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10 Jul 2012, 4:09 am

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Wow, my list is pathetic.


On the contrary, a scary movie/ride would make her hug me :P.



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10 Jul 2012, 4:11 am

and yea, the hiking girl.



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10 Jul 2012, 6:06 am

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Take her to Costco. Dinner and a movie for under $5.00.


Sigh. Please don't be cheap on a first date. It's fine to go low-budget, but try to make the experience special instead of just going for a cheaper option of a more expensive game plan.

If you're on a budget, go for a walk in the park, or flying a kite, or something along those lines.

I did laugh though, if this is meant as a joke.


He wasn't. On another thread he said if the girl didn't put out after the third date, then to dump her. :roll:



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10 Jul 2012, 6:12 am

smudge wrote:
Wow, my list is pathetic.


OliveOilMom wrote:
Your list is not pathetic. Mine is just a list of different dates I have gone on (some first, some not) and some that friends have gone on.


The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
On the contrary, a scary movie/ride would make her hug me :P.


Thanks. And yeh, that was the idea. :wink:



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10 Jul 2012, 6:27 am

smudge wrote:
smudge wrote:
Wow, my list is pathetic.


OliveOilMom wrote:
Your list is not pathetic. Mine is just a list of different dates I have gone on (some first, some not) and some that friends have gone on.


The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
On the contrary, a scary movie/ride would make her hug me :P.


Thanks. And yeh, that was the idea. :wink:


btw, she's little overweight, see how did you miss your chance with me?

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10 Jul 2012, 6:28 am

I'm stealing the test driving idea! And I actually went in a surgery date once :lol: (she's a medicine student so she actually loved it)

To give you a more general idea, dates should give you two an opportunity to know each other better (problem with regular movie dates), while having fun and not putting too much pressure on either of you (problem with regular dinner dates. I use them, but only because the kind of girl I take to a date is the kind of girl I can talk with for hours). My first dates have been things like playing paintball, going to a mini-amusement park (those where you pay with tokens for things like wack-a-mole and air hockey), take her to watch street performers, and... no more first dates, sorry :P


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12 Jul 2012, 11:37 am

OliveOilMom wrote:
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Sight seeing (only works if they haven't been there before...)
I dunno... isn't there a thread about where you can meet up with a few suggestions? If I recall correctly, Wolfheart either made the thread or made a great contribution.


I've met most of my dates through high school, friends of friends, or work. I met my husband at work. This was the mid 80's mind you, and I was at the convenience store working with my friend because it was a weekend night and busy. He came in and it was the first time I ever laid eyes on him. He walked to the back to get a six pack and I leaned over and whispered to my friend "He's awesome!". I was still shy and made her ring up his beer and I was standing there just grinning at him. She pointed to me and said "This is Frances. She thinks your awesome".

I immediately turned around and stook with my back to him. I was so embarrassed. All he saw then was my back and the spikey short mullet type hairdo I had with the long braided rat tail hanging down my back. It was the 80s! He said "Hey Frances" and I didn't say anything, just stood still, beet red, and waved over my shoulder. My friend said "Why don't you take her out sometimes?" He said he would do that, and then told me bye and left. Next night he asked me out. We went to his place and drank whiskey and listened to music.

Met quite a few dates at that job, before I met him.


Wow--this makes me feel better about my awkwardness. I hope you didn't drink too much.

I got asked out on dates when I worked as a clerk too, but I didn't really think any of them were awesome....one of them took me to a lingerie party for the first date--everyone there was either dressed in pajamas, underwear, or naked...lets just say I drank a little too much that night. He wanted to see me again--but I think I was put off by the whole night. Do not take her to a lingerie party!

Another took me to a state park. It was a little boring. The moon was out, we were sitting on a bench and he turned to me, looked into my eyes and asked, "can I kiss you?"
I said "no."

Ah, memories of love's many awkward moments...

What is she interested in?

If she's really interested in you (and from what you wrote, she sounds like she might be interested in you), I'm sure that she'll have a good time wherever you take her. That's how those wonderful endorphins work.

I like the other suggestions about avoiding pressure--go somewhere where you guys can still talk and learn about each other, but where you have another activity to take the pressure off.



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14 Jul 2012, 6:48 pm

Ice cream parlor. then ask to try her ice cream. Fun. Easy. Casual.


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14 Jul 2012, 7:11 pm

You could hike to Homs, it's just round the corner. I hear it's a blast this time of year.
Or alternatively there's:
Nature watching
Dinner
Movies
The park
Cafes
Sports and activity centre
Videogame arcade
And...
Virtual world date (show her a good time in WoW :lol: )



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15 Jul 2012, 10:04 pm

bizboy1 wrote:
Take her to Costco. Dinner and a movie for under $5.00.


Your rad where talking Loner Mutant rad . :P

I sometimes wonder if I'm really on a Autism Forum :huh:

If I'm happy with a bag of potatoe chips at the park so should she :)


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