Why is everyone so obsessed with serious relationships?

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I could never date a guy I couldn't see myself marrying. Dating is an investment, and I don't want to waste romantic energy on someone I could never commit to for a lifetime.

I really don't get the obsession with marriage.

Commitment is a different matter from marriage.

Although I don't want kids, I have a cousin who has been happily not married with kids for years. There is no magic to the success of a relationship or family. Marriage is just symbolism not the actual intention.

I don't have problem with cultural marriage, if that is what people want.

Legal marriage, I'm against broadly speaking.

You're 28, so I understand why you want something more serious. I'm only 19 so I don't.

Granted that it's unlikely that most relationships will eventually fail. However, my policy would still be to treat every relationship as serious even if I know that it probably won't last forever.

I say we give the OP our full blessings and support. They may find that the relationship bug will strike anyway. It often does, especially when we are not looking for it.

My guess to your thread question, because everyone needs to give meaning to their life and to life and to why we are here, even though you'd be surprised how many people aren't conscious of that.

And for many people it is that. But I believe deep meaningful relationships are good, whatever else your meaning is.

I doubt anyone would actually fall in love with me as I am at this moment. I can only imagine people falling in love with me when I'm in my mid-late twenties.

Yeah, I don't think many people within our age bracket are overly concerned with finding 'the one'. I think most of us just want to forge a romantic connection and take things as they come with that. I don't think many people who get together now presume they'll be together forever, though it wouldn't be a bad thing if they were.

What do you think is going to change by then?

lost generation (that's humor).

I think it depends on people individually.

I don't think it's got as much to do with generation as it does with our age, but generation probably does come into play too.

Yes, what people are looking for is going to differ, but from what I've seen, most people in my age bracket are looking for a relationship of sorts, but not necessarily 'the one'. I haven't met all that many people who are only looking for hook-ups, or who are looking for the person they're going to marry.

Just stick with the program you have laid out and in all likelihood, you will not need to imagine anymore!

Like a trend. I hear you. I understand most people need to identify with their "generation" or more the lack of it, generally speaking, it gives both a feeling of belonging to a group while being an individual.

I personally never felt that. Maybe that's why. But it's something that's ok with me. Anything that helps to build one individual whether associated to a group or not, in a positive and productive for self and society is ok with me. I didn't mean any offense there.

There's no such thing as "the one", if you're looking for "the one" regardless of age, you'll most likely end up lonely. Nobody is perfect.

^^^ I do believe in the one. It's got nothing to do with perfect. Perfection is a prism anyway. The one can mean lots of things from one to another. To me it means challenging, accepting and respectful, for instance.

I'll probably have a job, live alone, have an actual life and not be as awkward.