How to avoid the creep-zone on Facebook

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1) Remember that being on someone's list isn't an invitation to talk to them at every given opportunity.
2) Smothering - avoid equally liking or adding to someone's every move on Facebook or similar social media. It's not only suffocating but gives the impression you are always watching what they do.
3) If you must show you're interested, it's best to do it in private.
4) You are not in competition with a girl's guy friends on Facebook. Treat them as you would any other person in a comment section or wall.
5) Think of what you feel would be acceptable communication and topics in real life, and not venture beyond that while on Facebook with the other person.
6) Don't like or comment on stuff from several months ago you might have innocently saw an old photo brought to the top of your newsfeed that looks good but from an outside perspective, it might look like you've been trawling through all their pics, their timeline messages.

Feel free to share your advice or comments below. I have amended this OP. Might add more to it as more points come up from other users

Last edited by JanuaryMan on 29 Oct 2013, 11:59 am, edited 2 times in total.

Haha, I have seen worse posts than that back on my old facebook days.

I never used to post on peoples' walls unless they posted on mine first and then I'd reply underneath. I'm just kind of lazy.

I don't have a facebook anymore though. I do miss reading ridiculous comments like that guys' though. It made for a good laugh.

It looks more like you're blowing it out of proportion. Even if he has a crush on her and this is all an act, all he is saying that there are people (including him) who care. That's it. Just trying to cheer her up.

Now this might put him in the friend zone, maybe. But not creepy.

Also, consider that he would've been deleted by her by now if she found him to be a creep.

Last edited by MCalavera on 29 Oct 2013, 10:02 am, edited 1 time in total.

Only want to response to your point 2. NOONE should actually use his realname on facebook. Let the hackers at least have some minutes of work, so you dont need to package it and do fancy stuff about your real name, to present it to hackers.

I beg to differ. When every post contains a compliment or a hug and you aren't dating them, it's a bit weird.
Edit: It's trivial, a personal pet peeve of mine is people not using their real name or a name they're known by. Hence why I put trivial, but I do see your point, Schnee. Facebook is all too easily compromised these days.
Edit 2: @Mac Not necessarily. I have another friend who constantly told me how creepy someone was and they let it go on for months til it crossed a major boundary line. The reason they didn't remove them before? Because they were part of a circle of friends and it would have been less complicated simply to just keep them on the list but not directly respond to anything they said.

People use "creepy" in the totally wrong context. Creepy is a picture of a dude in a basement with dark lighting. Or a dark alley at night in the slums. Most of these guys who "seem creepy" are as harmless as a fly.

I mean I don't do any of this type of thing at all. I mean not once did I click like on my girlfriends page even though we were together. I mean I never even click like on anyones page over and over. Granted it is weird to do this so many times. Creepy nah. Maybe they are just overly nice but there is some hidden agenda maybe. Who knows they could be just messing around.

^^^Are you the guy he's talking about? If not, why are you taking this so personaly?

He's merely showing an example so as to help socially awkward guys. Not tease them.

As for the example itself I could find far better. Do you know this kid persoanlyy and the details of his friendship with this girl?

This. And JM, you are such a big, f***ing hypocrite. You go on about how the men on here try to big themselves up by making out the other men to be a***holes. You do exactly the same thing. You're picking on people.

I'll tell you, maybe not what's creepy, but what's irritating: When a guy who is really into his interest, decides to skip that big weekend with his mates celebrating his interest...in order to hang out a girl he's just met. And despite the girl hinting that he should go, brings it up about 7 or 8 times more.

And it pissed me off when you said that girl you rejected was bigger than you. Big deal. You are no Brad Pitt and you're big yourself. Also, I'm fed up of this front you put of yourself on here, as if you're some Jesus-figure.

Yeah, there are better examples. I could probably go fishing through my timeline for other ones. As I said in the OP though, feel free to share your advice here you got an example? Share it!
I'm speaking as the person who also used to be "that guy" at one point in my life who would say awkward things on Facebook. Goal wasn't to tease but to highlight something I have seen from the inside out.

Yeah I kinda know the story but not much. They're just net acquaintances, and this guy is anime/game convention type of person.
Near enough all of his posts are like this to this one individual specifically. All the hugs and smothering grossed me out, and the fact the recipient never gives any love back but ignores it leads me to believe it's unwanted (but not unappreciated) attention. I guess I used this poor example because I felt like venting. There are definitely better ones and this one makes less sense without a story.

@smudge okay. That's fine, and call me crazy if you will but there's no way I'm going to attend an expo full of thousands of people if my friends aren't around or I have no one to go with. Last I checked, this is a place for people with Asperger's. And last I checked, I don't do crowds very well, even if I do games and anime very well.

Whoa! Bit rude there smudge.

Personally, janman, I hate game playing. Just to use Facebook requires too much game playing for me. Say too much, not say enough, only liking some of someones posts so u don't seem too interested, man that kind of thing is lame. Facebook and online fiends really suck.

You still are.



So you're basically admitting you picked on a guy you hardly knew about, just to vent.



No, you said at the time your friends were going.

Stop with the falseness.

My friends were there, but I couldn't get hold of them. Do you honestly expect me to go and try and find them amongst thousands of people over a square mile of hotels, a giant hall and various hangouts? I tried messaging some people. Anyway, maybe I'm just misunderstanding this but isn't someone who goes to a great length to give up their time (and expected nothing back btw) a good thing? My plans were cancelled the month before, I was umming and ahhing about going for the weekend, but I won't go if I can't find anyone there.

And yes, I was giving the example because I've seen the guy post constantly over months in the same fashion, with the same result. Perhaps it wasn't the best (in fact, it wasn't the best) but others are welcome to share their own. I don't know where you got the whole Jesus thing from, but okay. As for finding someone unattractive, sue me! It's not like anyone owes their body to me, and likewise me to them if I or someone else is not up to one's tastes. You can only like what you like. Regardless that is yet more personal information you've decided to share publicly for no other reason than your own dissatisfaction at me. Is there anything useful you can add to this topic seeing as the topic itself is crap to you?

Facebook is only what a person makes of it. I use it as a networking tool and for sharing links with friends. I mostly ignore the political aspect.

bad girl smudge!

JM - no good deed goes unpunished, learn that already

Politics in it suck, but there's also an etiquette to it much like social situations in real life. At the moment Facebook is like the Wild West but over time will probably get less manic.
I think I'm going to adapt the thread to be more useful. I stick to my point about smothering though. Constantly giving one individual you like too much attention at every given opportunity is a bit much for anyone to take.

I'm really starting to hate Facebook, to be honest.