Whys it have to not be ok to ask if a woman likes you?

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When was eventually?
Didn’t you find them lacking confidence? Confident man would just know the woman likes them.

We’ve had two dates in 3 weeks

Yes she makes me horny if that’s what you mean?

That’s a good sign. Your body has good communication skills, and you’re able to understand your body.

Or, a confident man would assume she likes him. Confidence isn't the same as understanding/knowledge.

Or, a confident man would know he wants to know something, and have the confidence to ask.

There's so many ways to look at this. You seem to be stuck in your mindset and/or beliefs about things.

In past when I asked thebwomen told my I lacked confidence and that’s unattractive.
But I can’t read nonverbal ques like not men can.

I hate it

Sounds like you keep dating the same kinds of women.

According to many women, a man should have the balls to do things like kissing them without asking whether they want him to, accepting the consequences, whatever they are. Some explicitly say that that is the way to find out: if the kiss was unwelcome, he'll be slapped. Asking is wimpy and a complete turnoff to them. Of course, the man risks not only a slap, but also landing in jail. I guess that's some confidence.

How many women is “many” women? How did you find out what the “many” women thought?

By reading their opinions posted online, and an exciting story about how a not-so-young, inexperienced man was taught that lesson by one of his first flings, if not the first. They met at a nightclub, and left early by themselves. He struggled to keep the conversation going and noticed she was losing interest in him, till he suggested sitting on a bench. Then he made the blunder, asking if he could kiss her. She was disappointed, but apparently cut him some slack for his inexperience. She explained that he should never ask that question, that he needed to have the courage to go for the kiss, and that he'd be slapped if it was unwanted—such is life. After a few dramatic seconds, he kissed her. She slapped him, and let him dwell on his bewilderment for a few more seconds, before she smiled and kissed him.

When I read it, this story looked deadly serious to me, with a profound truth I couldn't wholly fathom. Now I get that it can just as well be read as her pulling his leg, but there are still plenty of women out there who insist asking them is wimpy and a turnoff. We discussed it here two or three years ago as "the spontaneous-kiss rule".

Can’t you go for an icecream under the tree if it’s too hot?

I seriously doubt anyone is sad enough to use someone for an icecream.

Movie is cheaper
It’ll only be $5.50 if I’m able to use my movie pass the frozen outfit place is like $5 a cup or more if she adds a bunch.

why do you need to pay everything? maybe you don't talk too much because you go to the movies?

if you want ideas on cheap dates. can you cook? maybe you should make something and invite her to a picnic. i bet she will find nice if you can prepare something.

i didn't had much dates, but i enjoyed once a guy took me to the lake so we could try a fishing thing we has working on. it failed but it was just nice to be sitting by the lake. we spent no money.

First date was min golf and walk in park after, 2nd date was movie then we walked for a bit in pet store next to movie while waited for her ride to come.

There’s not a lot of activities in my area and I don’t drink mor can afford it.

Right now the weather is far too hot for any outside active hence the movies again.
I dont know what I’d cook her and how I’d keep it warm and transport it. I thought about sandwiches, if it was only two could probably move them in my lunch bail.
I was going suggest we go to another park in our cities if I could figure out bus(we both ride bus) but it’s been so warm, she doesn’t want to go out in heat, I’d suffer it for a date but can’t force her.
On the first date we walked in the part by the river. I thought about seeing if she’d want to walk down the river trail close to that park. Not having cars limit us or a hike to the mountain top would been cool. Been there once and it’s beautiful on top.
The parks we can go to is Alton baker, day island, and the river trail park(I’d want to take my gun for that one which I’ve avoided as i dont know if she’s ok with guns or not) its more secluded and thus more dangerous for us.