Grisha wrote:
Personally, I've noticed that I get quite irritable and have a tendency to "snap" at people when I've not had sex for any significant period of time, and the "manual" option doesn't seem to ameliorate the condition. Once I managed to get into a sexual relationship, the problem disappeared.
Let me be clear, this is NOT an excuse/justification for casual sex. I have learned to recognize when I am in this state and make a conscious effort to "chill out" until I manage to find an appropriate/permanent solution. Sometimes I fall short of this, I once had a relatively minor tantrum at work resulting in a female co-worker quipping that I need to "get laid"
On a purely intellectual level, I strongly suspect that it's a legacy of evolutionary psychology: for the vast majority of our species existence, men were required to physically challenge other males for available females. When males were unsuccessful at this, the body would increase the level of aggression to make a successful outcome more probable.
This is sexual/romantic frustration. Simply: The less you are desired by others, the more you desire someone to love.
I wish other people would understand the difficulty Aspie men can have getting laid: Men have to work to impress on women that they're suitable for a relationship, NT men have the skills for that but AS men find it hard. No pun intended!
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15 Jan 2011, 7:52 pm
