29 Sep 2011, 2:34 pm
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29 Sep 2011, 2:47 pm
although i'd probably pick socially confident, because it's something i lack.
and i like things i lack the most.
emilion, I love your honesty.
btw, there are more than three types, those were just examples....
29 Sep 2011, 3:16 pm
although i'd probably pick socially confident, because it's something i lack.
and i like things i lack the most.
emilion, I love your honesty.
btw, there are more than three types, those were just examples....
well over any types then.
a mix of all is still preferable though.
(although maybe this superman doesnt really exist.
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29 Sep 2011, 3:34 pm
However, this bold approach also risks wreaking ever-greater havoc. The authors cite the 2008 financial crash and the 2003 Iraq war as just two examples of when extreme overconfidence backfired.
A team from the University of Edinburgh and the University of California, San Diego used a mathematical model to simulate the effects of overconfidence over generations. It pitted overconfident, accurate, and underconfident strategies against each other.
A paper published in Nature today shows that overconfidence frequently brings rewards, as long as spoils of conflict are sufficiently large compared with the costs of competing for them. In contrast, people with unbiased, accurate perceptions usually fare worse.
The implications are that, over a long period of time the evolutionary principal of natural selection is likely to have favoured a bias towards overconfidence. Therefore people with the mentality of someone like boxer Mohammad Ali would have left more descendents than those with the mindset of film maker Woody Allen.
The evolutionary model also showed that overconfidence becomes greatest in the face of high levels of uncertainty and risk. When we face unfamiliar enemies or new technologies, overconfidence becomes an even better strategy.
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29 Sep 2011, 6:46 pm
Some of us can pick out fake confidence a mile away. But you may be onto something. I've "liked" people who have appeared confident in the past but in reality they're actually really insecure. I've known this but didn't care.
People won't associate the vibes you give off with aspergers. They will just pick them up as odd. I'm not talking about people going "Hey, that guy's behaviour is a bit off, he must have aspergers", I'm talking about vibes. Vibes are picked up by the human sixth sense. For example, if you're a woman hater and pretend to be respectful, people can see through it because of the vibes.
Was that a pun on the thread author's name?
No.
I was talking about piloting and having someone as a co-pilot who is better than the pilot far as finding a girlfriend.
I was joking.
As for confidence, well it depends. I guess social confidence is very important. I'm also attracted to people who radiate a sense of power - no, not about what they do etc, about who they are. It's hard to explain.
02 Oct 2011, 8:17 am
It's only partly about the appearence of confidence.
The key to what makes someone attractive, is because they are unavailable. They have to be hard for you to get hold of. Like say, when someone is busy and can't see you most of the time, you miss them, and they appear confident because they're showing that there's more important things in their life besides you, sort of the way unrequitted love works. When they're needy and trying to impress, they're too available. People want what they can't have, and like independence in people.
When you don't want somebody, it doesn't mean you're more confident, it's just that you don't want them. You might appear more confident to them by saying no, but it's the unavailability that makes them want you more.
I always fancy shy, immature, nerdy guys who haven't much social confidence. And they rarely like me back. That's what attracts me. 
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02 Oct 2011, 11:14 am
I've only read this line of your post.
I have more important things to do in my life.
There's no need to be rude about it, though.
eRude...?! look.....I have no time to argue with you.
You're basically saying, "I have no time to listen to your insignificant opinion".
I think Boo is trying to be unavaliable to you so that you gain attraction to him and want him
XD
02 Oct 2011, 11:51 am
I have more important things to do in my life.
There's no need to be rude about it, though.
eRude...?! look.....I have no time to argue with you.
You're basically saying, "I have no time to listen to your insignificant opinion".
I think Boo is trying to be unavaliable to you so that you gain attraction to him and want him
XDHmm! Well, I thought I had a good point, anyway. I think some aspies don't know the difference between being to the point, and rudeness.
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02 Oct 2011, 11:57 am
I've only read this line of your post.
I have more important things to do in my life.
There's no need to be rude about it, though.
eRude...?! look.....I have no time to argue with you.
You're basically saying, "I have no time to listen to your insignificant opinion".
I think Boo is trying to be unavaliable to you so that you gain attraction to him and want him
XDMe wants her? Only in her dreams *yawn*.
