I have feelings for a 9 year old girl???

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Its not like a crush, I can't imagine myself having an "intelligent" or what appears to be intelligent to me conversation with her, btw im 15, I feel like when she grows up she is going to be BEAUTIFUL is what I think. And I keep thinking about how nice it would be to be with her when she's 18 and above, what do I do?

Do nothing. We all look at little kids and imagine wonderful things when they grow up. In fact, I have to be careful to not say "you will be cute when you grow up," because the kid thinks she's not cute and deficient in some way. As you get older, you'll do the same thing with anyone generationally younger than you.

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Last edited by tarantella64 on 02 Jun 2014, 7:20 pm, edited 1 time in total.

You stay away from her, is what you do.

Seriously, the very last thing you want is for her parents, relatives, friends' moms, etc, to catch you looking at her adoringly or staring at her. You may find that horribly insulting, but unfortunately things can and do happen to girls that age, and parents etc. are protective and don't like to take chances.

Not sure what the age of consent / marriage is in your culture, or if women are treated as humans, but I'm pretty certain you shouldn't be developing feelings for a girl of that age no matter where you live.

Sounds like you have an inappropriate obsession to me.

Well I'm 15 and I am in love with an 11 year old and I feel bad enough about. But 9? You shouldn't have serious feelings, casual feelings, or even fake feelings for that, like that's just a massive wtf man.

Stay away from her. Far, far away.

I don't think he has actual intentions. When you've been around a while, you can look at a kid and get an idea of what they will be like later. I can look at a nine year-old and see she'll be cute at nineteen. What's bad is when you can also see she will be terrifying at forty. When I see kids playing, I can also kind of tell who will do what, with better than random probability.

And I was being hard on myself for being attracted to a couple beautiful 16-18 years olds that I know... I like LATE teen girls and early 20's.

But this man... I know your Turkish and things are different in your culture, but you certainly need to keep your distance.

^ No, this is not acceptable in the Turkish culture.

Kids grow fast (physically and mentally) when they are under 18, so it is not acceptable for a kid of let's say 16 to love a girl of 10, it is certainly acceptable there for a guy of 30 to be with a girl of 20 tho, because both of them are biologically adults after all.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 03 Jun 2014, 2:28 am, edited 1 time in total.

yes yes, there was some Humbert fellow who had similar ideas. Also Bono. Even so. Best to stay far away.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zoSd0fUDaLE&oref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DzoSd0fUDaLE&has_verified=1[/youtube]...yeah Id stay clear of her for as long as possible and not have thoughts like that whatsoever! I mean I know the Prophet Mohammed felt the same way when he was with Aisha but umm...not my cup of tea either way thats Pedobear territory sorry.

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Skyrim's pedobears are less cute.

...everything in Skyrim is less cute.

But yeah what you're fantasizing about is pedophilia and I strongly suggest you find a new obsession, one your own age. As someone who was sexually abused as a child I can tell you that the effects of abuse never go away-- you're basically giving her a life sentence at age 9 if you touch her. In fact, even thinking about someone so young in a sexual manner is not normal even for a teenager, I'd highly suggest you get counseling especially if you've ever thought about acting on your fantasy.

I agree with that.
When I was 10 I was sexually abused by a 15 year old boy. Fortunately my memory about it got blank but I remember I didn't like it and I got a stomachache lasting a few weeks afterwards. I was afraid it is going to be always like that when I "do what adults do" so I got totally asexual till my early 20ties. Then I become lesbian. Currently I am starting to think about being with a man but it still scares me out and I still have nearly no experience on this field.
I blame him for this.

So no matter what you do - don't touch her.