Learning music (problemmss)

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Hey everyone!

I'm totally new here, so forgive me if this has already been talked about a lot - I had trouble finding a similar thread.

I LOVE music - I sing, play drums, guitar, pennywhistle, ukelele, piano, etc, and have been writing music in some form or other for pretty much my whole life. I've been playing gigs around the Seattle area for a while now, both with my electro-punk solo project (you can look up Zander Yates on facebook or band camp) and playing drums in a rock band called The Pink Pajamas (again you can look us up - I'm so sorry I can't post links yet but this is my first post and the forum won't let me)

Anyways, here's the challenge.
In the seventh grade I was diagnosed with nonverbal learning disorder. While I've gotten good at accepting my challenges and using it as an asset, it does sometimes get in the way of music, particularly learning to sing a new harmony or melody - I can play or sing something that I've written myself just fine now, though that was once a huge challenge too, but trying to communicate with my band about music is nearly impossible - I definitely feel the block when trying to learn a new melody or harmonize with another singer; I can hear the different pitches perfectly but it just feels like I'm lost in myself and can't repeat the melody back or do anything with it - I can't really explain the challenge but it's there. I can go home on a computer, sing, and harmonize to the recording just fine, but when it's in interaction with other people something happens, and it's not just being nervous.
This is just my challenge now. Learning to play music has always been an uphill effort and will continue to be. I couldn't stop if I wanted to - it's a part of me, like a first language, but even deeper - all the same it's torturous to see everyone else excel and improve so quickly when I obviously have a lot of difficulty creating anything anyone will like - I've gotten a whole whole whole lot better then I was even a year ago, but it still seems like I'm not good enough and a lot of people still don't get what I'm trying to communicate when I'm performing. Does anyone else have trouble learning to a certain aspect of music? If so, how do you cope, and overcome? Or can you overcome? I mean, the disorder's a part of me so it will be a part of the music too - so how do I create something myself and others can enjoy? This is really frustrating because this is my passion and I communicate things through music I could never communicate in a conversation.

Sorry for the rant and all the questions!