It's hard to look at attractive women. (PLEASE HELP)

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fictional material? If you're looking at porn, stop looking at it. It over-sexualizes your intentions with women and acts as a source of shyness and timidity. Its hard to talk to women you're attracted to while memories of hardcore images are being conjured up from the porn binge from the previous night. It really improved my confidence with girls to stop looking at that junk, and I recommend watching the yourbrainonporn series.

I don't know what you do in your personal time, but I know that a lot of guys habitually use internet porn. Plus if you're loathing the appearance of attractive women, at least give it up altogether where porn is concerned. You can't give up interacting with women in the real world, and severing ties to the images of fake women will be a big confidence boost with actual girls. I know from personal experience. Its a win-win.

people gave you their best advice. how about you go and try the suggestions that could work for you, or try anything at all, then report back. bumping the topic is not really an effective way to get more ideas - it just annoys people.

the above statement sounds reasonable enough.

to me, though, the problem is my emotional turmoil when in such situations. As much as a big part of me wants nothing to do with romance and relationship, there's still that annoying part of me that won't drop the subject. I'm trying to get rid of my need to fill that emotional gap. It would be nice to see anyone attractive and not feel anything.

as much as i appreciate relationship advice (and will hopefully get the chance to try it), any advice on ridding the desire altogether would be greatly appreciated.

I'm a NT, but I have a bf, but I do feel sad and a bit of a negative feeling when I'm chatting with a verrry attractive male. I feel like it's very hard to resist imagining things with him, but I stop myself because I have a boyfriend. How about talking to girl you find mildly attractive?

I met some friends to play ultimate on Friday.
We organize this online and anyone can come. This time an attractive lady that was very into sports and was new in town showed up(she called my friend to his cellphone to locate us and he was like "you are not going to believe me but I think that a girl is coming").

We played ultimate for a while and then we sat there to talk.

One of the first thing she said is that she knows a lot of males she considers friends in the city but she has no female friends.
Im sure you understand what is actually going on here and my point is that quite a few women actually like being approached and you wont know until you try to approach them.
Could she overreact to you approaching her? Yes. But heres the funny thing: some people overreact when you dont approach them as well(hey that guy has looked at me x times and he stops looking whenever I start looking at him, he is such a creep) and most importantly people of both genders are unlikely to approach you by their own will so if you want things to change you are going to have to take some risks.