressing of Läther.

I could go on, but I hope my point is made. I love music.

But I really hate being asked the question, because frankly, I'll never be as fluent in any of these as the devoted monochromatic fans.
And I hate feeling superior. Because I'm not.

Genres are useful for talking to the one-dimensional, and for finding new music. But mostly I differentiate music like this. Good Music and Shite. Motorpsycho is Good Music, Tone Damli Aaberge is shite. Simple, really.

Shut 'em up with one word:

"Eclectic."

Annoyed? Actually, on the contrary. I rather enjoy discussing my tastes with other people. I'm not embarrassed by what I listen to, and I'm a huge music geek, so a music discussion is one of the best ways to break the ice with me. If someone doesn't like what I like... hey, live and let live, you know? More often than not, though, I've found people generally like the music to which I introduce them-- which is a rather awesome feeling.

The problem is when this question is used in small talk. Because it's no place to discuss interests or what bands you admire. If people actually want to discuss the music, that's fine.

if i get asked this; i usually get that hipster feeling.
"oh, you dont know the music i listen too and probarbly find it boring"
"tell me anyway"
"firstly, anything that's not on the radio or MTV"
"you're weird"
*mental facepalm and 'told you so'*

Doesn't annoy me at all; it's sometimes a mental game comparing bands/genres in my head when I have nothing to do. I enjoy ranking albums by bands, listing favorite songs, etc.

I agree with the earlier post that most either go too underground or too mainstream though. I have a balance.

I hate it. They ask, so I say something vague like "metal mostly, and some rock"

And then I get stuck with 1 of 2 people:

1. Someone who does not listen to anything I do. Conversation ends there.

2. Someone who is REALLY into metal, and names loads of bands that /I/ don't know. Conversation gets awkward.