any boby have any luck with okcipid?

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I have been on okcupid for about 9 months and it has got me nowhere. I have talk to a lot of girls on there, but most of the time, they won't repon to me.
I have had 3 dates off of there. but after the date, they don't what to talk to me
the last girl I had a date with, i wit to her chruch with her and stayed at her family's house with her and now she won't send me a message back.

need help, any ideas of with to do or any other sites to try?

Other sites AND retry. Also head out and see what the wide world has to offer. I have a fair bit of success in real life and ZERO success on these personals sites.
You never know the same might apply to you if you apply yourself to other ideas.

Cant say I've had any real luck on dating sites. Rarely ever get a reply to a message and the ones that message first are so desperate acting it sets off all kinds of alarm bells. Excluding that however almost every profile I end up reading in my area is a clone of the next. With most of them going "i like X,Y,Z" about the obvious stuff without actually saying anything that actually defines them from the next. Very few profiles actually stand out and make me want to message them first. :-\

There's no shortage of sites out there to try although to be honest my experiences are the same regardless of the site. I could rattle off at least half a dozen websites but it really depends on what you are looking for in terms of a website.

I've been having luck with actually getting dates, but I haven't been having any luck after that lol. Really the three most important things in terms of actually getting women to respond and be receptive are your pictures, profile content, and message content. You want pictures that show you in the best light possible, but at the same time you want for them to be realistic representations of yourself, no camera tricks or photoshopping! For profile content, you want to give a sense of your personality, goals in life, hobbies, interests, etc. Show what makes you different from everyone else, and what you have to offer. I like to think of dating as analogous to job hunting: you want to show how you're different and more qualified than the other candidates out there, without coming across as pretentious.

And for message content, typically for a first message I keep it to 3-4 sentences, with one or two questions about something they mentioned in their profile. Typically I'll say something like the following: "Hello, how are you? I just saw your profile, it seems like we have a lot in common! I noticed that you enjoy hiking, I love to hike as well!! Where do you usually go hiking around here? Anyways, I hope to hear back from you!" That's pretty much a basic template that seems to work really well for me.

So that just covers the online side of things...once you actually go on a date I'm afraid I'm not the best person to offer advice, as I've been having similar luck as you. However the same sorts of principles apply...on initial dates keep the conversation to light and noncontroversial topics, make sure to look your best, follow proper manners in all respects (open doors and such). Always meet in a highly public place for safety reasons. And just try to show the best side of yourself!

Fallowing the tips I've got from here, and updating my profile pic I've had quite alot of success. Met up with a fair few girls irl, It's never gone any where because I haven't been interested. Nothing wrong with the girls, I'm just interested or I'll have a drink, snog and leave.

I won't lie though I love okaycupid for the tests.

Here's my profile is Daithi_Irish

how'd you score NT on tht aspie test?

Horrible site unless you are from US

I managed to find a girl I deeply care for - and have a lot in common with on that site. I originally contacted her just to be friends, but it developed into something more.

It's funny how when you disable your account it asks you why, but it won't let you say the most likely reason that almost nobody messages you, or replies to your messages. These options sound aimed at women just like the OKstupid site itself.

Reasons for leaving:


I met somebody on OKstupid!

I met somebody elsewhere.

There aren't enough people in my area.

I got too many messages from people I'm not interested in.

The ads are too annoying.

Well I did have a boyfriend from there but he turned out to be on probation for statutory rape, bipolar and would take food off my plate because he believed that women should never eat a full plate of food. Sooooo yeah. I'm never using a dating site ever again. Hopefully with my current bf, I'll never have to.

Me too. It's ironic how the only girl I wanted only friendship from on OKCupid due to her terrible profile developed rapidly into a very serious relationship in just a few weeks.

The other things are bad, sure. But what is exactly is wrong with having Manic Depression?

The fact that he couldn't control it and would use it as an excuse for when he was being abusive (physically or emotionally/mentally). He used it as an excuse to manipulate me with who I was allowed to hang out with and such. Also Resident Evil 5 was his favorite videogame...it's a terrible game in terms of gameplay and you spend the entire game shooting African zombies, leading me to believe he might be a bit racist based on some remarks he would make during gameplay. He also made homophobic slurs as well. So yeeeeah, he was a nightmare and I haven't even mentioned his mother yet.

Last edited by Erisad on 13 Nov 2012, 12:01 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I'd like to know if you would recommend trying okcupid based on your experiences with it. Not just for dating but to find people in general.

I've only met one person through OKCupid and that was over a year and a half ago.

still horrible although they make it appear golden on the surface. Prob worse from the US