Afraid of being alone forever?

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Nah.

It's a million times worst when people leave, and they always do.

Don't worry, nobody here will be alone forever.

The reaper will come for you eventually.

ur 789 years old!

What the hell do you know about death?

- he's a longtime fan of Keith Richards

- plays pinochle with banshees on Thursdays

- bakes the most delicious brown bread muffins ever

- on Tuesdays, visits Sisyphus and they sing duets together

- he's self-conscious about his bony legs and wears a robe to cover them

I get angry when men act like they are physically attracted to me if they don't already know me on one level or another. I find it leery and creepy. If someone starts giving off those flirty signs during a conversation or after some kind of contact has been made that's perfectly fine with me, even though it often makes me feel a bit uncomfortable as I'm not interested in a relationship. I don't like being thought of as attractive or getting attention based solely on my looks.

To the OP I wish I had some advice. I spent the better part of my younger years wishing someone would love me to the point of perseveration. I bought into the idea that we had to have a relationship to be happy, that 'someday your prince will come' and all that other Cinderella style stuff, and the family that raised me was quite traditional and really laid it on thick that, for women, success meant having a successful family life. Bit nauseating to me now, all of that, but it is what it is.

I have found the more assured I am in myself and the more I focus on my goals and not my looks, the more I have in common with others, and the more they seem to be interested in me. The irony for me is I have no interest at all in romantic relationships anymore.

RetroGamer87

everything is like that. I love shooting guns, but then I have to clean them afterwards(which is relaxing but only for like the first two) and theres this every around chance that they could blow up in my face if things go wrong or a machine at a factory put a round together slightly wrong.

everything has its ups and downs. I know this. I also know the ups of a relationship will outweigh the downs. as is I already do all the downs with roommates but don't get any of the ups a relationship brings.

kraftiekortie

seems impossible now. I'm trapped in my room 24/7 now that my car died, I can go work, I can't go look for work, I can't get food except for once and a while when my sister goes out and lets me come. and the gym probably is months away from being finished.

i have a feeling (well some of the nerdy ones anyway) the guys you're talking to (OP) are autistic as well and thus can't tell you're interested.

The ones I talk to online know I'm interested and they seem to really like me.

At least you don't have to share a bed with them. That's something I'm still getting used too. I can hardly roll over in the night without elbowing her in the head.[quote="sly279"]Gym? Are you building a home gym or are they building a gym nearby?

The name of this thread. That was the topic of conversation between my and gf yesterday. She asked why I couldn't get a better girl than her. She said I only with her because I thought I couldn't do better than her and I was afraid of being alone forever.

I didn't deny it. She didn't like that. She said I'd be better off leaving her to find a prettier girl. For a while I thought about it. I didn't tell her of course. She's very plain looking. I can get used to it but I was worried my friends and family would mock me for being with her. They might think I only went with plane jane becuase I was desperate.

Or worse, due to her lazy eye sometimes looking off to the side and the way she talks very softly they might think she has some kind of cognitive impairment. My family would really shun me if they thought that. It's not that I value her worth by her appearance, it's more like I value my worth by what people think of me. Maybe I can get to speak more clearly if I can improve her self-esteem.

She has zero self-esteem. I suspect this may be chiefly due to her extremely controlling family though her exes might have something to do with it as well. She has suffers from depression and when her first bf dumped her she attempted suicide. Oddly enough he was an aspie too.

She has trouble saying no. She thinks it's normal to wait on me whilst I sit on the couch. On several of our dates she offered to pay for both of us. I wonder if I can make her less self-sacrificing and increase her sense of self-worth.

Using myself as an example, the way I improved my self-esteem was to improve myself. I know some people say you the secret of happiness is to accept yourself as you are but I only felt better after I made radical changes to my appearance and lifestyle. Instead of accepting the things about me I didn't like I eliminated them.

I thought I could do the same for her. She obsesses about dieting but when I tried to coach her in this I had her sobbing. I must use more subtle methods of encouragement. She usually offers me about two thirds of her meals so I eat them, even when I already feel really full. Her hair lacked volume so I bought her a high-end blow drier, which she seemed to like. I'm wondering if there's surgery to tighten up the muscles in her right eye.

I want to stay with her because I find it hard to imagine I could be that comfortable around another girl. Though our commutation isn't always great because she's more of a visual thinker. Still, it's fun having her around every weekend. She likes sick comedies such as the Dictator and doesn't mind if I play Sonic the Hedgehog while making out. She got mad when she found out I have more shoes than her. She wants to move in soon which has me worried since it seems like a really big commitment.

She wants to find a job. I think that's a great idea and it would to much to improve her self-esteem but I'm not quite sure how to help with this since none of my jobs ever came through conventional channels.

How did you come up with GoofyGoobers anyway? That name is so Yankee! You seem delightful. I think you'll find someone suitable soon.

RetroGamer: you're too honest LOL. But you seems to enjoy her company. Why not increase your respective self-esteems by continuing with her. Who cares what your family thinks?

How can you be alone forever when we have a limited lifespan?

Why do you want to get married? Is it because that is "normal?"

Pizza is considered normal--but that's not why I like it

I bet Goober would love to see her little Goobers running around.

you're likely get use to it. I crave cuddling to sleep. i admit the nights that one girl was here I kept waking up through out the night. I think its just being use to sleeping alone for 20 plus years. building it down next to the grocery store out in my area.

kraftiekortie

her name is likely from a show called sponge bob square pants, in the show theres a kids restaurant they go to called goofygoobers



why not date them then?

It'd sure be nice to actually have someone waiting for me whenever I close the laptop

My username is a reference to the first Spongebob movie. Spongebob and Patrick in the movie loved this Chuck E Cheese type place with a singing peanut. They also loved this goofy goober song that's pretty silly.