My Crush

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So I met this guy in July 2013 and after a long conversation with him about our interest in History it was time to go home, I asked him for his Facebook details and we exchanged them.

I didn't know him that well then but the more I chatted to him on Facebook the better I got to know him. We had more in common than a love of History, I told him about my ASD diagnosis one day after I told him I'd had a rough day at school because idiots had been calling me "ret*d" again. He was so understanding and accepting of my disability and he told me how much he hated Autism.

On my 16th birthday he sent me a message with birthday wishes and that just made my birthday a hundred times better. Not long after I realised he was more than a friend because I had developed a crush on him.

I confessed my feelings to him in September 2014 and he was like "well that's very sweet of you". I hintingly asked him if he had feelings for me but the answer was no. I may never see him in real life again and if he gets a girlfriend I'm going to find it hard to not get jealous. I mean I'd be so happy for him if he did but I've become obsessed with the idea of going out with them.

He doesn't always reply to my Facebook messages straightaway and he hasn't replied lately. My biggest fear is that I've annoyed him. My biggest nightmare would be if he never ever replied to my message, even worse if he unfriended me. I had a nightmare where he unfriended me the other night.

I also try not to get jealous of him. Because he has higher chances of going to Uni than me. He was vegetarian for a short time and I nearly went veggie PARTLY because of him.

I don't feel comfortable talking about this with anyone I know personally. Does anyone have any advice on how I could stop being so obsessed with him?

Well, the good news is that you're aware that the feelings aren't reciprocated, and wish to take reasonable action.

Now how do you break autistic obsession, especially in teen years?


Honestly, i'm tempted to recommend that you jump on the nearest, vaguely attractive dude your age. No, you don't have to have sex with him.

From what i've seen, and experienced, these feelings last longer than in the general population by a fair margin. I'm really not sure on this, however.

Four months is rough.

I tend to run about six, myself. This is why i recommend it. Obviously, there are drawbacks. Like, it could be habit forming.
I don't think there's many other solutions that work reliably.

I took extra shifts at work, once. That actually seemed to work. Maybe a part-time job if it doesn't interfere with school.


I wonder if i'll get eaten alive for this post O.o

Well, the only other realistic option is to get obsessive about something else.

Or, um, i don't know. Wait longer.

I like the first idea.


If it makes you feel better, (which is something i say alot on this board) it's normal to get pre-attached to someone before it's a "good idea" to do so.

I think this picture will explain: