Posting Love Notes on a Girl's Locker

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Hi. I am very much in love with a beautiful girl, whose probably in the top ten for the hottest girls at my highschool. I was wondering if anonymously taping love notes and perhaps even flowers to her locker would be a good idea. Then, eventually, reveal to her through me going up to her that they were from me. Is that a good idea or bad?

sounds sorta creepy to me but i'm not one of the top ten hottest girls at your school so I dont know what to think.

So she wouldn't be flattered?

i'm sure she would be. I mean, I had a stalker-girl once, and while it was really creepy, I was still flattered on a small level. and what you're proposing isn't even stalking..

Okay, maybe I wont do that. I didn't think that would be considered stalking. Im not a stalker.

I did something similar to what you did, and the girl threatened to take me to court. My advice to you would be to find another plan.

I remember, out of the blue, asking one of the real starletts at our school out. She wasn't mean or anything, it was just so obviously uncomfortable for both of us. I've done the same kind of thing a couple of other times (though never with someone I didn't know well again), and think that I've learned my lesson. I don't ask for what I'm not certain to get.

just ask her out on a date. don't take the time to write her anonymous love notes. its a waste of time when you can find out if she'd ever go out with you just by asking her to do something casually.

Sometimes I think that for any aspie guy befriending a girl could be considered stalking, thats been my experience.

Not going to work. You have to do some things in common with her. Why are you interested in her? Is it just because she's 'hot'? If so, forget it - that isn't enough. But, if she's interested in some things that also interest you, maybe some club that you don't think is exciting which she belongs to is. Bide your time (I do hope that she's not 'just dumped' right now - you have no chance to move that quickly), and try to build some sort of friendship. Then you can move forward from there.

Thinking back to when I was in highschool, if I was the recepient of a similar gesture, I would spend all my energy grilling my friends about which one of them was pulling a prank on me. If I figured out it was for real, I'd probably imagine it was someone I already liked. If I found out it was someone I barely knew, even if he seemed interesting and attractive, I would probably avoid him because I'd have no idea how to react.


Actually, I think I have been in a situation in your sort of place before. In junior high, I expressed my affection for a boy i liked by making him cards and crap like that. I was incapable of having a normal conversation with him so I felt the 'get to know you' approach was not an option I believe he was flattered but felt extremely awkward about the whole thing, as did I. He liked to brag to his friends that I was stalking him.

Another point: Whatever you do, she WILL tell her friends all about it. If its just spoken words, they will likely disinigrate quickly from people's minds. If you say the wrong thing, you always have another chance. But anonymous love notes are kept forever, read out of context, and will almost certainly be mocked profusely at the next slumber party.

I understand where you're coming from, because when you like someone and have week social skills, particularly when you're young, it seems easier to make some anonymous but gallant gesture and hope for your feelings to be returned. Talking seems like the hardest thing, but it is actually the best. Even if you sound all awkward and it's obvious she makes you flustered, attempting conversation will be better for you in the long run. She might think it's cute. Good luck !

I'd tend to say no, it could backfire. Just try to talk to her, start out by saying hi, see how that goes. A lot of times you can tell just by how they respond to "hi" or "how are you" whether they are interested in you or not.

If you do that, post here how it went, and people can try to help from there.

One weird thing which kind of worked for me was giving absolutely random gifts. I like to find things (shiny things, lost toys, whatever). Anyway, in one case, I had found a superball. Some girl was mentioning it was her birthday, so I gave her the ball. She seemed surprised, not really frightened, and if I had been interested, I think that I could have extended things through other little silly gestures. This is kind of neat, if you already have a reputation for oddness, and doesn't really cost anything. Don't just single her out though - be random with a lot of people.

I got a love note shoved in my locker in junior high. I was flattered, but slightly scared, as I was new at the school and the admirer didn't leave a name.
If you leave a name, it'll be considerably less creepy for the girl, as a nice one will understand your shyness and unwillingness to talk to her in person.

Good luck!

I think love notes on a locker are acceptable, even kind of cool, in junior high, and maybe first two years of high school. After that, they're just a sign that the guy doesn't have the nerve to approach the girl in person. Besides, with the proliferation of school e-mail accounts for students (especially in high schools), you can just send her a love note via e-mail. The majority of school e-mail systems use a standard format: something like [email protected] ("il" for Illinois). That way, your name will still be there, and it'll be truly private, as opposed to having you being seen leaving the note. When using the school e-mail, keep the notes polite and no more than PG-rated.

I tried it myself and I'll say don't do it!
It will get you in a whole lot of trouble if it is prolonged for a while.
Boy places notes on locker. Boy gets in trouble legally and socially. Girl confronts boy.