What is falling in love?

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In simpler terms:

Infatuated: Passion

Empty: Commitment

Friendship: Intimacy

Fatuous: Passion, Commitment

Companionate: Commitment, Intimacy

Romantic: Passion, Intimacy

Consummate: Passion, Intimacy, AND Commitment

"Love is making a shot to the knees of a target 120 kilometers away using an Aratech sniper rifle with a tri-light scope. " - HK-47

Hahaha! KoToR Ftw!

A decription someone once told me:
Love is a word you use to describe a relationship to someone when the amount of connections you feel to the person becomes so numerous that you go insane trying to analyze them all.

I would imagine that it begins with mutual physical attraction (the first wave of connection), then discovering common traits and interests as well as common ways of thinking(second wave of connection), and then over time the third wave of connection emerges in the form of the experiences that the two people share and can look back upon.

I have thought about this a LOT. For a while I didn't believe "falling in love" really existed. I believed that "love" existed and that "lust" existed and I believed that when people say they "fall in love" it was, in actuality, a large degree of lust with whatever amount of love. However, I recently had a revelation, and this is after a GREAT DEAL of consideration, pondering, deliberating, and also calling upon every relationship romantic and non romantic I have ever experienced. I realized what falling in love is.

Falling in love is being completely at the mercy of the person you are in love with. Utterly, totally, and completely at their mercy. It means they are holding a dagger over your heart and mind which they could, at any point, plunge into you, and you are utterly helpless for them to have or not have that dagger or to hold it or not hold it over your neck, heart, and mind. Now ideally both parties are in love with each other so their is no real opportunity for the dagger to be plunged in. But unfortunately these things can be lop sided, which means that if you are in love with someone and they are not in love with you, that dagger will be plunged in one way or another. Or, if a person is in love with you, and you are not in love with them, you have the ability to plunge the dagger into that person.

This is why falling in love is terrifying because the person you are in love with has ungodly power to hurt you.

I think I had said a variation of this at one point when I referred to a failed connection of mine: "The more someone knows you, the easier it is for them to hurt you". Of course, I was referring to how much I had chosen to reveal myself to this person, and how much I expected from them (it wasn't much, but that was exacerbated by a complete abandonment). In any event, it seems our level of hurt is measured in investment versus expectation.

I've been in love three times,

The first time was when I was 17 and courted the man till I was nearly 19, I wanted to marry he was a ditherer, he kept saying when we get married, but wouldn't make a date. This man would make my knees go to Jelly, this was lust as well as respect, but not enough respect, thats why my first post.


The second was my husband, level smooth lake love, and sometimes he would do something or say saomething and a powerful feeling of love will well up in my heart for him. This is my lasting love, because no matter how much we annoy eachother we still sleep peacefully with eachother and trust eachother above all others.


My third love was while married to my husband, this was a friend that I became very close to, with out the lust or any physical contact, he is a very romantic man, likes dancing and a fantastic flirt, he became my dream love. He moved to Ireland and married a lovely woman(lucky woman.)

There all different, all wonderful, and all with risk. But what is life without a bit of risk. Without stepping forward we won't ever know whats around the corner. Or who?

I just thought of a really funny but sick definition of falling in love but i think i'd get a message from the moderators if i posted it.

I have thought that I was in love a number of times only to find it was not what made me happy.
My definition is a summary of what I have learned.

There are many kinds of love.
What most people call falling in love is what they want to mean finding someone who arouses their passion as well as their interest and desire for long term commitment.
Some people want falling in love to mean passion for a moment - a night, a week, a few months while their heart heals from some pain. Some people want even less - a one night stand, enough passion to convince them there is something more without the necessity of pursuing it. Some people want love to mean worship, some slavery, some want gods and some want to be gods, and their excuse is love. Some people want love to be amnesia, or aphrodisiac, or both. Some people build a definition of love based on fear and they make it so no one finds them.

the bottom line is love is what one makes it, and the caution is know what you are asking for when you want to fall in love.

I agree that experiencing deep, enduring love requires taking a risk of getting hurt. But what have you got to lose? And I've been hurt alot ... but I'm not jaded about being able to experience it again.

To me it's that feeling that you care so much about the other person you'd do anything to make them happy, even if doing so is not in your interest. And I disagree that love is thinking the other person can do no wrong. It's seeing all the person you love's faults and foibles - and accepting them as they are.

Love is;
sharing a bathroom (without stalls), while one of you is going #2.

You really have to love someone, in order to do that.

therefore,
love=comfort

you cant really discribe love but trust me when i say that when you feel it you will know it