Are unattractive guys often unjustly seen as rapists...

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...because they're just unattractive?

I'm curious about this.

...This is the first I've heard of it.

I can see an unattractive guy being viewed as a stalker type merely for asking a woman out.

Umm no lol, not in the least. Unless of course, they either are rapists or act like they are lol. There's a LOT of unattractive people in this world, but luckily there aren't anywhere near as many rapists.

However, and what I think you were really trying to get at, unattractive people may often be seen as creepy whereas an attractive person in the same situation would not. For example, let's say an attractive woman is browsing through the produce aisle at the grocery store, and is approached by a guy who strikes up a conversation with her. If the guy looks like a Chewbacca clone, chances are she'll perceive him as creepy and want to get out of there asap, even if the conversation itself goes great. However, if the guy looks like, say, Brad Pitt, things would more than likely take an entirely different direction, and she may even admire his confidence in approaching her, even if in both situations the people act and talk exactly the same. It's only natural, most people of either sex don't want to be hit on by someone that they find unattractive.

It happens often for creeepy. Which is often described as a precursor to rapist vibes. But yesits often that attractive people can get away with more in those regards

heard of it a while back. Overlaps with creeper-ness. I must be fortunate though, woman don't really mind me talking to them (If I feel bothered enough to talk in the first place.)

I created this thread because women often look at me with scared eyes and somehow they give me the impression that I've been stalking them when by the time they give me that impression it's actually the first time I actually see them and notice they actually exist on this planet.

Maybe you stare without realizing it. I do. I get lost in thought and don't really see what's in front of me. Luckily, I also usually freeze in place when doing it, so I don't walk in front of traffic much.

I'm going to answer your thread with a reluctant "Yes." People are incredibly vain these days and vanity is promoted. It's very common for people to think somehow you having an off day or being uncomfortable has more to do with what you would do to them or how you fit into their life, or somehow you are checking them out (because everyone is so checking them out) and because you don't quite fit the looks bill you must be a rapist or tramp or sex offender of some kind

I'm pretty sure this is only a recent societal development. I remember before the turn of the century it was not like this so much. People wouldn't think too much of people that approached others for otherwise innocent things.

It may have something to do with the fact that whenever the police capture a rapist and release his photograph to the press, the guy most often looks like someone who might have been recently arrested, read his rights, roughed up, thrown into the back of a patrol car, dragged into a police station, booked, roughed up some more, cavity searched, given one phone call, interrogated, and then photographed.

After all of that, even George Clooney would look ugly.

I'll answer the OP with a resounding "hell yes." I would know because I'm one of these unattractive people. It's not my posture (my posture is practically perfect) and I don't stare either. In fact I've gotten called creepy just for sitting in the library reading a book. The book was about cars, so it wasn't that what I was reading about was creepy.

Fact is, most people are just dicks.