Perma-singles: be *this* guy

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Yeah, the story about nootropics restoring vision is cool but focus on the last two paragraphs. Seriously, if you're going out alone this is the way to do it.

Saw this story, it made me smile, and then I realized I should probably share it here.

So you think that we should take advantage of being single and go skydiving and caving and other outdoor pursuits?

Actually, I want to be an adventurer, but I don't have the money or time right now (yeah, i need to work and study). But I will skydive someday. And explore places like the Amazon Rainforest.

It sounds like a bang-up idea. In a sense when you think about it, we've gotta make 'haves' of ourselves in some sense and it might as well be in the territories where the non-single technically can't have.

Yeah. If I ever get myself together, that is the sort of thing I will be doing. : )

I've been a nomad since childhood and who knows if my perma-singleness isn't partly the result of that. I'm not complaining though

I kinda did that, not skydiving, but I just go ice skating, go the gym, and work on cars and stuff. It's kind of great, sometimes I'm lonely, but then I'll go like reoil some bearings and forget my loneliness. Seems to work well. Seriously, it seems idiotic for me to just "chase" after girls. I like 'em and all, but damn, hard work it is. If they like me, awkwardness and James May-likeness aside, then they do. I don't want to trick them into liking me. So as such, even though I'm apparently very attractive and stuff, I tend to miss out just due to my own apathy and reluctance.

But yeah, there just came a point when I said "screw it, I'll be 40 living alone, driving a Ferrari or something" and just sort of accepted that. Wonder how long my mentality will last...

i envy those who can entertain themselves in mindless tasks and forget their pending thoughts. As for me nothing seems to take thoughts from my head besides solving them. No ammount of distractions do, they just add more to process.

Well I did that, except my...romantic problem, sorta just came to a conclusion. Yes, it bothered the hell out of me, yes, I handled it like an idiot, but it concluded. I was wrong in the way I handled it, but I can't change time now. I'm now just trying to not put myself in the position I was in before, with like, love and everything, too hard. Much easier to just play around with things instead of "love."

That is a good idea. It is kind of similar to what I am trying to do right now, just keep as busy as possible to fill up time. But I need more hobbies! I have a few ideas so far but I need a whole bunch of things on the boil so I dont get a chance to mope about stuff.

I also like going to adventure stores to drool over all the thermals, travel gear, luggage etc. But I dont know that I am much of an outdoor person, I just want to do more backpacking. One day...

Skip the store and just do it. Best thing to do is just like, start. I've taken great "hikes" just around paths in my neighborhoods with a schoolbag with a few water bottles at the most. You'd be surprised what's around if you live in a suburby kinda place, just your local woods or paths or whatever. Especially state parks, lots of cool stuff just in state parks alone. You end up probably being way more adventurous than you'd think you would.

I once went on a hike around a state park here, and this guy told me an alternate route back, using a railroad bridge. I thought, "hey, no big deal, sounds like it'd be neat" and the railroad bridge scared the hell out of me. No rails, no place for people at all, all the planks were like 8"-1' apart, it scared the hell out of me, and there was two of them, both stupidly high, one an over 100 foot drop easily. But, I got through them, and I feel really cool for it. So I had what seemed to me to be a lifechanging death defying experience just on what I thought would be a nice little hike through the park (my friend on the other hand is insane and thought the bridges were no big deal, and he actually went over the Connecticut River on a rail bridge here, crazy guy.)

So the best thing to do, don't worry about your equipment or whatever, just do it. I mean be sensible, don't wear beach flip flops hiking up a mountain or something, but you probably got enough stuff around your house for any hike you can reasonably do now.

That all sounds pretty cool. Maybe I will start going to some interesting places. There is the summer ahead of me...

I mean for me, there's more woods than I've explored even in my walking distance, so that says something. Really, the best advice I think for starting things is "Just do it." Worry about the rest later and see. For me, it's easy to do that with "stuff" but hard to do that with girls. Oh well. If there's something you wanna do, just try to find the path of least resistance for starting it and see what happens.

For me, ice skating, I started with just 5 bucks in my pocket, going to the rink, and using the rentals, ended up buying a good pair of figure boots for 60 used (they're probably worth like 150+ new actually, and they were like new condition) and a gym membership for 27 that gets me unlimited public sessions (which I'm almost ice skating everyday now) and a gym to work out in. But it's best to jump into things, but at the same time not invest terribly high amounts of money into them. If you fail, you don't feel as bad about failing, as you didn't invest much money, and you learn skills to compensate for your lack of money. Whereas if you invest money to try to not fail, you'll feel bad for failing. At least that's the way it's worked for me in my life.

I wanna try cross country skiing this winter. Wish me luck, and cheap prices for finding used gear. Should probably pick it up now in October while it's still dirt cheap. I saw ads for like 10-30 bucks per pair of skis on craigslist. I always try to find things used. As soon as I buy it's gonna be used anyway, so why not?

@zen_mistress have you considered hitch-hiking? it's a great way to travel long distance, and with truck drivers, they're usually happy to have any kind of company, and despite what most people think, they're safe because they're on a schedule.

Can't stop to murder now... gotta make a delivery *pops another handful of amphetamines*

yeah, it's reassuring innit