I can't get a boyfriend.

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I'm Ellen, from Mebourne; Australian and have AS.

I never really had much desire to have a boyfriend, but lately I've been imagining what it would be like. I'm 16, 17 next week, so I haven't really had much 'life experience' and none of dating. But I would like to change that.
Guys have had interest me, who I didn't like. And I've had interest guys, who didn't like me.
I would prefer to see someone with AS, so they could understand me. I've never met anyone like me before and I would really like to. I don't know where to meet people and I just feel like I'm supposed to be alone for the rest of my life.

Does anyone understand where I'm coming from?

Yeah. I'm having the same problem (with girls), except I'm 21 and at college. I've just started school, so we'll see I guess. I have no idea where or how to meet people who I might be interested in. Maybe someone out there has suggestions for us?

I'm 28 and met my first person with AS in person just about a month ago. The technique I've used with success is to go out and try to make friends with a member of the opposite sex, and then see what happens. It lets you get to know them and if you want to be with them before you're in a relationship and get hurt, and since it takes me longer than her to figure out than her to figure me out, it gives me the necessary buffer time so we're on a relatively level playing field.

When you do finally meet someone, don't have sex! Don't even make out to where you might want to. It ruins everything. Keep that for the far future, the very, far future.

I have had my share of trouble on the getting a partner section.

Im 19 and I never had a girlfriend. Most of the women I approach dont see me as someone datable and Ive tried a few times with those who see me as someone suitable for them but Im usually to awkward during first dates so it doesnt go any further.

As a user mentioned before collegue is starting soon so I may find someone but its very unlikely to happen.


The only advice I can give is try paying attention to which signals boys are sending you,I didnt care for them until someone told me I had spent 2 years "flirting " with a girl who thought I wasnt interested in her because she wanted me too ask her out and I was too afraid (I know 2 years is a long period for flirting but I didnt want to mess up the only good relationship I had at highschool).

OMFG :O , you're 16 , and you didn't get a boyfriend yet???!

This should be a sign of the end of the world!

The Horror ! !

Try being 37 with no boyfriend. Ever.

As a rule I don't like those that don't like me. So I've never had the problem of liking a guy that didn't like me.

I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 17 and my first kiss until I was 19. Trust me, you're not terribly behind or anything. Most NT girls these days just try to grow up too damn fast. Focus on your studies, extracurricular activities (if any) and friends. Those are the best memories I had of high school, not the jackass I was dating. *nod nod*

If you only want to know what it's like to have a boyfriend, then wouldn't it be okay to date someone who you don't like (provided you tell him in advance that you may or may not return his feelings)?

I don't really want to be in a relationship and I've never actually gone on a quest specifically to find boyfriend, so... can't really help. Sorry. I would still suggest that you focus on friendship first, though. And if you do go on a date, make sure the two of you are never alone alone. Be wise and stay safe.