Board index › Coping in life › Love and Dating

Another wasted year

Page 5 of 8 [ 120 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8  Next

Previous topic | Next topic

The_Face_of_Boo
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 16 Jun 2010
Age: 42
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 33,322
Location: Beirut, Lebanon.

19 Dec 2016, 4:58 pm

Outrider wrote:
Hey, wait a minute.

If there's any advice you could possibly give to an 18 year old with the same.e thoughts and problems.

I seem to always progress slowly with my hobbies. Im a musicians on and off for the last 3 years a and still very amateur.

2 years of "working out" and I only gained 33lbs (what should only take 6 months) of weight in mostly muscle a d some fat because I wasn't working my muscles hard enough. Worse st I've broken my wrist. I will workout properly when I begin again but dam it what a waste, hundreds of hours and dollars wasted and this injury just means losing time.

I already feel I'll never have another girlfriend again...



My only advice: try hard to find someone to click with during college years, because it is the phase when you meet the highest number of new people - and try to maintain whatever friendships you develop from there.



Marknis
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 24 Jan 2016
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,960
Location: The Vile Belt

19 Dec 2016, 6:38 pm

I still have fears I will have to become someone like my older brother if I want things to change. He's a complete racist, sexist, homophobe, and self-serving "Christian" but it seems like those are the only men who succeed, atleast here in the Bible Belt.



auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,768
Location: the island of defective toy santas

19 Dec 2016, 7:16 pm

Marknis wrote:
I still have fears I will have to become someone like my older brother if I want things to change. He's a complete racist, sexist, homophobe, and self-serving "Christian" but it seems like those are the only men who succeed, atleast here in the Bible Belt.

don't give in to the dark side, you can only go with one team- either the mammon team [dark side, all the foul mercenary things of earth] or the light team [the good guys who wish to transcend the limitations of earth]. if you go with mammon you stay down with mammon until the end. resist.



sly279
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 11 Dec 2013
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 16,181
Location: US

19 Dec 2016, 7:48 pm

Liars,cheaters and abusers seem to have no problem getting woman after woman after woman. It also helps them get ahead in work and so get more income. They do whatever it takes to get them ahead even if means hurting others and they get rewarded for such actions.

Yet those who keep the moral ground like me get nothing



kraftiekortie
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Feb 2014
Gender: Male
Posts: 87,510
Location: Queens, NYC

19 Dec 2016, 7:50 pm

I try to keep "the high moral ground"--and I've gotten somewhere.

I don't know what to say, Man.

You just have to go out and experience more people.



Last edited by kraftiekortie on 19 Dec 2016, 8:47 pm, edited 1 time in total.

auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,768
Location: the island of defective toy santas

19 Dec 2016, 7:58 pm

sly279 wrote:
Liars,cheaters and abusers seem to have no problem getting woman after woman after woman. It also helps them get ahead in work and so get more income. They do whatever it takes to get them ahead even if means hurting others and they get rewarded for such actions. Yet those who keep the moral ground like me get nothing

yes, that sounds like a devil's bargain, doesn't it? I would not take that bargain, just to have worldly success.



sly279
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 11 Dec 2013
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 16,181
Location: US

19 Dec 2016, 10:38 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I try to keep "the high moral ground"--and I've gotten somewhere.

I don't know what to say, Man.

You just have to go out and experience more people.

No whwre as far as politicians or rich ceos



sly279
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 11 Dec 2013
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 16,181
Location: US

19 Dec 2016, 10:40 pm

auntblabby wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Liars,cheaters and abusers seem to have no problem getting woman after woman after woman. It also helps them get ahead in work and so get more income. They do whatever it takes to get them ahead even if means hurting others and they get rewarded for such actions. Yet those who keep the moral ground like me get nothing

yes, that sounds like a devil's bargain, doesn't it? I would not take that bargain, just to have worldly success.


I'd have to work hard at lying and cheating
I've always done what's right and legal. Even when it hurts me. But maybe it's better to lie ones way into a relationship? Seems to work for a lot of people and is advice I've been given



auntblabby
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 12 Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 114,768
Location: the island of defective toy santas

19 Dec 2016, 10:42 pm

sly279 wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Liars,cheaters and abusers seem to have no problem getting woman after woman after woman. It also helps them get ahead in work and so get more income. They do whatever it takes to get them ahead even if means hurting others and they get rewarded for such actions. Yet those who keep the moral ground like me get nothing

yes, that sounds like a devil's bargain, doesn't it? I would not take that bargain, just to have worldly success.


I'd have to work hard at lying and cheating
I've always done what's right and legal. Even when it hurts me. But maybe it's better to lie ones way into a relationship? Seems to work for a lot of people and is advice I've been given
do you know how hard it is to keep track of a bunch of lies? too much work for me, it's easier just to be minimally honest. ben franklin said it best when he said "honesty is the best policy" and "'tis better to keep silent and as a fool be thought, than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt."



RetroGamer87
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 30 Jul 2013
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 11,157
Location: Adelaide, Australia

24 Dec 2016, 8:54 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Outrider wrote:
Hey, wait a minute.

If there's any advice you could possibly give to an 18 year old with the same.e thoughts and problems.

I seem to always progress slowly with my hobbies. Im a musicians on and off for the last 3 years a and still very amateur.

2 years of "working out" and I only gained 33lbs (what should only take 6 months) of weight in mostly muscle a d some fat because I wasn't working my muscles hard enough. Worse st I've broken my wrist. I will workout properly when I begin again but dam it what a waste, hundreds of hours and dollars wasted and this injury just means losing time.

I already feel I'll never have another girlfriend again...
My only advice: try hard to find someone to click with during college years, because it is the phase when you meet the highest number of new people - and try to maintain whatever friendships you develop from there.
I wish I went to college, Hooray! Hooray!
In college land I'd make my stand,
to live and die in college.
Away, away, away down south in college!


_________________
The days are long, but the years are short


Marknis
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 24 Jan 2016
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,960
Location: The Vile Belt

28 Dec 2016, 12:10 pm

auntblabby wrote:
Marknis wrote:
I still have fears I will have to become someone like my older brother if I want things to change. He's a complete racist, sexist, homophobe, and self-serving "Christian" but it seems like those are the only men who succeed, atleast here in the Bible Belt.

don't give in to the dark side, you can only go with one team- either the mammon team [dark side, all the foul mercenary things of earth] or the light team [the good guys who wish to transcend the limitations of earth]. if you go with mammon you stay down with mammon until the end. resist.


The dark side in the Bible Belt: crappy pop country music, lame churches, dive bars, celebrity gossip, cheap beer, crappy cigarettes, yellow paged books, gobs of snot on the ground, public urination, heart attack inducing food, roadkill, domestic violence, teenage pregnancy, STDs, smell of gasoline everywhere, and Wal-Mart.



howler0322
Tufted Titmouse
Tufted Titmouse

Joined: 19 Sep 2016
Gender: Male
Posts: 26
Location: Texas

28 Dec 2016, 12:29 pm

I'm almost 20 years old and I don't have a girlfriend either. I understand it can be very frustrating at times but that is no reason to just give up.



Marknis
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 24 Jan 2016
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,960
Location: The Vile Belt

28 Dec 2016, 2:45 pm

howler0322 wrote:
I'm almost 20 years old and I don't have a girlfriend either. I understand it can be very frustrating at times but that is no reason to just give up.


I don't want to give up but getting out of my rut has been extremely discouraging and often times unproductive. I feel like I'm way too far behind and catching up feels like a dream. Some have told me I am on my own time and no one else's but it feels like progress just never happens no matter what I do.



sly279
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 11 Dec 2013
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 16,181
Location: US

28 Dec 2016, 6:34 pm

howler0322 wrote:
I'm almost 20 years old and I don't have a girlfriend either. I understand it can be very frustrating at times but that is no reason to just give up.

Let's see how you feel when your 30 and still never been loved and never will be

Pretty much sad most of the time now except when I play video games. That's it my only reason to live is video games so pointless
Suicide should be legal



cricketman123
Deinonychus
Deinonychus

Joined: 10 Jul 2016
Gender: Male
Posts: 317
Location: England

28 Dec 2016, 6:47 pm

you don't know that sly, love could happen



sly279
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 11 Dec 2013
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 16,181
Location: US

28 Dec 2016, 11:14 pm

cricketman123 wrote:
you don't know that sly, love could happen

I use to think that but I've come to the realization that some men never feel love or have relationships it's always been that way probably always will some men are just so worthless they only exist to serv others or die so others can get something