Date other undateable people if you’re undateable?

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Right? Except, since you’re undateable, it’s never gonna work.

Yep, so my plan is to work on one important good quality, such as physique, and date the almost-undateable.

The most un-dateable people are either dead, comatose, insane, in prison, or just plain homeless.

Now there is a thought! Why don't all of you Nice Guys who complain that you can't get a date go down to a homeless shelter, pick a female resident at random, and ask her for a date?

Tell us how it goes!

Unless you end up Brad Pitt hot after fixing your physique, it's pretty unlikely girls will be throwing themselves at you simply because you're so damn good looking.

^ What are you thinking? I'm a dateless virgin looking to increase my dating chances.
Looking less like a scarecrow WILL help.

If my plan doesn't work there's still the homeless shelter.

Please reply, Pineapplejuicex.

I like pineapple juice.

The best way to make yourself datable is to take a shower at least three times a week, use deodorant, and wear decent clothes that fit decently. Also: listen to what the other person has to say.

There are very few people who are actually "undateable."

Uhh ... this isn't a radio comm link.

I've never posted a pic of myself*, yet she thinks I'm trying to become attractive to everyone.
It pisses me off that she makes assumptions like that.
My looks are not normal like the average dude. I look like an undernourished teenager.
And I can tell everyone has better physique than me, and additional attractive attributes.
I have none of these.
Being constantly addressed in the kid from of "you" by store clerks and dismissed by strangers tells me all I need to know.
I'd be glad to at least be recognized as a guy in his 20s by my looks.

I would of done that if I had a way to get there. I would of volunteered but there weren't any in my rural town & having to rely on my parents to bring me sense I couldn't drive due to bad vision would of been a pain sense they both worked at the time.

I never thought I was undetectable thou. I knew I had good qualities but I just couldn't get others to notice them offline & be attracted to them. My girlfriend was really surprised I was single when she read my pots on here despite the fact I talked about my disabilities & other issues alot. She has disabilities & issues of her own & I try my very best to be as supportive as I can. I don't think she's undetectable either but like me she probably doesn't look good to most others until you look past her things & get to know her. I know neither of us is perfect but I think we're as perfect for each other as a couple can be.

How so?



I'm not entirely sure that question is for me, because I've never claimed to be a "nice guy", and much less that anyone should date me, but the main reason I don't do that is that I don't dare to. The only way I may get to know such a place is by ending up homeless myself, and, at that point, I'll be as good as dead.

Since dating is basically about proving you have whatever it takes to successfully fight for survival and care for your real or hypothetical offspring, I think there's something far more invalidating than being insane, in prison or homeless: having spent all your life in an artificially protected environment you didn't earn, having reached adulthood (physically, anyway) completely oblivious to how much people worthy of any respect have to fight in life, and not knowing what to do when you finally realize how extremely spoiled and unprepared to survive in the real world you are. I suppose you can call it cowardice.

I'm pretty sure there are a lot of female convicts and homeless women I'd like to lie down and cuddle with, even if that were all we did, especially if they told me something about their lives so I could learn a thing or two. Then again, I'd have absolutely nothing for them in return; at least, nothing they couldn't find in someone else. And, if they or someone else present decided to stab me to death, I can't say I wouldn't deserve it.

Well, and, not long ago, in addition to this, I had a similar problem to what nick007 said: I'd have to depend on my parents to go to the homeless shelter.

I've been thinking.
Now, I'm not saying that the homeless don't need any lovin', but can anyone relate with me being kind of disturbed by this post Fnord has made?

I lived in a homeless shelter for 3 months quite recently and I'm on disability for mental health reasons, ie: I'm insane. I did try dating someone who thinks of themselves as undateable after many, many attempts, who is on the spectrum. I'm still reeling from the aftermath.

My exes' never-ending sense of guilt, I think, played a big role in our demise Spiderpig. We both have unknowingly low self-esteem when it comes to factors involved in relationships. I mean, you're going to get out what you put in. If you think 'I'm not worth it, no one could see anything in me', even if you DID find someone to date you, you'd constantly be questioning them, wondering why they would like you, etc, and that fear and uncertainty would come across in all your interactions.

I've read of some people who actually lose respect for people who like them because their own sense of self-worth is so low that they think the other person has something wrong with them for liking someone so worthless.

Self-worth is just perception, meaning it's not true or false but a self-made judgement.

And we're all highly, highly unique. Taking the sum of you, you don't have what anyone else has to offer actually.

You need to eat before you can worry about love. And, if you're really hungry, and the only food you can get is the meat of some pathetic fool approaching you in an attempt to be less lonely, you tend to have no qualms about butchering him.

PS -- This was a reply to Earthling's post.

Post a picture of yourself. There have been numerous members who insisted they were the ugliest, most repulsive looking person ever... all of whom turned out to be perfectly normal looking. It's quite possible you aren't nearly as horrible looking as you think you are.

Work out, get fitter, there's no downside... but it's not a magical cure-all for getting dressed. It might help, it can't hurt .

Thanks for your reply, Pineapplejuicex.
I don't feel comfortable with posting a picture of myself, I'm afraid you will just have to take my word for being unattractive.

I was in a confrontational mood yesterday, I overreacted and imagined things into your post which weren't there. I apologize for that.