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06 Jul 2025, 8:50 pm

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Oh okay....I think maybe the biggest factor in the church of Christ regarding divorce is that its considered a sin in most cases in the church of Christ so many women may choose not to divorce for that reason.


That makes sense, and also provides a good example of how social pressures can make for an artificially low divorce rate.

Whereas reducing the rate of justifiable causes for divorce would also reduce the divorce rates, but without anyone feeling trapped in a bad marriage.


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06 Jul 2025, 9:00 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Oh okay....I think maybe the biggest factor in the church of Christ regarding divorce is that its considered a sin in most cases in the church of Christ so many women may choose not to divorce for that reason.


That makes sense, and also provides a good example of how social pressures can make for an artificially low divorce rate.

Whereas reducing the rate of justifiable causes for divorce would also reduce the divorce rates, but without anyone feeling trapped in a bad marriage.


However sadly there are some in the church of Christ who are hardliners who believe all divorce is sin.....



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06 Jul 2025, 9:55 pm

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However sadly there are some in the church of Christ who are hardliners who believe all divorce is sin.....


I'd hope that view at least provides some pressure towards trying to make those relationships as healthy as possible.


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06 Jul 2025, 10:07 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
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However sadly there are some in the church of Christ who are hardliners who believe all divorce is sin.....


I'd hope that view at least provides some pressure towards trying to make those relationships as healthy as possible.


The bad thing is that most reverends in the churches of Christ who do marital and pre-marital counseling do not have the needed psychology college and grad school and licensing for it.



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06 Jul 2025, 10:09 pm

That could be a problem; I wonder how many of them would seek non-CoC affiliated counselling if need be.


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06 Jul 2025, 10:21 pm

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That could be a problem; I wonder how many of them would seek non-CoC affiliated counselling if need be.

I dont know....My dad told me to ask the pastor about marriage and he does premarital counseling but as as far I know he did not have the background for it......I refuse to use someone for pre-marital counseling if they have not gone to grad school and got licensed when I am engaged whenever that may be.....I hope that any future churches of Christ dont require me to conduct pre-marital counseling and counseling as a condition of employment but there is a pretty good or very high chance they will.



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06 Jul 2025, 10:22 pm

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That could be a problem; I wonder how many of them would seek non-CoC affiliated counselling if need be.

I dont know....My dad told me to ask the pastor about marriage and he does premarital counseling but as as far I know he did not have the background for it......I refuse to use someone for pre-marital counseling if they have not gone to grad school and got licensed when I am engaged whenever that may be.....I hope its not one of my future duties as a priest in the church of Christ.



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06 Jul 2025, 10:46 pm

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Oh okay....I was just meaning my personal situation if i do marry a church of Christ woman the divorce rate in the denomination is less than 10 percent so I like those odds.


Because religious people do not believe in divorce

They are the most susceptible to falling into the trap of the sunk-cost fallacy with their marriages!! !



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07 Jul 2025, 1:36 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Oh okay....I was just meaning my personal situation if i do marry a church of Christ woman the divorce rate in the denomination is less than 10 percent so I like those odds.


Because religious people do not believe in divorce

They are the most susceptible to falling into the trap of the sunk-cost fallacy with their marriages!! !


Purity culture is another factor that contributes to the sunk-cost fallacy. If a culture (or segment of a culture) is overly fixated on the idea of brides being expected to be virgins, it makes it harder for someone to think starting over is even an option because now they're "damaged goods", their inherent worth is diminished (from that perspective).


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07 Jul 2025, 6:01 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Mikurotoro92 wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Oh okay....I was just meaning my personal situation if i do marry a church of Christ woman the divorce rate in the denomination is less than 10 percent so I like those odds.


Because religious people do not believe in divorce

They are the most susceptible to falling into the trap of the sunk-cost fallacy with their marriages!! !


Purity culture is another factor that contributes to the sunk-cost fallacy. If a culture (or segment of a culture) is overly fixated on the idea of brides being expected to be virgins, it makes it harder for someone to think starting over is even an option because now they're "damaged goods", their inherent worth is diminished (from that perspective).


That is VERY TRUE and something I didn't even consider!! ! @funeralxempire

I'm no virgin even though I wanted to wait until marriage David had other plans...



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11 Jul 2025, 8:13 am

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Why do people still marry rather young now?

There is no why.

People just do stuff or want to do stuff. If you don't do stuff nothing gets done. The sooner you stop looking for a reason to do something the sooner you will actually act, fail, get punched out, crushed, ripped to pieces, cry like a baby, eat pizza, sleep, wake up with horrible breath, brush teeth, eat breakfast, ignore the order, go out and try again, repeat 569 times, and eventually you will succeed in whatever you're trying to do.

Also, maybe ask yourself which one you truly prefer: reading articles online about dating, having engaging discussions about dating in online communities and subreddits, watch fun and informative and sometimes controversial videos about dating on YouTube... or actually spend time together interacting with someone who either is or could be a partner.



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11 Jul 2025, 8:19 pm

^only one of those choices will get you closer to the goal...