what am I supposed to think?

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first off, I'm a huge pessimist. I've also been up since yesterday. >_<

That being said...

I stayed up basically all of last night with the girl I'm interested, had a bit to drink, watched a couple movies, just bullshitted. It seemed to be going pretty well. Eventually (like 6:30 AM) she said she was going to sleep, and I asked if she wanted me to stay or not. She said she wanted to sleep alone. Granted, she kissed me before I left (and not just a peck on the cheek or anything) but I don't know what to make of this. Maybe she just wanted to sleep alone, I don't know, but like I said I'm a pessimist.

I've already driven to starbucks and gotten coffee, can't sleep at this point, have a load of laundry in, I just have no clue what to make of it. Any insights? (Just insights, any "omgwtfbbq stfu" comments will be ignored. )

sounds like she was tired

Don't know anything about your lass shad but normaly females drop a line to give you a hint,

Don't know what type that is but that would mean she was giving a hint...

{ Only you can answer this as I have to think about it allot before I do something... Either go or she is dropping a hint. } You where there a long time so maybe she was waiting for you to make your move... could be wrong

Face it, ASpie males cannot pick up on NT female "clues". Maybe she wanted you to say 'Alone, hey, you'll sleep alone with me, hehe.' Maybe she was 'daring' you to put the moves on her? Maybe she was telling the truth. When I was younger I would be in these situations, and my NT mates would always say 'Fool ! ! She was beggin' you to take her!!'

Oh well, you'll know soon enough if she still wants to go out with you.

I like the females that just get straight to the point and say **** **, or I want you to **** **, got to be blind as hell to miss that, but then hes a twist she might just be testing you...

if i just stayed up all night. i sure as heck wouldn't want to be bothered by having anyone else over. dont read too much into it. seriously, if you start to over analyze things it'll start to show, and she'll pick up on that.

I think she just wanted to sleep alone, but I'm beginning to believe that the right side of my brain likes to pipe up and offer possible negatives with no real explanation. Its like the left side is the somewhat well-adjusted logical person, that can be just fine alone, but the right side is the mentally disabled kid that just has to have his say. I can disengage it just fine if I'm not involved, but if I'm involved the entire brain wants to be involved.

Like I said, there was no indication that things were going poorly, I mean she didn't really get irritated by any advances (albeit a limited few) that I made, I think she just wanted to get some sleep.

I tell myself that, but then its like there's the little voice going "but what if? What if? What if its a negative sign? Listen to me, it could be negative!! !!" Still haven't slept, and I keep telling myself that I'm stressing over nothing, but the one side just won't shut up about it...

bleh, I was just fine until I started trying to reason out what it "meant," even though it could have meant nothing at all, or as little as she wanted to sleep alone. After all, she did sleep next to me twice this week already. I think I just have a bad tendency of overthinking things when I'm directly involved, but even that knowledge doesn't help much...

At 6:30 am I'd have to agree with alex...she was tired. If she didn't enjoy your company she would have given you the boot at 10:00 or 11:00 pm.

Get some sleep...and don't worry about it. I think she obviously likes you.

Hah, well, she and her friend didn't show up at my place until around 12:30, 1:00 in the morning. After that, I drank the one beer I had and then pilfered five or six of hers, and it was only a 12 pack. She didn't complain though. I don't know, I keep overthinking it, and I know that, its just hard to accept. Like I said, she did sleep next to me twice so far this week. I think its just an issue of me trying to figure out why not last night. I know, I've even said it, maybe she simply wanted to sleep alone, its just difficult to reason out using logic alone, and when I try otherwise that's when the whole pessimism creeps in. There's no logical reason that I should take it to be bad, but if I can't "know" it isn't bad, I can't take it to be ok, let alone good.

I'm definitely not going to sleep, I'm an insomniac to begin with, but I am going to try and find a way to relax at some point. If nothing else, I don't think I'll have to deal with my mother asking if I'm gay any more, I got sick of that whole issue and told her the full extent of my activities as of late just to "reassure" her that it isn't the case. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against anyone that is homosexual, I just got tired of being accused of being it, or asked if I was, by friends and family alike.

The only real issue is that I have a grad school application for LSU due...today... and I haven't started yet, and I'm way too distracted to focus on that right now. >_<

the advice i'm about to give is probably controversial, but it's true.

You should never worry whether or not she likes you. By worrying about this, you become less confident. It's hard to hide a lack of confidence. There is no reason to worry about this. Worrying will make her like you less. If you act like she has every reason to like you and you are confident regardless of her feelings for you, she will like you. Girls are attracted to confident men. Men are also attracted to confident women, although looks play more of a role in men's attraction.

If you seem extremely confident (this does NOT mean cockey; cockyness makes you seem unconfident), the girl will like you.

Asking her if she wanted you to stay seems like something a less confident person would say.

I do think you should have made more advances, and done so confidently. Girls love that. I don't mean you should have been too pushy, but she had you over for the entire night. She was trying to tell you something. She wanted you to be a little more pushy.

If you don't make a serious move soon, you're going to enter the friend zone. The only thing you can do now is assume you haven't entered the friend zone and ignore the fact that you weren't agressive enough.

Well I'm definitely not in the friend zone, and she hasn't flat out made that the case. I definitely was a bit cocky last night, but not overly so. Almost a measured amount, enough to "emulate" what I've seen other guys able to get away with. Well, more than get away with, get a good response from.

I'm not as stressed about it as I was, I mean, thinking about it she did kiss me before I left, and she made the move for that, not me, so that has to be some kind of sign. I think I'm just being irrational about the other stuff in all honesty. Trying to keep that from getting to me, because then it would be noticeable, and an issue in her eyes.

again, you're analyzing the situation too much. Trust me, I've made that mistake in the past. Just go with it. I know it's easier said than done, but this train of thought can become very dangerous.

hah... I know. That's the worst part. It has been in the past for me.

Hey guys, sometimes we are just tired. Also, just because you hang out all night doesn't mean that it's an invite to sleep together. It just means we like you enough to hang out with you all night. But don't rush things. If she really likes you, she'll let you know when she's ready to have you spend the night. For now, enjoy the flirtation and be happy you have someone who's checking you out! Just let things happen naturally, don't force anything and don't overthink anything or you won't get anywhere.

Shade.

out of curi. this is same said girl who you wrote about earlier? correctus?

...yup.