Aspie women and cuddling after sex

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Is it common for aspie women to not care about cuddling after sex? I don't want to cuddle most of the time....I had all the body contact I needed during makeout and sex. After the deed, I'd rather take a shower, get something to eat, talk, or just roll over and sleep.

Are most aspie women like this?

I'm not usually up for cuddling after sex. By that point I've had plenty of touching. Sleeping is nice.

That's pretty much my reaction, also. That combined with my ADD where I get bored during sex & poor DH can't catch a break, lol!

For what it's worth, on another forum quite a few women (who probably don't have AS) had reservations about cuddling after sex. I don't think it's as unusual as one might expect.

I do agree with this, but I've had much experience in the cuddling field so If my partner wants some I can give in to some snuggles. But I would rather not do it because of to much contact (I give enough during sex). When I cuddle I prefer not being face to face constantly, a kiss here and there is fine but not in a position where out faces meet over a longer period of time.

I get bored during sex too and I also don't like to make noises or give eye contact.

I finally said to my husband: "Sorry, but sex isn't a real emotional thing for me and it feels dishonest to pretend. How about I just treat you like a sex toy from now on?"

Our sex life has improved since then. He knows I love him even if I'm not the cuddling type. Besides, what guy is going to object to being used as a sex toy? Seems like a win-win situation to me.

Oh I like that!

You guys need to change diet if you are getting bored during sex, that's terrible....

I bet you don't get pleasure from other simple things either.

Avoid gluten, casein and processed foods. These are known to kill sexual desire and take away your energy/mind.

Eat natural foods and I swear you'll wanna f**k like a rabbit.

It's the mental dysfunction with me, and the emotional bond you get with your partner and stuff. My body likes it but my problem is 100% psychological. Even when the guy is hot or someone I like and the sex is great I still find that I just don't care for the act of sexual expression. I see sex as black and white sometimes like nothing more than a physical function. The only physical part of dating that I do enjoy continuously is being held and kissed every now and then. I'm always living in my own little world and while he's usually psychologically dedicated to me during sex. I will always be in lala land about my personal interests or something. And yes I have tried to explore different methods and roll playing. Now I'm not saying I've never had fulfillment during sex in my life, I just find it harder than the average person.

I've just assumed that most women don't want cuddling after sex...

After we make love my girlfriend and I make out a little more while I'm still on top of her, then usually I have to roll off her so she can go pee and get rid of my "lil dudes."

I do like cuddling, but usually when we go to sleep.

omg that's hot

*fans herself*

I get bored during sex too so we only have a few minute sex. I never liked cuddling after sex until I was pregnant. Now I don't want it anymore. I think it's because it's too warm out.

I love cuddle anytime.

Cuddling is great, but sex is just as great.

both of you win