cyberdad wrote:
TwilightPrincess wrote:
Just because something worked for you doesn’t mean that it would work for Jamesy. Your advice could be downright harmful to Jamesy. Thinking about his particular struggles and listening to women here might be prudent.
Working his personal development and making new friends has been the advice he has been getting for several years. It hasn't been working for him.
Getting advice and applying it are two
very different things.
Members most often have been given the sort of advice you suggest - advice that has an obvious lack of understanding when it comes to women, if not more overt forms of sexism.
You agreed with me earlier in the thread when I stated that other methods would be more appropriate in this particular situation - I would argue in just about every situation. There are clear dangers which have already been addressed like making women uncomfortable, getting kicked out of places (yet again), and possibly worse scenarios that I won’t go into presently.
It says a lot that people don’t seem to care about making women uncomfortable. It’s all about me, me, ME!! ! If people want to have meaningful relationships with women, they need to change that outlook because relationships are NOT one-sided. Developing friendships with women could overcome the selfishness that so many members seem to struggle with. It could also help them see women as autonomous human beings with thoughts, needs, feelings, and desires that are as valid and important as anyone else’s.
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