Can I get an OKCupid account review, please?

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as for my opinion on your pics...i think you should get contacts man you look a lot better with no glasses. I also think you need to start getting into shape..but that's my opinion.
I also doubt that you look as different in real life now then you did when your good pic was taken..as your pics would suggest..so i would remove the dates on the pics. It's only lying buy exclusion which isn't that big of a lie in my personal opinion. If they want to know the dates they can ask...otherwise they are probably not too engaged.

im curious his test results as well. His profile indicates he is not diagnosed with aspergers. He has also been able to hold jobs and a steady relationship with his ex.

I'm curious to know how I come across to people like this/with lower AQ test scores - do I come across as stupid/slow? In my opinion I'm not but I get impression the more NT traits a person has the more impatient they get with me as they don't relate to the autisticness as well as people with a higher AQ score do

Or is it jsut a basic personality clash unrelated to the AQ score?

I see no one's brave enough to answer lol

Last edited by nessa238 on 16 Dec 2012, 1:01 am, edited 1 time in total.

I'll have to take it again - last time it said I was "possibly an Aspie"...
I had it in my tagline for a number of months but that was 3-4 months ago. I'll take the test tomorrow - I'm insanely tired and I need to get up early to wrap presents for their visit!

Yeah I may have fairly regular employment, but they only last 1-3 years before my inability to function in a social group "properly" eventually reaches a critical mass and I'm encouraged to leave one way or another. I suppose 12 years with my ex could be considered a "success"... I'd feel more successful if she hadn't slowly developed an incurable revulsion. Not sure if it's entirely my fault, the result of a couple serious traumas in her life, or a combination of the two.

Not bad... but not great either.

Last edited by BlueMax on 16 Dec 2012, 12:33 am, edited 1 time in total.

Oks have a good sleep

thanks

Couldn't sleep until I took this version of the test with the following results:

Agree: 2,4,5,6,7,12,13,16,19,22,23,26,35,39,41,43,45,46: 1 point
Disagree: 1,10,11,15,25,27,31,32,34,36,37,38,47: 1 point
Score: 31

Not very conclusive, eh? Regarding AS, at most all I would put on my OKc page is that I'm "a little socially awkward sometimes..."

Last edited by BlueMax on 16 Dec 2012, 1:08 am, edited 1 time in total.

So how exactly do your supposed autistic traits manifest themselves then besides being a bit socially awkward on first meeting or is that it?

My highest score has been 41 - it varies over time and seems to have increased as it was
33 in 2003, the year of my diagnosis

Just to add that my post above wasn't a nitpick at BlueMax's self-diagnosis. It's just that there's a lot of negativity and criticism surrounding self-diagnosis (outside of WP) and proclaiming in your OKC profile to have something you're not officially diagnosed with might do more harm than good to your chances.

I suppose you could the take traits of AS you have and spin them to look like characteristics of your personality (eg. intensely focused, logically minded, socially reserved). Any people in the know about AS might just see your profile and wonder if you have it. It leaves it open-ended and makes them curious to find out.

Please try to be nice to each other people.

I mean this isnt even a nice guys/what do women want thread, do we need to argue so much ?

Just a personal opinion but I'd delete the first photo. From limited experience of OKCupid I know if you do a search for people it brings up a list with the photo and a snippet of one of their answers. Based on this you decide if you are going to click through and look at their other photos and full profile. I wouldn't click through on that photo; the clothes, hairstyle and picture quality mean that you can see it is obviously dated and I'd make me think you were potentially being dishonest about your current looks or age which is very off putting, especially when you're just one in a long list of people. Other than that I thought your profile was good, I doubt anyone would be put off by your username regardless of whether they knew what it was. Good luck!

I agree about the contacts. You do look really nice without glasses, but I think the glasses suit you and the personality type you have... somehow. I also think that losing a little weight would be good, if possible. Maybe workout once or twice a week? Even a couple hours would help. Easier said than done, however. As for your pictures, I think that you should use more recent photos, probably without glasses in them. You should add a lot more to the about you. I feel like you didn't add enough, but that's just my opinion. Also, in regard to your children being in one of your pictures, I think that it's a good idea, personally. Women might see that you're a "family" man through these pictures; I don't see much harm from keeping it on your profile. It's not like you can hide the fact that you have children, and I don't see why you'd want to. I think the picture with them is adorable, lol.