Speed dating with a twist

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I'm going to a speed dating event next week. On this forum I've seen some negative experiences with speed dating spoken of but there is a difference with this one. It's being held at a sci-fi/comic/horror/anime/gaming convention so the people there will be different than typical groups. It will be easier to talk to someone I have things in common with, and they may very well be dressed as what they are interested in. Although these girls will likely be more like me than the general population, I am concerned with the ways that they are not different than most people. For instance they are likely not impressed by a person who doesn't have a permanent job, doesn't have any significant education, lives with their mother, and doesn't have any particular desire to do anything about any of that for the foreseeable future. But putting that aside this is a better chance to meet people since I usually only manage to start a conversation with one person at any of these things assuming I have the 5 to 40 minutes it usually takes me to come up with something to say. In this case a conversation is expected but I don't really know what to say if we aren't talking about Doctor Who or Buffy the Vampire Slayer. It may be that that will be all anyone wants to talk about and no one will take this that seriously or they will and I might have to have a real conversation. That is the problem I have here. That this is as stacked in my favor as it could be but it might be the same as anything else, and I also don't know which way the other people are going to with it.

Speed dating totally works. 5-10 minutes is all it takes to know if you're compatible with someone and fall in love.

Hmmm, I want to do this. Nice way to get from 0 to 20.

Regardless of the outcome, I think you should give yourself credit for giving this a shot and putting yourself out there. (Speed dating sounds intimidating and I don't know if I could get through a whole night of that myself, to be truthful). The worst case scenario, though, is that even if you don't meet someone or you wind up having a few uncomfortable conversations, you still will have gotten a chance to practice your social skills and maybe even learn some lessons that'll help you the next time you have to approach someone.

I would like to have speed dating, maybe in a some fast Ferrari on the traffic-lawless Lebanon's highways.

People dont expect to fall in love in 5/10 minutes, they talk and if they see that it could go somewhere they exchange some way of contacting each other and try to set a proper date.

I´ve been thinking about doing it just to give it a try but I cant find any speed dating events in my city.

I don't see how one can figure compatibility out in that amount of time, but okay.

Speed dating is terribly biased towards women.
When women are the ones sitting there, while the men go around to each, the women tend to be much more picky about who they choose. So you have much less chance of one being into you, over the other guys.
There was a study done that actually showed if men are sitting there while the women move around, the men tend to be pickier. So its not so much the gender, its about which side has the bias towards being more picky: the side who doesn't have to move around, and people come to them. Unfortunately these things tend to always be the women sitting there.

That being said, most of us do not fair well when given only a brief time with someone, we need more time than average guys so we feel more comfortable and get a better sense of a person than just if they're hot or not. So, at least in my opinion, speed dating is not a good option for AS/SA.

Also another thing I've learned. A lot of the more geekier types of girls, seem to want non-similar partners. I have no idea why. Just throwing that out there. That it sounds like its a bunch of girls you can relate to, but you may not be who they're looking for.

Assuming that's true, it really can't be true of this group, because this is held at a geek convention. Only geek types would be there so it's the only type of person they would meet. If they were looking for a non-geek type they wouldn't be in it at all

what other experience of dating women have you had?!

Speed dating is purely based on looks, that's the only thing one can notice in a such short time.

All this talk about compatibility in speed dating is BS.

that doesn't mean speed dating is bs. looks are usually the first thing that attract you to somebody. also most people are compatible with most everybody in this world if you try to be.

Well, this how I see it: Speed dating is the dating equivalent of one-night stand. To make it more clear, one-night stand is the sex equivalent of Speed dating.

The two have different goals (the first is a relationship, the second just sex) but both are based on the exact same parameters: Looks and first impression attraction.

And in both only the most attractive and smoothest talkative men would succeed. So logically, aspie men would suck at both.

First speed dating event was today. Five girls left me their email address. Since it was recommended that you give information to five people that would be about average.

Meaning it would be nice is there was speed dating where men got to sit around. Or a different format than most currently are. Its like going on 50 online-started dates in 1 night.