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I'm sick of 'romance'. All it ever results in is pain. All guys are interested in is looks and sex. Of course, you manage you find somebody who isn't this way and you find out they are anyways. Making up lame excuses because I'm not some anorexic bimbo. I may be autistic, but I'm not dumb. I know when somebody is making excuses. I'm sick of having my feelings jerked around. It took me two years to trust anybody, and now when I did, the person hurts me. I hate them! That's right, I hate them! If you're reading this, feel nice and warm knowing I HATE YOU!

People are superficial a**holes.

Try and ignore those sort of people, they won't do you any good. I got hung up with liking some of them at school, and it's only after I left school I relised how pathetic they are.

I see alot of people togther as couples, and the majority of them are just normal girls, nothing superficial about them, so it is possible to find a nice guy out there.

What goes around comes around, people might make pathetic excuses, and oneday, they'll get the same from someone and get really upset and hurt, they probably deserve it, too.

Romance is overrated... I've discovered i'm at my happiest when i'm single and enjoying the company of family, pets and friends.

I find it quite liberating to realize that the reason I've been so bad at intimate relationships is purely because I am not capible of having one - this really frees up a lot of my brain for other things . . . I've always been worried about finding a partner and now I know that won't happen so I don't have to worry about it anymore . . .

With the person I'm angry at right now, it made it worse the fact that he's not NT, he's an Aspie, so I expected more I guess.

I dont the situation, but I am wondering if this just a misunderstanding?
Remember the social rules of dating and finding a mate was made for and by NTs. You and this guy who is an aspies are probably trying to interact along using these rules (how else can it be when this is all u been taught) and since you BOTH do not have intuitive understanding of this but merely applying the rules you learned in a mechanical fashion. Failure is not surprising, especially considering the rules that you both learned are not the same. Men talk about women differently than women talk about men. (i said talk not act!! !) of course I am stating generalities but the point is made.

I can relate alot to what many of you have said here. I also have problems with intimacy in relationships. I find it hard to connect with people on that "deeper level", that is said to exist in relationships. I just don't know how to "act" around people, when I try to be intimate, it seems fake and contrived. It just doesn't feel natural.

How can I change this, if anyone has any suggestions, I would be happy to hear them. Thanks.

I think he was going by NT rules and he certainly fits an NT stereotype. However, I wasn't going by NT rules, because that's stupid. I think a relationship should be like being friends, except you trust each other more. Basically, anyways.

I agree - the only thing to me that should be different between an intimate relationship and a friendship is, well, the intimacy (wink, wink, nudge, nudge - do we have any Monty Python fans out there) . . .

I have been accused many times of taking friendships too seriously so I'm no longer trying to have anything but superficial relationships . . .

Wow, it must be nice to even get in a relationship! I want one really bad and had one (1 my whole life) before but i'm really messed up in that department.

Alot of girls say that i'm so sweet, nice, well mannered and i'm so sick of hearing that. My line is that the girls only want the a$$holes and it is true for the most part. I have always had a fear of touching people. My last GF tried her damnest and was really patient with me. She ran around on me so that was the end. I think if I could get into a relationship that I KNOW I would be loyal and very caring. It's the getting there part that is so hard. Last weekend I went to a party, all the girls had boyfrends!! When me and my equally unlucky engineering student friends had to leave. We watched all the couples run away to their lairs. It is a really crappy feeling seeing that over and over and over again.

Sometimes I want to try to get something started somehow but just don't know how to go about it. Other times I get cynical and hateful and shut myself off from everyone.

wink wink, nudge nudge, he asked Tim knowingly!!

A nod is as good as a wink to a blind man.

yes, yes, and yes!

if you don't mind me asking, how old are you, Catffienated?

I'm 16 and about 6 months. I've had one boyfriend before and nothing else other than interest in the person I mentioned in this post.

I went through the same thing at your age. It made me cry and depressive, but I got over it and learnt from it, you will eventually learn what sh*t you just won't tolerate.

What used to make me cry would now just make me laugh at the person trying to hurt me. For being such a weird jerk.

You will learn that people like that just aren't really worth your time. Don't bother with them- aspie or not thi sperson is obviously a shallow or insecure jerk, put them in the past, you may not believe it now, but someday you will look back and laugh at them.

I've been there. I'm nearly 20 now.

Good for you, but I notice many posts have typos in them. I saw you had a few and thought I would help.

Please don't troll my posts, That's the sort of behaviour I would expect from an NT forum.

For the record, "learnt" is a correct word. http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=learnt

I'm not stupid and will refused to be treated like I am.

Catffienated, please think about what I said.. I'd razz them up on AIM myself on your behalf but it really is none of my business.