how to meet aspie girls to date..

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I have absolutely no idea. I don't get along with NTs and I'm fairly introverted. I'm a lone wolf, a rebel. I work 5 days a week, and have band practice on one of my days off. The other day i stay home and sleep or play video games. I'm not terribly good looking or smart either.
any feedback would be helpful...

You could try taking a look at this website - meetup.com

I only met two & they were by posting here in this section alot about what I wanted in a relationship & what I had to offer.

Quick question - when would you have time to date this girl?

before work, on my days off, before/after band practice. I'd make time.

If you don't go out, you're not going to meet people. I'm told this all the time, so I totally get the obnoxiousness of it, but unfortunately it's the truth. People can't find you if you're "hiding" from them. Don't worry about not being attractive enough, or smart enough. The right person will think you're an Adonis (okay, maybe slightly exaggerating here) and will find your conversations stimulating even if you don't think you have anything interesting to say. So instead of playing games or sleeping at home you should get out there, and if you can, have fun!

So, where to find aspie girls? I can't say for every aspie girl, but the vast majority of my friends are other aspie girls, and I've always been able to spot others of our kind fairly easily. There are more of us out there than you think. Right, where to find them. I'd suggest libraries, especially if there are any events of library type clubs. I was in a club at my local library and probably a third of the group were aspies. (My girlfriends and I were most of that population. xD) I'd also suggest art gatherings, or musical events. Smaller events are more comfortable, so I'd suggest you try those first. A lot of the girl aspies I know are into the arts, music, and things like reading. I know a number who are gamers, but I dunno how many of them hang out in game shops. I've never felt comfortable in game or comic book shops, myself, but as I said I can't speak for more than that. You could also try the local parks or animal sanctuaries. My friends and I used to spend a lot of time in places like that,

Then, of course, there are always the obvious aspie support groups. You can look them up in your area probably online. Usually it's a bunch of parents complaining about their kids, but sometimes there's groups of younger/adult/not parents aspies that go. I go to the one in my area, and there's a number of girls (myself included) who will come on and off. It's probably the most surefire way to meet other aspies. Plus, sometimes there are cute ones.^^

Hopefully that helps.

Haha yeah that's the kicker isn't it? Having to socialize to meet new people.. Woooo.. I know it. It's just so exhausting =.= I'm trying out Meetup.com for aspie groups. There seems to be a big group that go. I'm just hoping some of them are in my age range (20s)

Specifically aspie girls? Well, there's this:

https://autisticdating.net

Most people work 5 days a week, ~8 hours a day, and do activities on weekends, those who have a small business even work more.

Yet, 90% of those people get married or successfully date or get bfs/gfs.

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it's said there are a lot more males than females on the spectrum (how many are just harder to diagnose is up for debate), and we're pretty rare to begin with.. so gl trying to find one close to where you live.
sucks for us i guess, since i think NTs are generally unwilling to put up with us relationshipwise.

No, it's justified for an unattractive person to be worried.

If you are unattractive, you might only get 1 or 2 admirers to think you're an Adonis - if ever, and your choices are limited to those only.


If you are a very attractive person, you might get 100 admirers thinking you're adonis, and also studies proved that the more the male have female admirers the more attractive he is perceived (that's true for humans and many species) - so an attractive person have more power of choice, can be way pickier and can get the best of the best deal (due to many options).

So not only the unattractive is less likely to find someone, but he/she is also more likely to end up with someone not compatible enough.

Don't post selfies with food in your mouth. Unless your trying to attract coyotes.

Don't post selfies, period.

why not? if they're going to dismiss you on that basis how are they worth your time anyway?

People look weird in a selfie shot - it's just a photograhpy advice.

Oh.. I've never thought that.
In my experience over 95% of photos on those dating sites are selfies.