Are unattractive guys often unjustly seen as rapists...

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I am female, but my stereotype of a rapist is indeed an unattractive, usually middle-aged man. In reality, most rapes happen either in incest or in dating situations.

The guy who attacked me was almost a complete social outcast and I pretty much forced my guy friends in high school to treat him like a person but most of my female friends called him "the raper" etc.

I think sometimes that label is indicative of behavior that makes women uncomfortable and not something based on being ugly or awkward.

Women have plenty of reaso. to he ccareful and I think that's why these labels exist. I went out of my way not to judge someone based on his social capital and I ended up having "the raper" break into my house and to just what his title suggests.

So it does happen unfairly, because women are often fearful, and labelling men like that is a way for us to express to others that we find something threatening about a guy.

And it's nigh impossible to refute.

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I think it goes along with the whole stereotype. Unattractive males are more often than not reserved, with few friends, etc., and when some incident gets sensationalized in the media, people are always quick to point out that the person kept to themselves, were shy, etc.

Also public opinion/rumors can play a huge part. Say an attractive woman out with her friends is approached by an unattractive man and the man asks her for a date. There are times when the women are dumb and make up crap like "oh how creepy, what a stalker." and stuff like that spreads like wildfire.

People assume good qualities in attractive people and bad qualities in ugly people. Even teachers overestimate the intelligence of pretty, slim children. This isn't a new area of judgement. Sometimes people don't like or are put off by someone, we can't make people like us and they're entitled to their opinion and to chose who they socialize with.

I think so.

Why? quite simple really.

The label rapist is used for people that make women uncomfortable by invading their personal space and or staring at them or several other things. Truth is: if she is attracted to you you can do almost all this things and act like its a joke.

If she isnt attracted to you she'll tell you that she is uncomfortable.


Same goes to men though: pretty women are let off the hook for plenty of: mind games/ neediness/ you name it and Ive seen plenty of guys breaking up with their partners for far less than that

It isn't necessarily unattractive people that are more vulnerable to persecution and prejudice attitudes towards people that didn't fit the conventional bill have always existed. If you drive a street racer car and you are a young person, the police will be more likely to pull you over. People make assumptions and stereotypes based on presentation and appearance, that's just how it is.