kirayng wrote:
My husband and I are both on the spectrum and we have been together going on 14 years now. So, I can offer this: We have made it up as we went along and keep doing so. We talk, a LOT, but it took probably 10 years to get to the point we're at now with communicating. I would say our biggest challenge has been, and always will be, communicating. On one hand, we are so alike and understand each other at a very deep level, then on the other hand we do get frustrated with our "Aspie-ness" getting in the way of more intimacy.
I think there aren't a lot of relationship books for AS/AS because we just figure it out as we go along, as with everything else (because no one sits us down and explains every matter of the heart, and even if they did, we'd need experience to make their advice meaningful).
I'd like to write one, actually. Do you think there is a real need for these books? How about everyone else on the site? Would you like to read a book about AS/AS relationships?
Funny enough, my boyfriend and I talk almost incessantly, we actually communicate impeccably, and we make almost no attempts at hiding our quirky around each other because, there really is no need for it. We truly do "get" each other, in every sense. Which is something that, before finding each other, we had never known.
At the same time though it really is uncharted waters, sure, we get along very well, but it's still nice to have a resource.
If you'd be interested in writing a book, I actually think that it could be a very helpful resource for many, not only in a purely informative context but also in a practical context.
I humbly offer any help lol.
24 Mar 2014, 2:19 pm
