My girlfriend thinks she might be pregnant?

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16 Jul 2011, 2:06 pm

She thinks she might be pregnant because she missed her period, and I pretty sure I witnessed semen leak out of the condom during the intercorse, as there was not alot of semen in the condom, like, barely anything, but I felt a big load coming out. (I came inside her while wearing the condom.)

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16 Jul 2011, 2:07 pm

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Never, ever take only a woman's word for it when she says, "You are the father".

the jeremy kyle generation.

No, Jerry Springer. I'm American

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16 Jul 2011, 2:10 pm

Fnord wrote:

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Fnord wrote:

Never, ever take only a woman's word for it when she says, "You are the father".

the jeremy kyle generation.

No, Jerry Springer. I'm American

so 90s.

haha chrispybiscuits. just noticed the name and i am a fan.

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16 Jul 2011, 2:31 pm

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haha chrispybiscuits. just noticed the name and i am a fan.

Thanks...

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16 Jul 2011, 2:34 pm

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If the condom was worn and correctly used it's very unlikely to leak.

The key is proper usage. You can't lollygag about with condoms; you finish and you make your exit.

Even taking care to do things correctly, if you're using condoms as your only means of birth control and having regular sex, you're playing a very risky game. Get her on birth control if you're having sex.

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16 Jul 2011, 2:41 pm

Yeah she is on birthcontrol now, but it may be too late, guess ill just have to wait till she gets the test done to know for sure...

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16 Jul 2011, 2:53 pm

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Yeah she is on birthcontrol now, but it may be too late, guess ill just have to wait till she gets the test done to know for sure...

If she's just started birth control, it's pretty much guaranteed that her menstrual cycle is going to be erratic for a few months until her body gets used to it. The way the pill works is that she should start bleeding 3-4 days into the "off week" when there are either no pills or placebo pills (they're a different color).
If she started taking the birth control when she was supposed to, as in during or directly after her last period, you should have nothing to worry about. Also, if she's rather small or skinny it's possible that she'll sometimes skip periods while on the pill.

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16 Jul 2011, 3:03 pm

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Why does she think she is pregnant, ChrispyBiscuits? If she's missed a period, that can be explained in a lot of ways. If it's other symptoms then you have even less reasons to worry. But don't hurt her in this fragile time by asking for proof that you are the father (if she is pregnant) or accusing her of attention-seeking. She's your girlfriend, just trust her and help her out. Nothing is more worrying than a pregnancy scare, and men don't understand this.

thanks for this. excellent advice. doubting her at this stage can completely destroy a relationship that coould be worth saving.

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16 Jul 2011, 3:12 pm

I find Depo-Provera to work well for me. It's an injected form of contraceptive that lasts twelve weeks (so better than the pill because there's less chance of forgetting), the injection needs to be taken on time though for to keep being effective (in the twelfth week). It is injected into the thigh or buttocks.

Regarding side effects, smaller women can have bad reactions to it. I've never had a bad reaction to it, I've only had mild stiffness in the area of the injection and that may be unconnected to the Depo-Provera.

There is a similar injection called Depo-subQ Provera 104 which is supposed to have less side effects but with the same effectiveness. It's injected into the skin in either the abdomen or thigh just under the skin.

I hope it all has the best possible outcome for you and her.

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16 Jul 2011, 4:28 pm

OneStepBeyond wrote:

Fnord wrote:

OneStepBeyond wrote:

Fnord wrote:

Never, ever take only a woman's word for it when she says, "You are the father".

the jeremy kyle generation.

No, Jerry Springer. I'm American

so 90s.

So valid. Women still try to "... get their man on the Preggie Plan", even when the man is not the real father of the child, or when the pregnancy itself isn't real in the first place.

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16 Jul 2011, 4:32 pm

Fnord wrote:

OneStepBeyond wrote:

Fnord wrote:

OneStepBeyond wrote:

Fnord wrote:

Never, ever take only a woman's word for it when she says, "You are the father".

the jeremy kyle generation.

No, Jerry Springer. I'm American

so 90s.

So valid. Women still try to "... get their man on the Preggie Plan", even when the man is not the real father of the child, or when the pregnancy itself isn't real in the first place.

and.... some men still ditch their significant other at the first sign of possible pregnancy.

people can be douchebags, but so what? doesn't mean that suspicion and fear should rule relationships.

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16 Jul 2011, 4:34 pm

Fnord wrote:

OneStepBeyond wrote:

Fnord wrote:

OneStepBeyond wrote:

Fnord wrote:

Never, ever take only a woman's word for it when she says, "You are the father".

the jeremy kyle generation.

No, Jerry Springer. I'm American

so 90s.

So valid. Women still try to "... get their man on the Preggie Plan", even when the man is not the real father of the child, or when the pregnancy itself isn't real in the first place.

At 16? I'd think it's more of a freakout than anything else at that age. I know at 16 I wouldn't have been thinking about "trapping" a guy if I thought I was preggers. I would have been freaking and hoping and crossing my fingers that I WASN'T pregnant!

What an attitude toward the female gender!

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16 Jul 2011, 4:53 pm

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innit
whatever it is, i'm pretty sure it's not some kind of husband trap

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16 Jul 2011, 5:02 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

Fnord wrote:

OneStepBeyond wrote:

Fnord wrote:

OneStepBeyond wrote:

Fnord wrote:

Never, ever take only a woman's word for it when she says, "You are the father".

the jeremy kyle generation.

No, Jerry Springer. I'm American

so 90s.

So valid. Women still try to "... get their man on the Preggie Plan", even when the man is not the real father of the child, or when the pregnancy itself isn't real in the first place.

and.... some men still ditch their significant other at the first sign of possible pregnancy.

Granted. That's why (I think) women should wait until marriage before "giving it up" to just any bloke who treats them nice. At least if he turns from Dr. Jekyll to Mr Hyde, she can divorce him and get half of the joint property and a good portion of his wages.

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people can be douchebags, but so what? doesn't mean that suspicion and fear should rule relationships.

Suspicion and fear would not rule relationships if there were no such things as abuse, deception, and "head games". Eliminate these, and more relationships would last longer.

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16 Jul 2011, 5:04 pm

Meow101 wrote:

Fnord wrote:

OneStepBeyond wrote:

Fnord wrote:

OneStepBeyond wrote:

Fnord wrote:

Never, ever take only a woman's word for it when she says, "You are the father".

the jeremy kyle generation.

No, Jerry Springer. I'm American

so 90s.

So valid. Women still try to "... get their man on the Preggie Plan", even when the man is not the real father of the child, or when the pregnancy itself isn't real in the first place.

Well ... that's you.

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What an attitude toward the female gender!

If you had met my first wife, you would know how I gained that attitude.

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16 Jul 2011, 5:11 pm

Fnord wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

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So valid. Women still try to "... get their man on the Preggie Plan", even when the man is not the real father of the child, or when the pregnancy itself isn't real in the first place.

and.... some men still ditch their significant other at the first sign of possible pregnancy.

so it is the responsibility of the female to say yes or no to sex? men could just as easily keep it in their pants. it takes two to tango. abstinence from both sides is the best way to avoid pregnancy of course, but it is no more reasonable to expect women to say no than to expect it from men.

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people can be douchebags, but so what? doesn't mean that suspicion and fear should rule relationships.

Suspicion and fear would not rule relationships if there were no such things as abuse, deception, and "head games". Eliminate these, and more relationships would last longer.

perhaps people engage in such games as they pre-emptively think the rest of the world is just as deceitful as them. i think what needs to be eliminated from our world is negativity, suspicion, and bitterness.

bad experiences do not necessarily turn a person foul - we make our own choices as to whether we allow our negative experiences to turn us against other humans. if we approach others with an open heart, they are more likely to do the same.

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