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You noob civilization, drinking coffee originated from us (Middle East), your American stomach would be devastated by drinking our strong stuff.

You can't deny that most of what feenie is saying isn't true.

I'm aware of this of course. My perspective did not materialize out of thin air. My mom raised me to be a gentleman. But women these days are not like her or the other women in her village back home in her day because the environment they live in today has allowed their hypergamous impulses to run wild. I have swallowed the red pill years ago and noticed how transactional and meaningless human social relationships really are. Over the years I've also lost the desire to have children. Being a mom was central to my mom's identity so I don't think I could even be with a woman who had her world view. Even though deep down on a subconscious level, the primal part of my brain does want to get a cute, sweet girl pregnant and have lots of kids. But my logical-rational brain is saying "NO!" It doesn't seem like a good deal for me. Practically everyone I see who is married with children is miserable. They just like to say that they are life is fabulous. When in fact it is very, very stressful.

I like to think of Aspies like us as having brains with a more evolved logical-rational component. But we still have that primal reptilian brain like any other human. This is why I can say all of these things on here that will piss women off. But then lose myself in a romantic and/or sexual moment with a woman. That desire for kissing, cuddling, hand holding, physical and emotional affections and sex is never going to go away. The subconscious drive to reproduce and nest (ie. cuddle) with the mother of your children and your children is very strong. That girl would hate my guts if she could read my mind. But whenever I romance a woman and make love to her, that is real. That's not fake. That's always going to be a part of me. Because that's what that reptilian brain wants. I can go on a rant about how women suck. And then make love to one. I know that appears weird. lol. I guess it depends on what part of my brain is activated at the moment.

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Wait, I thought you agreed with him?

Translation: "I refuse to respect a woman with a mind of her own."

Not everything he's saying is wrong but he's way twisted - this feeling of entitlement for sex is beyond mentally unhealthy.

Yet I did know an obese girl "M." who was exactly like feenie's buddy, she was used to only want six packy guys and mocked small guys' shortness in front of me - while I am as short as them and it did bother me.

She had been a kinda close buddy with 2 other girls, I tolerated her shallowness tho as 'meh' and they were only a couple of times I guess - regardless of this bad habit, she was fun to be around plus we were a group and I didn't want to jeopardize my friendship with the others.
However, later she became much more mean when she lost a LOT of weight after fat surgery, she started barely saluting me and treated me so coldly (ie. passing by me without saying hello), I've even found out she removed me of her fb so I've blocked her and never saw to her again ever since.

I did wonder why this change and I thought it was just me, but just a week ago I've met her (former) friend and she asked me if I am still in contact with M., I've answered honestly what happened and I was like "not only her shape changed, but her behavior too", the girl nodded in agreement and she said that's exactly why she's not longer talking to her, "apparently, she has a feeling of revenge against all fit people" she said.

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I don't think it's a case of what part of your brain is active when it comes to women. There's only one organ at work and it's not your brain.

The thing is, you say you are a gentleman, you make it out like you revere traditional values from your mother's generation yet you aren't willing to demonstrate to anyone that you have any traditional values of your own or that you are gentle and a man in any way. You are rude, don't think before you speak, you have little or no respect for family values and you have no respect or interest in other peoples' personalities.

You avoid accountability for your own issues and shift that blame onto every other person. You reduce women to straw puppets in a debate in order for you to win a very feeble argument backed by nothing logical. You've not had much experience yet you are basing your argument on experience you'd presume you'd have before you've even had it. I could go on but I think you'd get my point. I don't want this to be any more of a personal comment than it already is.

It has to be said that, you can't expect people to treat you or think of you as a nice guy or gentleman if you show zero of those qualities and you let this mindset of yours continue to devour your very existence.

She doesn't sound like a very nice person at all.

what do you consider to be 'giving'. Recently I have come across the idea that, as female, I am expected to 'receive' and being 'receptive' is then seen as being giving.

I am having a tremendous difficulty with this topic on a practical level, however intellectually, I can see why it would make sense. I'm just not at all comfortable with this part of being a receptacle.

What I meant that I only agree with one part in feenie's posts: That some fat girls feel they deserve the sexiest men ever while they belittle the non so attractive guys, I've seen few cases - but it's all due to messed up mind and bitterness against the world, like the case of "M.", so I do not envy those people.

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I define giving as initiating contact some of the time, starting conversations I view as important, showing support when necessary, and letting the other person know when I need it. After all, nobody is a mind reader.

I would not be comfortable being a receptacle. That's taking and not giving to me. As I said, I have difficulty with the giving aspect of the equation, but this is due mostly to the fact that I am seriously absent minded, and often get wrapped up in my own things. I just forget that others need more interaction, reassurance, and support than I do.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_coffee

I have experienced this as well, but I did not agree with feenie on this point simply because he seemed intent on pinning these qualities on all overweight women.

Then, of course, there was his "I compliment the ugly girls 'cause they're insecure." comment, which assumed if he thought she was ugly then she was insecure.

Boo, the coffee comment was a joke. I'm actually quite knowledgeable on the subject.

I still don't get where feenie states that he is entitled to sex from any woman nor do I see how feenie telling the truth is disrespectful.