Odd ways of getting phone numbers

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I ended up getting a phone number and e-mail address from a girl yesterday. But, it wasn't just your typical guy-goes-up-to-girl-and-ask situation. I was working yesterday in the cafe I work in, when a girl walks by and our eyes meet, and she smiled. Then, she said that she didn't know I worked there. I didn't recognize her at first, then she mentioned that she remembers meeting me on a bus back at the beginning of December. Sure enough, I remembered her and her name at that point. We had chatted a bit that night and she was really friendly. So yesterday when I saw her, we chatted some more, and I asked for her phone number. She unhesitatingly gave that to me, and then offered her e-mail address.

I have several options now, in addition to this girl. I'm going to start making some long-awaited moves using what I've learned in recent months.

Wow this is good, it is kinda surprising when people react like that though isnt it (but obviously in a nice way)? And good luck with your long awaited moves.

Good work!

You're better than me.. I'm terrible at asking for numbers.. and I don't give out mine incase i'm shot down.

Excellent job, you should be proud.

Nice work . Good luck, and I hope everything works out. She seems like a really nice girl.

Wow, awesome dude. Would have been a little awkward if you didn't remember her. Still would have been fine though. How did you meet on the bus the firs time?

heh

I spotted this one girl on the bus who I thought used to go to my high school. Turned out not to be her, but she looked very similar. In any case, I've heard that a great way to meet girls is to claim that you think you've met before, although in this case I seriously thought I'd met before. So we chatted and I made a point of remembering her name.

The fact that she remembered me and recognized me in my work uniform in a large crowd (which makes me look somewhat different than in plain clothes) tells me that she thought I was special and wanted to remember me.

Also on my side is that she happens to live near me.

The question is, should I tell her that what she did made me feel special?

I wouldn't do that. It'll make you sound desperate and lonely, which is a very bad thing to show on or before a first date.

Good point. Thanks for bringing it up.

I shall call after the supper hour and news on the telly is over.

Okay, another question, and this applies to Stefani (see thread on Friendship board) as well. Can I tell a girl that they are very special, whether I'm good friends with them as I am with Stefani, or when I'm on the first date, as will hopefully be the case with the girl on the bus?

That being said, for a case like Stefani, what kinds of things does one recommend I start saying to her, or doing on a physical level? Stefani already likes to hug me a lot.

I would reccomend just letting things flow naturally. Be yourself (but maybe mix in a lil David Deangelo stuff with it ) Don't just talk about yourself, ask alot about her, what her likes are, what her interests are. It;s not really important what you say, but how good you are at LISTENING. Women love a man that will listen to them, it shows their interested in them and not just in sex. And like mentioned earlier use the david deangelo cocky funny routine to tease her a lil bit, when you do this, this shows your fun, interesting, and confident. (Just make sure you balance the cocky and the funny though, or else you;ll look like a complete ass).You also might want to check out some groovydruid's articles too.

So basically, try listen and empathize with her, and tease her a little bit, hope this helps.

The thing is though, we've known each other almost three years, and there is already a solid, cultivated friendship. She's one of my best friends. Although on the outside I think she is beautiful, there is a deeper base already there, and the reason I have love and respect for her is because of who she is. She is one of the most caring, wonderful people in my life. I believe she might be interested in me romantically, based on how she is around me.

This is good advice for the girl I met on the bus. However in the case of Stefani I'm looking for something to build on a close friendship. There is so much I want to tell her...but I don't know how to do it, especially so that in case she isn't interested in me romantically, we can continue as close friends. I'm just unsure of the approach.

attempt some small test you cannot have plausible deniablilty for... you don't want to wreck a good friendship in the process.

Just act like you would with your guy friends, minus the dirty jokes and sports talk. Of course, you have more leeway in talking about feeling than you would with guys. But mostly, just be yourself, as cliche as it sounds. In other words, don't worry about hiding your desperation. Given how you would interact differently with a female friend than with a girl you like, it's OK. You can even ask her for advice of how to go about dating the girl from the bus.

As for physically, just hug her back, taking her in your arms. Just make sure to let go within a few seconds, or you'll seem like a creep who's trying to cop a cheap feel from a friend. On a side note, some girls just like to hug their friends a lot, male or female, so don't read into it too much. Just enjoy the hugs she gives you, 'cause they're supposed to feel good, otherwise hugging wouldn't exist.

What kind of small test? Examples?

Many good relationships evolve from existing friendships, from what I've observed.

F*CK EVERYTHING. The girl from the bus finally tells me that she's been taken for eight months.

Why, oh why, do girls treat guys this way? If I were her I wouldn't have given my phone number, and been up front.

F*CK EVERYTHING.

What a b***h!! !! Sorry to hear that ELLCIM. You sounded chuffed about it the other day too.