AS Standards-Likes and dislikes in the opposite sex

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I am wondering do you think people with Aspergers are less,as mush or more shallow then Nt's yes of both sexes girls can be shallow if not even more than us guys those of us who have never had a girlfriend now this truth all to well. Also I would like to now if aspies have simlar qualities they like in the opposite sex. For me I like someone that would be into gaming,history,science,attractive,Japanese I have a thing for japanese women,athiest,or agnostic,liberal.Not a feminazi so a equality person.Funny personality is the most important,team player,like sharing because I like sharing.I hate the following princess syndrome,hoarding behavior,disrespect for each others intrests,people with features i find unnattracive.Dont hate me for this I have a good reason fat chicks for the sole reason that I am overweight my self and hate it about myself so I dont find that attractive on the opposite sex.Also I have a broad definition of fat a woman with curves and hips is attractive the sickly skinny trend I find disgusting I find feminine features attractive and I also cant stand High mantience or whatever the correct spelling is also someone who enjoys baking as much as I do.

Aspies can be just as shallow as NT's... they're just shallow about different things...

I did not want to keeping adding to my first post so I need to say nice avatar.

I have a thing against foul body odors...I don't mean that I want the guy to wear deodorant..I don't myself....but if a male has a naturally offensive sickly reek...it is a major turnoff..

So true It like when you are say at the store and you smell somthing nasty to find out that it comes from a person that is so nasty.

Yes....probably some differences in how they'll present their behavior but I don't see a huge difference between "normal" forums and AS forums...the kind of forums that aren't exactly supportive btw.

Haven't really met enough aspies IRL to really know enough though......

I think 'shallow' or 'deep' refers more to why you like someone. If they're more of a trophy to show off to family and friends than someone you want to be with and do things for, then your reasons for being there are very shallow. Sadly, I've seen several marriages like this, and one side is usually a complete terror.

On the other hand if it's a deep relationship, there isn't really a need to brag. People will find out when there's a reason to bring it up, or someone catches a glimpse of PDA. It's about being close to the one you love, and supporting them, not bragging about the dude/chick you bagged.

In most cases, the first thing that needs to be in place for me to be attracted to a woman is her looks. Then whether or not I like her as a person seals the deal for me.

That true ethnicty is really an issue,looks play a role but for me its more about wheter I could live with that personallty my whole life.The intrests thing is I would be willing to enjoy things that a mate enjoyed unless it was religion or right wing politics which I feel strong about has in I find religion and right wing policts,illogical,irrational,and most distasteful.I would also someone who is a foodie because then I could cook for her because cooking is one of my favorite things.One of my favorite Tv shows is america's test kitchen and good eats.

I like skinny women, preferably with long hair, who loves to give massages and get anal sex.

For me, it's Aspies who like the same things I do (Simpsons, South Park, stand-up comedy, animated sitcoms, indie/foreign films, etc.), preferably with the same religious and political beliefs as me (Christian, conservative-to-libertarian political views). I don't look at physical appearance as much as I used to, but if she has curves, that's a plus. If she is either asexual, or limiting herself to vaginal penetration within marriage, then it's no go.

If she absolutely lacks empathy, and doesn't consider my feelings, that's also a write-off. I take the time to consider someone else's feelings, and the least one can do is return the favor.

Likes: intelligence, open-mindedness, kindness.

Dislikes: stupidity, close-mindedness, nastiness.

Appearance: no preference, as long as they're healthy.

I've been told I'm abnormal in my preferences and the traits I focus most strongly on in a prospective partner, and I'm starting to figure I'm very abnormal because even people on this site have relatively normal preferences.

But I'm glad I am the way I am, because having appearance as a first/very important preference doesn't make sense to me. Of course, I consider healthiness to be a prerequisite, but as far as varying genetic features go - I don't consider that.

How unutterably boring, choosing someone mainly because of appearance. In my opinion, you may as well go out and buy a nice ornament instead. It would give you the aesthetic quality you're looking for, and chances are you'd get along with it better.

Likes: Openness, Honest, Instinctual, Impulsive
Dislikes: Guarded, Dishonest, Cautious, Premeditative

[quote="sunshower"]Likes: intelligence, open-mindedness, kindness.

Dislikes: stupidity, close-mindedness, nastiness.

Appearance: no preference, as long as they're healthy.

I've been told I'm abnormal in my preferences and the traits I focus most strongly on in a prospective partner, and I'm starting to figure I'm very abnormal because even people on this site have relatively normal preferences.

But I'm glad I am the way I am, because having appearance as a first/very important preference doesn't make sense to me. Of course, I consider healthiness to be a prerequisite, but as far as varying genetic features go - I don't consider that.
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I don't see how in anyway this is abnormal, my likes/dislikes are pretty much the same. Unless that just means im abnormal as well.

One major turn off for me though is arrogance (or what I percieve to be arrogance) I've never considered myself to be any better or worse then anyone. Yet if I see someone acting as if they're somehow a cut above everyone else (or even just me) then I will have no time for them.