I am sick of older women being interested in me

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18 Jun 2023, 3:01 pm

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A bit of topic nearly 10 years ago these 2 young women came up to me in a nightclub and started touching my face. One of them said "My friend really fancies you. Do you want to dance?". I then got shy/quiet and they quickly moved.

Do you think that was most likely them having on there 'beer goggles'?

Probably.

People tend not to touch the faces of individuals they don’t know without something like alcohol or dentistry being involved.



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19 Jun 2023, 3:41 pm

Jamesy wrote:
A bit of topic nearly 10 years ago these 2 young women came up to me in a nightclub and started touching my face. One of them said "My friend really fancies you. Do you want to dance?". I then got shy/quiet and they quickly moved.

Do you think that was most likely them having on there 'beer goggles'?


It might have been that her friend really did fancy you and find you attractive!

I can look back and see a few opportunities like that which I blew also. Kind of hate myself for screwing those up.



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19 Jun 2023, 5:01 pm

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Jamesy wrote:
A bit of topic nearly 10 years ago these 2 young women came up to me in a nightclub and started touching my face. One of them said "My friend really fancies you. Do you want to dance?". I then got shy/quiet and they quickly moved.

Do you think that was most likely them having on there 'beer goggles'?


It might have been that her friend really did fancy you and find you attractive!

I can look back and see a few opportunities like that which I blew also. Kind of hate myself for screwing those up.




Nothing like that has ever happened to me since all those years ago.

I wonder if that same woman saw me in a nightclub today that she would approach me (as if).



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22 Jun 2023, 9:12 am

ProfessorJohn wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
A bit of topic nearly 10 years ago these 2 young women came up to me in a nightclub and started touching my face. One of them said "My friend really fancies you. Do you want to dance?". I then got shy/quiet and they quickly moved.

Do you think that was most likely them having on there 'beer goggles'?


It might have been that her friend really did fancy you and find you attractive!

I can look back and see a few opportunities like that which I blew also. Kind of hate myself for screwing those up.


On a related note, here's a trap I've fallen into:

No matter how many clues a woman shows of being into me, I don't make a move. Because I'm still not 100% sure if she's into me. And I know I can get a sure thing with an escort.

For example, one time this woman I met invited me to an event at her hotel. I never went. Then I contacted an escort the next day.



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22 Jun 2023, 9:40 am

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ProfessorJohn wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
A bit of topic nearly 10 years ago these 2 young women came up to me in a nightclub and started touching my face. One of them said "My friend really fancies you. Do you want to dance?". I then got shy/quiet and they quickly moved.

Do you think that was most likely them having on there 'beer goggles'?


It might have been that her friend really did fancy you and find you attractive!

I can look back and see a few opportunities like that which I blew also. Kind of hate myself for screwing those up.


On a related note, here's a trap I've fallen into:

No matter how many clues a woman shows of being into me, I don't make a move. Because I'm still not 100% sure if she's into me. And I know I can get a sure thing with an escort.

For example, one time this woman I met invited me to an event at her hotel. I never went. Then I contacted an escort the next day.




One things for sure I may never get a chance like I did all those years ago again.



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25 Jun 2023, 6:15 am

why does a 33 year old want to date 20 year old women? :?
There's a significant maturity gap between a 20yo and a 33yo that is simply NOT present between a 33yo and 46yo. People's brains aren't even fully developed til they're 25.
As a woman the same age as you, I can't even go lower than 27 because the maturity gap becomes so apparent.

Sounds pretty sus to me.



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25 Jun 2023, 7:24 am

RacoKula wrote:
why does a 33 year old want to date 20 year old women? :?
There's a significant maturity gap between a 20yo and a 33yo that is simply NOT present between a 33yo and 46yo. People's brains aren't even fully developed til they're 25.
As a woman the same age as you, I can't even go lower than 27 because the maturity gap becomes so apparent.

Sounds pretty sus to me.



I am not a pedophile if that's what you mean



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25 Jun 2023, 8:00 am

Yes you just want significantly younger women ONLY. Women who are more easily led and still want to impress men.
:roll:

Maybe you should work more on making yourself more appealing to women your own age. Women in their late-20s and early-30s are most often lookinfg for something stable, if not a long-term partner. They also know more clearly what they want and if they sense you're not going to give it to them, they won't be interested.
Work on how you approach women and relationships. Clean yourself and your lifestyle up if you need to.



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25 Jun 2023, 9:10 am

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Yes you just want significantly younger women ONLY. Women who are more easily led and still want to impress men.
:roll:

Maybe you should work more on making yourself more appealing to women your own age. Women in their late-20s and early-30s are most often lookinfg for something stable, if not a long-term partner. They also know more clearly what they want and if they sense you're not going to give it to them, they won't be interested.
Work on how you approach women and relationships. Clean yourself and your lifestyle up if you need to.




I never even said I wanted signifigantly younger women in this thread. What I was implying is that 20 year olds don't even look at me vs women who are a lot older than myself who check me out.



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25 Jun 2023, 10:51 am

of course 20yo girls don't look at you. you're 33.
as i said. there's a HUGE difference in 20-33 vs 33-46 or even 56.
at 33 you hopefully are grown, mature. have a job and are at least intellectually independent. anyone under 25 is NOT on the same level as you



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25 Jun 2023, 11:04 am

RacoKula wrote:
of course 20yo girls don't look at you. you're 33.
as i said. there's a HUGE difference in 20-33 vs 33-46 or even 56.
at 33 you hopefully are grown, mature. have a job and are at least intellectually independent. anyone under 25 is NOT on the same level as you



Long term unemployed and live with parents is what describes me.



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25 Jun 2023, 11:36 am

RacoKula wrote:
why does a 33 year old want to date 20 year old women? :?
There's a significant maturity gap between a 20yo and a 33yo that is simply NOT present between a 33yo and 46yo. People's brains aren't even fully developed til they're 25.
As a woman the same age as you, I can't even go lower than 27 because the maturity gap becomes so apparent.

Sounds pretty sus to me.


Neurodivergent people often have a lower emotional age. It doesn't surprise me one bit if some neurodivergent people prefer younger partners for this reason.

I myself prefer older. All I'm saying is others on the spectrum might have good rationale to prefer younger.



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25 Jun 2023, 1:24 pm

I could never go out with a man younger than me. Even a man my age! I prefer older men. I don't know why.

When I was 14 I had a crush on a 33-year-old, which was old to me back then. Now I'm that age, 33 is too young! 66 might be better for me. :lol:


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25 Jun 2023, 1:31 pm

I have a penchant for dirty old men. Not saying your man is a dirty old man.

I couldn't be in a full time relationship with one but they do amuse me and always have done.

I think that some women get to an age and they maybe want to pass on some of their experience Jamesy and you might just seem like a viable candidate.


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25 Jun 2023, 1:34 pm

OP - if an older woman likes you and you like her back, then go for it.


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26 Jun 2023, 6:45 am

I'm not sure why. But for some reason, I am rarely finding any ladies to be attractive by looking at their face. Admittedly though some things just catch my attention, and I have no intention of be ashamed at all.

It's probably due to the fact that I haven't even once konnekted with a female at anything more than 'friendship' level since my kup years ago. I have accustomed, and the lack of any attraction is mutual now, not just one way.

Young ones just look too immature or resemble deadbeats/both. Seriously, I've noticed females that are even more disorderly than some dudes, just by being near them. You'd have to see it to believe it. I get the fact that there are the odd ones out, and not all resemble such. But it decreases the overall rating of females in general. Not to mention that bodies are just utterly disgusting, and fluids are even worse.

I tend to keep my distance with the virus going around. But now this translates to not attending anything, rather than just staying 3 metres away when possible. My mindset is too narrow and linear, and I don't look for opportunities to find a gap in the wall of fire that hinders my so-called 'life' so much. I don't have any faith in this forum whatsoever to make it any better. But for some reason, I still rant. There must be an underlying cause. I'm almost convinced that I have the dreaded type 3 ASD, rather than type 2.

Just my 2c worth.