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14 Apr 2016, 4:29 am

I prefer women who are apolitical.



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15 Apr 2016, 6:05 pm

aspiesavant wrote:
I prefer women who are apolitical.


why?

People who take no interest, don't interest me. I can understand disinterest in party politics though.

I have got that though the "I don't do politics". However chances are they have some political opinions.



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15 Apr 2016, 7:12 pm

I'd really like someone willing to debate, rather than just letting me state my views, stating hers and then stopping there because addressing the other person's points, looking for a deeper understanding, is offensive. If two people disagree, either they have conflicting principles or at least one of them is making an incorrect deduction. It'd be nice to find the root of the disagreement, but people normally get really pissed off if you try to, doing everything to prevent it by muddying the discussion more and more.

Of course, I'm aware this is but a wet dream, comparable to finding a woman willing to share the rest of her life with me in the first place.

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16 Apr 2016, 4:37 pm

I enjoy a good debate, but you do sometimes get to a point where you have to agree to disagree.



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16 Apr 2016, 4:54 pm

No one is 100% neutral in politics, no one.



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17 Apr 2016, 10:16 am

0_equals_true wrote:
People who take no interest, don't interest me. I can understand disinterest in party politics though.


My girlfriend and I commonly uses terms like "micro-thinker" and "macro-thinker", with her being a "micro-thinker" and me being a "macro-thinker".

A "macro-thinker" is someone who looks at the world through abstract philosophy; through scientific models; through the pure looking glass of mathematics.

A "micro-thinker" is someone who looks at the world through direct inter-personal contact with one's direct environment.

Politics, religion and philosophy are all too "macro" for her taste, even though she is a PhD level bio-scientist.

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
No one is 100% neutral in politics, no one.


I used to think that myself. Then I met my girlfriend :wink:



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17 Apr 2016, 2:48 pm

aspiesavant wrote:
0_equals_true wrote:
People who take no interest, don't interest me. I can understand disinterest in party politics though.
A "micro-thinker" is someone who looks at the world through direct inter-personal contact with one's direct environment.


That sounds more like an inter-personal thinker.

I'm hyper-analytical, so I'm interested in detail as much as the bigger picture. Not great at inter-personal though.



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17 Apr 2016, 2:54 pm

0_equals_true wrote:
That sounds more like an inter-personal thinker.


It's a term I never heard or read before, but it seems to fit the load perfectly.

0_equals_true wrote:
I'm hyper-analytical, so I'm interested in detail as much as the bigger picture. Not great at inter-personal though.


That's what I'm like as well.

In my experience, hyper-analytical thinkers and extremely inter-personal thinkers can along quite well... due to being each other's complement... and due to both being intense / extreme in their own peculiar fashion...



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17 Apr 2016, 4:16 pm

JaneBuss wrote:
I enjoy a good debate, but you do sometimes get to a point where you have to agree to disagree.

I'm happy to disagree. I'm more interested in their ideas, and thought process.



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18 Feb 2021, 8:37 am

0_equals_true wrote:
Would you date someone of a different political background? If so how different. What would be your limit?

I wonder if people who grown up in families who have been traditional block voters, and they hadn't changed later, if they could contemplate 'sleeping with the enemy' so to speak.

Personally I would consider anyone. However what matters is what thoughts of their own they have put into it, and if there are some independent ideas.

I'm wary of political tribalism itself, I find personal and political independence very attractive.

Obviously there would still be some moral tests. You would assume that we may hold some of the same objectives, just a different theory of how to get there.

I wonder how normal this view is thought. There is a stigma associated with dating outside party affiliation, at least for some.


My political beliefs are fairly unique and I'll always be at odds with virtually any random person. So if I had to have political unity, I would never find a mate.


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18 Feb 2021, 10:29 am

I've dated right wingers (for USA, that means democrats).
It doesn't matter too much, as long as they are intelligent.
It can sometimes become a bit boring if both agrees on everything.
That said, if I could chose who to fall in love with, I'd chose a leftist/anarchist.

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18 Feb 2021, 12:53 pm

100% wouldn't date a Tory. Don't think I'm generally very prejudiced but definitely in this case.


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18 Feb 2021, 12:59 pm

With all due respect, you are all noobs when it comes to Tribalism.

I would certainly not date a Hezbollah or Muslim Brotherhood member or sympathizer; or anything rad Islamist.

Btw the thread is older than dinosaurs.