Albeniz, I know I said I wouldn't come back here, but seeing as I value positive input, more than negative, I opted to do so. Yes, I could have sent you a private message, but I don't see why this can't be shared with others.
I forgot to tell you something, which is a mere coincidence, but an interesting one nonetheless. It was a man like you, that changed my life. A man who (dared?) tell me I had AS. I didn't find it offensive, or harsh, or associate it with anything negative. It was life changing. It was the difference between being in the dark for so long, and knowing I was finally able to see the light. It was the start of a process where I could finally seek a professional and ask for help. Where I had access to books (Rudy's, "Aspergirls" was the first one I read, and she was one of my friends when I first discovered. Yes I contacted her and she responded).
It was the difference between being alone, and finding my planet. x