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04 Jul 2025, 5:10 pm

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For me, it would be a combination of the following:

1. Conservatives believing marriage should be a prerequisite for sex.

2. All the legal stuff involved (pre-nups, who gets what if divorce happens, etc)

3. Like you said, the cost of a wedding, honeymoon, etc.


The first is more a religious than a political thing, but I would say the rest are about right. They're isn't just one factor.

There are some ideas of the root cause that are more taboo to debate about today. I don't condemn or commend that stuff.

Online dating sites and apps are horrible, especially since they introduced swiping, and you have to pay for a lot of features. It exacerbated a lot of the stuff that's going on, but why are people pretending like it's a dating panacea? My app experiences made be feel undervalued, used, depressed. Like we are being scammed by it.


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04 Jul 2025, 6:25 pm

Over half of marriages end in divorce and most of the half that stays married wishes they didn't. Humans are not capable of living in peaceful co-existence in spite of their many differences, so why should they force themselves to stay together in the first place?



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04 Jul 2025, 7:26 pm

^that's why I keep saying...

Marriage is voluntary imprisonment! !!

You are basically trapping yourself by being legally chained to another person for your entire life!



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04 Jul 2025, 9:26 pm

Hello Mikurotoro92,
You seem to have conflicting desires: to enjoy a wedding, but then not be married. What's up with that?


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04 Jul 2025, 9:28 pm

Have you ever thought about maybe just spending 30,000 dollars on a big party with all your friends and family so you could have that wedding type of experience and not get married....Also expensive weddings has been linked to increase divorce



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04 Jul 2025, 9:37 pm

Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Have you ever thought about maybe just spending 30,000 dollars on a big party with all your friends and family so you could have that wedding type of experience and not get married....Also expensive weddings has been linked to increase divorce


Yeah, an unwedding, as in, getting married to the idea not getting married.


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04 Jul 2025, 9:56 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Have you ever thought about maybe just spending 30,000 dollars on a big party with all your friends and family so you could have that wedding type of experience and not get married....Also expensive weddings has been linked to increase divorce


Yeah, an unwedding, as in, getting married to the idea not getting married.

Ya maybe have it as a sort of wedding to yourself....I dont know....But I dont think just a big one day party is worth the the trouble of marriage but hey thats just me.



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04 Jul 2025, 10:06 pm

CapedOwl wrote:
Hello Mikurotoro92,
You seem to have conflicting desires: to enjoy a wedding, but then not be married. What's up with that?


Okay, it's kinda hard to explain but I'll try...

I mostly want to get married so I can have the wedding and honeymoon experience!! !

I actually got to be in a wedding a long time ago as the flower girl, now I want to experience a wedding as the BRIDE!

Well...that's how I was before I met David

Because I truly love him and he is my best friend that means I am more open & willing to go through with marriage while keeping in mind my fear of imprisonment

If at any point when we are married I start to feel imprisoned I will divorce my husband and revert back to living with my brother!!



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04 Jul 2025, 10:09 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Have you ever thought about maybe just spending 30,000 dollars on a big party with all your friends and family so you could have that wedding type of experience and not get married....Also expensive weddings has been linked to increase divorce


Yeah, an unwedding, as in, getting married to the idea not getting married.


Like an "unbirthday" from the classic Disney movie Alice in Wonderland?

Lol



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04 Jul 2025, 10:11 pm

Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Have you ever thought about maybe just spending 30,000 dollars on a big party with all your friends and family so you could have that wedding type of experience and not get married....Also expensive weddings has been linked to increase divorce


Yeah, an unwedding, as in, getting married to the idea not getting married.

Ya maybe have it as a sort of wedding to yourself....I dont know....But I dont think just a big one day party is worth the the trouble of marriage but hey thats just me.


But a wedding is an initiation ceremony or ritual for getting married...



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04 Jul 2025, 10:28 pm

Maybe think of it as a party devoted to honoring you and yourself and the single life. My sister is going through divorce right now so I wouldnt risk a divorce just for a big party. Maybe just have a huge blow-out birthday party where you spend 100,000 dollars so it would be like a huge wedding in a way.



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04 Jul 2025, 10:55 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Have you ever thought about maybe just spending 30,000 dollars on a big party with all your friends and family so you could have that wedding type of experience and not get married....Also expensive weddings has been linked to increase divorce


Yeah, an unwedding, as in, getting married to the idea not getting married.


Like an "unbirthday" from the classic Disney movie Alice in Wonderland?

Lol


I've never seen it. :oops:

But I assume yes.


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04 Jul 2025, 11:37 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Yeah, an unwedding, as in, getting married to the idea not getting married.


Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Like an "unbirthday" from the classic Disney movie Alice in Wonderland?

Lol


funeralxempire wrote:
I've never seen it. :oops:

But I assume yes.


You've NEVER seen Alice in Wonderland?!?

But anyway yeah an "un-wedding" would be like an "un-birthday" I think!! !



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05 Jul 2025, 4:40 am

Mikurotoro92,
Would you please give us an itemized list of the things which would be at your wedding - other than your husband - with approximate cost estimate?


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05 Jul 2025, 12:28 pm

CapedOwl wrote:
Mikurotoro92,
Would you please give us an itemized list of the things which would be at your wedding - other than your husband - with approximate cost estimate?


Lol of course David would be there!! ! :lol:

Um...let's see...

He wants to get married at a local park and have the reception at his house so the usual wedding stuff like catering (most likely $300.00), music DJ ($200.00?), attire (I am trying to find a cheap wedding dress so the most I'm willing to spend would be $500.00!), decor (probably $100.00 at the most), etc

I am trying to keep my wedding under $1000.00 but his sister will contribute and help pay the cost!!



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05 Jul 2025, 12:32 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
CapedOwl wrote:
Mikurotoro92,
Would you please give us an itemized list of the things which would be at your wedding - other than your husband - with approximate cost estimate?


Lol of course David would be there!! ! :lol:

Um...let's see...

He wants to get married at a local park and have the reception at his house so the usual wedding stuff like catering (most likely $300.00), music DJ ($200.00?), attire (I am trying to find a cheap wedding dress so the most I am willing to spend would be $500.00!), decor (probably $100.00 at the most), etc

I'm trying to keep my wedding under $1000.00 but his sister will contribute and help pay the cost!!

It's wonderful that his sister is willing to contribute. I would do so as well but I don't know how to do so anonymously and unfortunately it would have to be anonymous.


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