Afraid of being alone forever?

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car died today so now the one thing I had good for me is gone, Now I don't meet any of their requirements and wont' be able to find work :'(

not many good ones and they get married early and fast. I've been rejected based solely on lacking past relationships.

But Sly, who says she says she has to be the age as you? If all single girls are younger than you, can you not date a girl younger than you? Two years ago I dated a nineteen year old. Are you saying you wouldn't?

thats a big age gap, people consider guys who do that creeps or craddle robbers. I imagine the women would find it creepy as well, but most I've been on dates with were around 20ish

always wanted to date older since women live longer than men.

Where do you think some of the women your age you want to date are? Dating older men. I wish everyone would just stick to their own age range so there isn't this offset that forces older guys to have to look at younger women.

Maybe it's because, even though women live longer, the age which women can no longer bare children is younger than the age at which men can no longer conceive them.

Anyway, I don't think dating a girl who is five or six years younger is that bad. Maybe that's becaus. I look younger than I am. People who meet me often think I'm in my early twenties.

perhaps has ben a bunch of "I'm 28 you have to be 29-36" don't really get that but perhaps they looking a provider, which might explain rest of ad.

i'd think the whole wanting man older than you would start to lose its appeal when the guy is 10 years older.

18/19 to 27 is a 8-9 year gap. almost different generations. I feel worried they won't be mature enough and only into games.

Sly, I get that you don't like girls who are younger than you but you said the good ones marry early and fast so it might be that you have no choice but to be with a girl who's in her late teens or early twenties.

You're 26, Sly. It's not like you're robbing the cradle if you go out with a 19-year-old.

It would be perfectly legal FOR ME to go out with a 19-year-old.

I doubt that this would happen--but if I happen to fall in love with a person of that age, I just might go for it.

My biggest concern about lack of experience in relationships is that I would be embarrassed to start a relationship with somebody who has a lot more experience than me. Since I'm almost 24 and nobody has ever been mutually interested in me (of the gender I'm attracted to, anyway - I had a pointless boyfriend for three weeks once, but it turns out I'm not straight, so that didn't get me anywhere and I tend to not count him,) I'm probably not going to find many people my age in the same situation, and I don't particularly want to date somebody who just got out of high school (I don't really care if other people might be okay with it, that doesn't sound appealing to me, personally.)

My Fiance is 9 years younger than I am (currently 8 until my next birthday) and shes more mature than I am. We met at University on an English degree. I had been in relationships quite a lot when I was younger but by this point had given up on the idea of a family because I was on drugs most of the time and had only worked a few years. I've got SADs, narcissism, aspergers, pathological demand avoidance anxiety disorder and am classed as a sociopath. Honestly I was not afraid of being alone I fully expected and accepted it. But for whatever reason we just clicked, shes quite headstrong and actually proposed to me. Since then we've moved in together and have a child just recently.

Fact is that even if you don't look for love, love can unexpectedly find you. Just going with the flow in life often turns out ok, its the dandy way.

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100 percent agree: "going with the flow" is the best way to find love.

Indeed, but I dare say that if most people here could just "go with the flow", then they wouldn't be here to begin with.

No offense meant btw, I'm one of those people.

didn't say don't like. probably have more in common and would likely get along better with them, though my last year in high school i noticed the incoming freshman were way more disrespectful than we were. I don't tend to prejudge people though. doesn't matter though as most 19 year olds say that 24 is their limit.

I tend to be silly and playful when I'm happy not something i see to often anymore but still. women in their 20s are more likely to have such personalities unkilled by society yet. as such personality is sadly not seen as ok in adults by society.




27 in less then two weeks
i don't get that if a 20 year old has sex with a 17 year old it said to be robbing the cradle but yet a larger age difference isn't? though I have still heard anything over 5 year age difference said to be such at least if the younger one is a woman. oddly its seen as ok if the older one is male. o.O

probably only a 10% chance of finding someone if not looking, thats if one is out and about. if you spend all your time at home then is 0.000001% chance. so if one is socially out going and active I could see the doing nothing strat working, but for others like me it can't work.

I see. So your problem can be defined as, all 19 year old girls think you're too old and all older girls have already paired up. What about a girl your age isn't currently paired up. No matter if she has exes. That's how it is with my girlfriend. I'm boyfriend number six.

If you think that a mid-twenties woman would find it burdensome to deal with a guy who's never been in a relationship, you're right. Some women would be willing to deal with that and some wouldn't. Even those who would count it as a burden. That's what we said to me when we had a fight about something unrelated.

Anyway, don't think that being in a relationship will make your life easier. It's a challenge. Even something as simple as buying groceries seems like a challenge to deal with different cooking styles. Being cooked for requires planning and forethought. Trying to decide whether or not to stay in your apartment when she wants a bigger place. Can I find a place on short notice or should I wait a few months to get a cheaper place? Can I break my lease?

Having zero privacy. Sleeping with someone who doesn't quite stay still through the night (and no one does)... and we're in a heatwave now. Trying to keep her entertained. It made me realize that I usually spend my free time boringly. I have hundreds of games and blurays yet instead I usually browse the web. Trying to find a co-op game we both like. She's a long-time gamer but we haven't played the same games. Funny, since I always thought it would be great to have a live-in player 2 for co-op games. Hopefully we can get her PC fixed because she doesn't like console controls, rendering my two Xbox 360 LAN setup useless.

Just remember, all people are flawed and you must not only accept her flaws but make her believe you accept them. That's what we had a fight about. I said something I shouldn't have and she said if I think she's so flawed I might as well find another girl. It took all my powers of rhetoric to convince her to stay with me. Never before have I been called perfect as an insult. I'm far from perfect but people tend to focus on their own flaws. I guess that means I shouldn't remind her of them. She said she already knew but it's worse to hear them from someone else. So that's another challenge. Realizing you might accidentally hurt someone.

She's still a bit colder towards me. I don't blame her. I'm a bit colder towards her because since our fight I've kind of been treating her with kid gloves. That's probably not a good thing for me to do though.

So while a relationship is not without rewards that doesn't make it without challenges. It's a challenge to balance work, night classes and a relationship. Even though she's offered to do most of the housework and cooking, it will still be a challenge for me to get my house into something she considers livable, instead of the stereotypical bachelor pad it still is.

Ahhhh....such is life. Wifey got upset because I used 2 steel pans instead of one to cook the ham.

Is it over 40 degrees where you are right now? Here, it's going down to about zero Fahrenheit, minus 18 Celsius! Do you have AC?

Sly: forget those damned statistics! You'll get someone!