The stranger girls of Facebook

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I am not active on facebook, I never post a status or things like that, I used it mostly to message certain people - or to post something to a discussion.

Recently, I was skimming through my feed and it came to my attention something.... girls lol... a lot girls who are strangers to me; most of them are local, like dozens of them - and are pretty much active on facebook- filling the 'Home' page with pictures and events of their lives. A lot I don't even recall when and why they were added.

So curiously, I dug their profiles or if there were any messages exchanged to find some clues and refresh my memory - not gonna post details here but one thing is certain, most of these girls (the local of them at least) were dating interest to me because they are all of certain types and same age range - some met through life or through some other online communities, I found a few message exchanges ages ago with those strangers but for one reason and another they led to nowhere or something - there was no interaction otherwise. And I was wondering why they added me in the first place; there was no even additional socialization value to that - so I started to remove them lol.

Do you see such strangers on facebook and wonder why they are even in your friend list?

I don't have many friends on Facebook. The ones I have (140-ish) are either people I know well, or people I've talked to a lot on an Asperger's group.

This made me laugh. When I add a man I like on Facebook I want to find out a bit more about him subtly. I hope that he'll add stuff like things he's read that interest him, you know links to stuff on the internet, music he likes, little stories about what he's up to.

My best friend from junior school added me last week and I can't believe after all these years we have so much in common, but I know that because we've both been posting stuff and I've been commenting on his posts and he's been commenting on mine. These women probably expected that sort of interaction from you.

On the other hand I added this guy I like last year to my list and he's only posted one update since then and doesn't comment on any of my posts, so I haven't learned anything much about him. I did message him a few times, those were invites to go out places which he said yes or no to depending on whether he was available, but that has been the extent of his interaction with me online. All solicited by me and not much from him, which is a bit meh. I'll bet these girls feel like that about you.

Facebook can actually be kind of useful for getting to know a little about other people if you actually use it.

... and because you have a good sense of humour I imagine they added you thinking that you would write funny updates. I have some random followers that I only kind of know, but they keep me on their friend list because they like my sense of humour and keep them for the likes. I use Facebook for entertainment.

If you have met them in person, even if only briefly, I am not shocked they added you. Some people add anyone they have encountered and will also add people they find interesting who have mutual friends.

Nope, I only add people I consider friends, so that generally means that I remember who they are

I never used FB but I used MySpace years ago & most of the people who sent me request never messaged me after so I had no problem quitting it.

Instant messaging is weird though. I never know when to leave a conversation. Sometimes I think it's like a conversation is just dropped in the middle, but then we'll chat then next day. I only ever initiate an instant chat if I need to ask something specific, but a casual conversation freaks me out a bit. I've got one friend who regularly IM's me on Facebook and it's a bit like a month long rambling conversation. Most of the time it's me that just drops the conversation because I have things to do like the dishes or have a bath. What do I say, "ok bye, things to do."