A simple idea to help move on more smoothly:

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I have AS, I don't how how I "come across" most of the time

Sounds like "I know now that I know nothing"? Socrates' dying words.

Sigh. I so need a Get-A-Grip friend IRL. This is totally true. I've been allowing him to hang around and have his ego stroked and that does me no good at all. Thank you!

You are more than welcome.
I was hoping this wouldn't upset you. Trust me I know where this was headed. And so I felt the need to put it out there for you.

No worries I really appreciate it.

it really does hurt

What hurts?

having to move on constantly.

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Yes, it does...but we have to move on if we're going to find the right one. And we'll never find the right one if stay in the same place. I just wish sometimes it would hurry up and happen.

My heart has never hurt so much. It feels like it's a physical hurt sometimes.

I think I suffer a hell of a lot, because I don't understand my emotional issues. I need things to be cogent, and emotions are aren't.

It's always been easy to "not feel" or at least curb the feelings. I never really felt connected to my family, or any friends, at least not at the level or intensity I feel towards this man, and certainly had the ability to "switch off". It's almost as if the power button on the cerebral matter is damaged.

If only I knew the "why", I could deal with the "how".

I'm confused

I thought you were with a person with Aspergers when you posted before, hence the ilovemyAspie user name

Have you split up recently?

I thought IlovemyAspie was with an Aspie too. I thought she was happy. A really positive NT role model. Don't like to think of her suffering

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It's always been easy to "not feel" or at least curb the feelings. I never really felt connected to my family, or any friends, at least not at the level or intensity I feel towards this man, and certainly had the ability to "switch off". It's almost as if the power button on the cerebral matter is damaged.

Know exactly what you mean. I'm thinking that's love.

Awww!

It's a long story and complicated. But long story short I love my Aspie-guy. Hence the name. I was in love with him but he told me he didn't function in relationships...I moved on to someone else who seriously broke my heart-hence the hurting. I still love my Aspie and we are still friends. Throw in the fact that during all of this I was married and on the verge of divorce (should be final in July) and it's been wild. He says he doesn't function in relationships and that he probably will never be ready for one. He said he's fine the way he is. Since I filed for divorce, we have been spending a little more time together but still as friends. Deep inside I wished that he miraculously be ready for a relationship but I have to constantly remind myself that this will probably never happen. For a while there I think he really tried...but I think it may have exhausted him. But a lot of me likes to think that it was because I hadn't filed for divorce and he was scared I might decide to stay. That's me in a nutshell. I've seen a lot of NT's come and go in the past year. I'm here to stay. I love it here. Thanks for the love!!

So you were married, tried to get together with the aspie who wasn't emotionally available and then saw someone else?

Did all this cause the end of your marriage or was it already effectively over before the stuff with the aspie/other person started?

Marriage was OVER. I can't stress that enough. I actually had a crush on the Aspie for a while but I burried those feelings because I was still working on my marriage. Once it was over and just needed to be officially over I allowed myself to entertain my feelings for him. I think the moving on was a "rebound" thing because my heart was still with my Aspie. But I moved on because I figured I had no choice. I almost fell in love with the new guy but my heart was always with my Aspie....