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04 Jul 2025, 6:35 pm

As far as I understand, 60 years ago, my grandparents all got married and had my parents when they were only in their early/mid 20s and I bet a lot of other people's grandparents did the same thing. But it surprises me how there are and were millennials and older gen-zers who also got married and had kids at the same time as our grandparents did. I certainly know of a few in my extended family and on my step mum's side of the family.

I have a cousin who married at 22 and still are today with no kids and my step sister got married I think at 23 and has two kids and still together 15 years on. Even some celebrities did the same. I found out that Rochelle Humes from the girl group The Saturdays got married in 2012 at just 23 to a guy called Marvin from JLS and both have 3 children.

I don't understand why things like this bother me when it wasn't even on the radar to get married early and I'm sure a lot of other people didn't either. I don't know if just happened for them because it was just down to good luck and chance that people meet one another early in life and end up so much in love that they decide to start a life together early than many others.



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04 Jul 2025, 7:09 pm

Because they found someone and they feel ready.


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04 Jul 2025, 7:38 pm

chris1989 wrote:
As far as I understand, 60 years ago, my grandparents all got married and had my parents when they were only in their early/mid 20s and I bet a lot of other people's grandparents did the same thing. But it surprises me how there are and were millennials and older gen-zers who also got married and had kids at the same time as our grandparents did. I certainly know of a few in my extended family and on my step mum's side of the family.

I have a cousin who married at 22 and still are today with no kids and my step sister got married I think at 23 and has two kids and still together 15 years on. Even some celebrities did the same. I found out that Rochelle Humes from the girl group The Saturdays got married in 2012 at just 23 to a guy called Marvin from JLS and both have 3 children.

I don't understand why things like this bother me when it wasn't even on the radar to get married early and I'm sure a lot of other people didn't either. I don't know if just happened for them because it was just down to good luck and chance that people meet one another early in life and end up so much in love that they decide to start a life together early than many others.


You got it all correct @chris1989!! !

The people who find love, get married and have kids early can all be attributed to luck!

For them it all came down to being in the right place at the right time

The rest of us have to work harder to achieve the marriage goal but you do NOT want to be rushing yourself into lifetime imprisonment Chris so really think about if you truly want to be married and what the real motivation is behind desiring that...


EDIT: Also, celebrities are on a completely different playing field than regular people and they have to be VERY social by the nature of their job so it's not strange at all for them to be able to find a romantic relationship without too much struggle or effort!!



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06 Jul 2025, 12:36 pm

Also, here is the REAL reason why people get married early...

***Pay attention to the second paragraph!***

In other words, once you get past your prime fertility period, marriage or long-term relationships become more about love & companionship rather than raising children!! !

The reason why many people get married early is because they are looking for someone to procreate with

If you get married (or re-married like Glenn) later in life the pressure to have kids goes away since that's not the primary motivation factor for going through to process of dating to reach marriage!



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06 Jul 2025, 3:04 pm

I wanted to get married right out of high school or right out of college or in college because as a member of the church of Christ we are required to be married first. That didnt pan out for me because I did not go to a church of Christ university so I missed my chance.



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06 Jul 2025, 3:55 pm

Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
I wanted to get married right out of high school or right out of college or in college because as a member of the church of Christ we are required to be married first. That didnt pan out for me because I did not go to a church of Christ university so I missed my chance.


When I was in my 20's marriage was the VERY LAST THING on my mind!! !

I had no interest in settling down with someone at the time but now I am older in my early 30's and feel truly ready for this!

God led me to David and there isn't anybody else I would rather share my life with :heart: :heart: :heart:



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06 Jul 2025, 4:22 pm

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
I wanted to get married right out of high school or right out of college or in college because as a member of the church of Christ we are required to be married first. That didnt pan out for me because I did not go to a church of Christ university so I missed my chance.


When I was in my 20's marriage was the VERY LAST THING on my mind!! !

I had no interest in settling down with someone at the time but now I am older in my early 30's and feel truly ready for this!

I am convinced I would of married at 18-21 if I knew I could support a family.



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06 Jul 2025, 4:35 pm

Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
I wanted to get married right out of high school or right out of college or in college because as a member of the church of Christ we are required to be married first. That didnt pan out for me because I did not go to a church of Christ university so I missed my chance.


When I was in my 20's marriage was the VERY LAST THING on my mind!! !

I had no interest in settling down with someone at the time but now I am older in my early 30's and feel truly ready for this!

I am convinced I would of married at 18-21 if I knew I could support a family.


It is actually best to marry later because you have more life experience & wisdom so you are better equipped to be able to handle the challenges of marriage and marital life!! !

If you take away having children, would people still decide to get married early? :scratch:

Food for thought...



EDIT: The desire for motherhood is so STRONG in a lot of women so that is one major contributing factor in why they desire a long-term romantic relationship or to be married!! !



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06 Jul 2025, 7:01 pm

Me & my first girlfriend wanted to be married when our relationship got serious & we didn't want kids. I was 20 at the time & she was a bit younger than me.

When my second relationship got serious we both wanted to be married & she was 19 at the time & I was 28. We did not want kids & she wanted to get her tubes tied. Her parents were hard-core conservative & very against the idea of living together unmarried or having premarital sex. Despite the area being hard-core censervative(she lived in Texas) half the girls in her class had kids or were pregnant by the time they woulda graduated high-school.


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06 Jul 2025, 7:35 pm

I would of still gotten married at 18 even if I did not want kids if I found the right church of Christ woman and I could of been a roughneck in the oilfield working on oil rigs.



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06 Jul 2025, 7:58 pm

Getting married early is the key to getting divorced early. Image


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06 Jul 2025, 8:05 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Getting married early is the key to getting divorced early. Image


Yep 100%! !!



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06 Jul 2025, 8:12 pm

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Getting married early is the key to getting divorced early. Image

Luckily there is a lower than average divorce rate in the church of Christ....



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06 Jul 2025, 8:32 pm

People tend to get married in America later than they did in the 1950's so I disagree with the OP's thesis on that.



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06 Jul 2025, 8:41 pm

Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Getting married early is the key to getting divorced early. Image

Luckily there is a lower than average divorce rate in the church of Christ....


I think that's only a lucky thing if rates of domestic abuse are lower too. There's a lot of circumstances where divorce is entirely justified, so unless those issues also occur at lower rates in some communities I'm not sure a low divorce rate on it's own is an inherent positive.


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06 Jul 2025, 8:44 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
Getting married early is the key to getting divorced early. Image

Luckily there is a lower than average divorce rate in the church of Christ....


I think that's only a lucky thing if rates of domestic abuse are lower too. There's a lot of circumstances where divorce is entirely justified, so unless those issues also occur at lower rates in some communities I'm not sure a low divorce rate on it's own is an inherent positive.

Oh okay....I was just meaning my personal situation if i do marry a church of Christ woman the divorce rate in the denomination is less than 10 percent so I like those odds.