billiscool wrote:
now be honest. Are we aspie men just bad with women (or in some cases bad with selective group of women)
or are women just bad with us.
maybe women just don't know how to talk aspie men.
maybe women are just not use to us men with aspie or autism.
it could go both way but all answers are welcome.
I ask myself this all the time ''how I know it not just us aspie men with the problem, maybe were the one's with the problem,
maybe we are just too crazy for women but then I ask well, maybe it women. Maybe we are all right, but the women are the one's
with problem, maybe their the one, who don't know how to talk to us.''
Even if it's the women's 'problem' it's still your problem overall and you are the one who has to change to accommodate it as you can't force others to change.
Are you going to walk up to these women and say 'Well it's not my fault I get treated badly by you;
you're the one with the problem!' - are they likely to say 'You're totally correct Bill I have a problem and need to change!'? People are not put on this planet to accommodate you basically. You seem to have the mindset that they are and that everyone else must change but not you. Life does not work like that. Whoever is causing the 'problem', it's still you who has to deal with it. Other people are not responsible for making you happy. You need to start taking a lot more responsibility for your own actions and develop a hell of a lot more self awareness.
it's fine to like yourself and think you have a lot to offer but if another person doesn't think the same you have to either change yourself to make yourself more acceptable to them or just accept they don't like you/aren't keen on you and move on. To expect them to change their opinion of you just because you want them to is completely unrealistic. This is basic stuff and until you can understand and put this into practice I feel you'll continue to go round in circles.
25 Feb 2013, 6:09 pm
