Why do girls hate shy guys?

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Women don't always reject shy guys.
If you are shy, learn some social skills, but also learn to use your shyness to your advantage.

The two shiest guys in my group are also the two who are probably the most appealing.
(and before anyone asks, no they are not the most handsome, tallest, or most muscular - it's their personalities that make them appealing)
One of them is now dating my aspie friend.

Before with what you wrote, you wrote factors that *wouldn't* affect you negatively, and many where simply physical... you never actually mentioned any true positives about who you are as a person, your general character, your hobbies, what you love, what you're doing with your life, etc.

it is never a good idea to diminish someone's self esteem especially when you know nothing about them, and are just some little kid on a message forum with autism.

noone can break my self esteem ive had many try in my life...im just as conceited as eveer

But men also reject women,just because you are female it does not mean you will have a date on Friday.

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking.
It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love others as you would have them love you. All you need is Love.

but liz, the diff is, being a girl allows you to get hit on more than men..and let's face it, even if your marriage wasnt a good one, you still got married, had sex, led a normal life. many guys here havent even kissed a girl. girl's have the advantage.

Women may have it easier than men, but women are usually nicer than men, as well.

It's all in the attitude.

And I thought you weren't answering?
Anyway, It's been almost a year since I first noticed you. I may not know much, but I know enough and I'll trust my judgment on that one. And we'll agree on something; as of now I consider you officially hopeless, and I won't try to do that again. But I still wonder, why do you post on WP?

no I like moderate autism women. I've dated two,and had sex with one.

I don't think my marriage counts as a success story,and it was not a normal life.I'm glad i have my two kids,but most of it sucked.I would not go down the same path.You should channel your energy into something creative.Sex is awesome,I won't lie about that.And girls also have all the disadvantages,getting used for sex,getting pregnant,the slut/stud double standard,etc..

Autistic women - just like their non-Autistic counterparts - are each one different from the other in some way.

Before we were married, I told my wife that I am not a romantic person (this was before I even knew what AS was). She is a very romantic person. I think that we've somehow met in the middle.

It may have helped that in her native culture, women are expected to do two things: (1) Support their husbands in every way, and (2) Don't take any of their husbands' BS.

Love and respect flow both ways.

wait,I like autism girl.the last autism girl I dated,I loved very much. Im just saying,I don't think any sane nt women
would ever date me because Im a moderate autism man.

sorry if there a misunderstanding

This, in its very structure is a hateful statement... women... no qualifier... your statement, by it's wording means ALL women... period... that is what you said. You don't point out that men are just as guilty... you don't single out a type of women... you just say women... And if that is not what you meant... then it is NOT our fault for YOU not posting what you meant... it falls upon you as the communicator to communicate your intent as PRECISELY as possible...



I'm not going call you on this except to say... I saw the post that got deleted...

FOR THE RECORD... In just this thread...

This is negative...


You have stated with this post that women are inherently shallow and slaves to their hormones.


Dismissive to an entire class of people... relegating people who tend to have a higher incidence of sensory issues, OCD and andxiety disorders as comorbid conditions...


Relegating the social role of women to ... their genitalia... nothing more...


Negative and insulting...


No. He called you a misogynist based on the rest of your commentary AND the deleted comment. As a feminist (WHO IS MALE), This is how you have come across to me... and the NTs in my house.


You did... at this point call OOM scum... There is no way that this is NOT negative... unless of course you meant that in the nicest possible way.


and this was completely complimentary, I am sure.


Insulting someone's education isn't negative?


Another blanket statement about women... Which... again... is very disrespectful...


Again, reducing women to their genitalia... and a racial slur.


just... really???


Again, insulting... and for the record... that is never the case... it comes from attitude... I promise you.

Now... this was all of the insulting comments in this thread up to the point that I joined the conversation that I found in a simple glance... If you really believe that your intent was not to be insulting, you may want to revamp your language toolkit... however, it does not seem to be the case... especially with commentary like "I come to this forum bc im too nice in real life and never say what itruly want."... Where you tell us you have restraint in real life and then come here to release your vitriol.

That being said... I did not write this post to initiate a witch hunt (you seem to be able to do this on your own)... I wrote it in the (vain) hope that you will see how you come across and will take the steps to correct it... The people here can be your greatest allies... an ear to listen, friends, confidants and sounding boards to test concepts and ideas... or... we can just ignore you... really, the choice is yours to make.

I am done on this topic.

Isn't it amazing how a common cause can bring so many disparate people together and unite their efforts, if not their spirits?

what sane nt women would ever date a semi-special autism guy. very,very,very,very few,if that.
but I can and have dated autism women(yes,I like autism women)

Quite... Though...I am ashamed of you... *wink*you did not yell at any of these people for going off topic

Autistic women can be nice; sometimes more sincerely nice than NT women.

You have great potential. Keep trying, and try to not let the disappointments bother you. Eventually, you will find the right woman for you.