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Night_Shade917
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01 Jun 2012, 6:01 pm

How do you know when your Aspie partner requires space? Also, how much space do they require?

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01 Jun 2012, 6:16 pm

Best way to find out both answers to that question is to ask 'em! Aspies are human and, therefore, really diverse

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01 Jun 2012, 6:18 pm

Normally when I blank out... I generally consider that my own space. Except when talking to young children where I would state that I need my space.
Also it will take as long as it takes as long as you are patient about it.

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01 Jun 2012, 6:58 pm

It varies with each person. I prefer 24/7 of alone time, but can handle being with people when I run errands, and occasionally see family. I will also say hi to the neighbors, but I am a very introverted hermit type of person. Fortunately, I live alone.

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02 Jun 2012, 4:38 am

I see I guess I'll just have to ask or go with what I sense

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02 Jun 2012, 1:42 pm

Yep, it's pretty much the same with everyone, except most Aspies tend to need/want a lot more alone time than the usual person, but even your typical person is going to vary on that.

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02 Jun 2012, 3:15 pm

AScomposer13413 wrote:

Aspies are human

Preposterous.

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02 Jun 2012, 3:32 pm

As far as I am aware there is a ruler that designates the correct amount of space. I think Alex Plank sells them.

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02 Jun 2012, 4:05 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:

AScomposer13413 wrote:

Aspies are human

Preposterous.

That is only half correct... we are in fact superhuman. We are way more logically advanced than the average NT that soon we will... TAKE OVER THE WORLD THROUGH THE RISE OF OUR NUMBERS!! !
MUHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! !! !
If you didn't see the pun, you need another diagnosis.

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02 Jun 2012, 11:58 pm

For me; I don't need a lot of alone time, but I love the option of having it. If I have the option, I like a few hours here and there.

Alone time by default is no fun.

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03 Jun 2012, 6:03 am

I need quite a lot of alone time. For some of that time I need to be alone in the flat, but for a lot of the time I am happy if my boyfriend is in the same room as me as long as he doesn't need my attention. So he plays computer games and I read my books or just sit in silence or research my interests online. I like that he is there in the room, and he is quite happy with this arrangement too. We do have quality time together where we talk, or watch films together etc.

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03 Jun 2012, 10:32 am

SilkySifaka wrote:

To me, even if you are both just doing your own thing, that's still quality time.

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06 Jun 2012, 2:17 am

ValentineWiggin wrote:

AScomposer13413 wrote:

Aspies are human

Preposterous.

Oh! I thought I was a dinosaur.

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06 Jun 2012, 5:17 pm

PastFixations wrote:

ValentineWiggin wrote:

AScomposer13413 wrote:

Aspies are human

Preposterous.

That is only half correct... we are in fact superhuman. We are way more logically advanced than the average NT that soon we will... TAKE OVER THE WORLD THROUGH THE RISE OF OUR NUMBERS!! !

Kinme wrote:

Oh! I thought I was a dinosaur.

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06 Jun 2012, 5:38 pm

SilkySifaka wrote:

This is what I like, too

being alone together rules lol

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07 Jun 2012, 3:34 am

I do find this one of the more difficult aspects of knowing how to act with my AS friend. Often if I feel that I have been asking for too much time or contact, I will ease up and wait to hear from him, so as to give him space. I often will say 'oh, if you feel like company, let me know'. Then I may eventually hear from him, and he may start talking about how bored he is (or has been) and how he has nothing to do, and I get frustrated thinking 'welll... I did say if you wanted to do something, let me know, maybe you just don't want to hang out with me'. A few times, I have come outright and asked 'welllll why didn't you suggest meeting up' and I get the response 'oh it didn't occur to me to ask, even though I do/did want to meet up'! or 'oh, if you wanted to do something, you should have said'!.

So sometimes, I don't know if to just keep asking, or to just ease off and think 'well if he REALLY wants to meet up, he'll let me know'!

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