I have the weirdest date tomorrow.

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I was being 'chased' by an online interest since.... 4th November 15.

She's not a youngster, she's a 36 years old person I've chatted with for a while, voice included, never met me in person before, yet after some time she claimed she developed strong feelings toward me...and it was proven to be kinda obsessive too: Nothing scary though but she's really being obsessively caring, like messaging me every morning, every night, checking if I am well...etc. She works as a private personal carer for the elderly and she obviously rarely goes out, she rarely can in fact unless there's someone replacement of her available.

I kept pushing her back after her announcement, avoiding her attempts to meet me in person and told her several times things like "You're just in love with the idea of me" , "in person things are different", "you may not like me in person, you may not feel any chemistry"...etc. And she felt dishearten every time I tell her that.

I've offered to see her once before just to relieve her from her imagination about me, but she felt too never the day before and postponed it.

She told me of previous dates with who she felt no chemistry with; and I told her it would be the same with me, if not worse.

Nothing seems to convince her much though; she's still hoping that I am her long long awaited one; yet she finally said herself "Ok I need to face reality"- so I've finally accepted to see her tomorrow after she asked me (in lunch time, public place).
I've told her I had shingles recently (for real, I had little shingle outbreak on my back; I've been working from home since Tuesday - this month was the worst for me health wise, hemorrhoids then shingles while having a stressful project), yet she insisted it's ok because it's either tomorrow or a month later, she can't wait any longer.

Let's see, so I have a date tomorrow while I am not in my best form with a lady who's obsessively in "love" with me -online only- and who will probably get disappointed by reality; hopefully this will relieve her once and for all...and me as well. This is the main purpose of the day, to make her know the reality.

My life is getting weirder, and not in a good way.

Ok, but don't be afraid if things go well.

Imagine the women who might have been saying the same thing about you.

To be honest that what women usually like in mid to late 30s when they been single and too busy with life and work. Their body clock kept reminding themselves the need of partnership. I had a date with 38 years old last year. It was weird as well, and she fell with me so quickly. I got afraid of it as well. But I found out she want kids already, since the biological ticking away. I can't have kids yet as I am with someone for a while before getting into them. It so much easier to have more time when you are with someone at your age.

Some women are single in their mid to late 30's, and some want kid and some don't. In my observation, women actually decide early on whether or not they want kids, and those who want them in their mid to late 30's always wanted them, and weren't actually too busy with other things in life previously, but struggled romantically and weren't so irresponsible to become pregnant outside of a stable relationship.

Yes, I find that quite reasonable. Especially if they are NDs or not super-hot.

No, I think the main purpose of the day is that you have a great date and then see each others regularly.

Why do these women want to have kids? What's so great about having kids anyway? I feel like certain women only see us as sperm donors. It's objectifying.

Oh how odd of a person to want children! I mean, it's not like we are designed for that. I don't really understand how that thought can even cross a person's head!

And oh, you whine about objectification but if it's some hot teen you're ready to be used as a way to get some green card, how hypocritical of you. Besides wanting children in the future doesn't mean that she is objectifying you, the f**k you talking about? What are you, a reverse feminist?

And I will tell you a secret, some men want children too!

Either way you might enjoy it I hope you have a fun date!!

The objectification thing was a joke.

Because some women say men objectify them I thought I'd make a humorous role reversal of that.

I thought that was obvious but apparently some people need it spelled out for them.

Is it? I believe that it's not the first time I see you writing about that sperm-donor thing.

She claims that I am just like what she imagined.

I am not sure about myself - I just don't fall 'just like that'.

We'll see.....

So you two met and she is crazy for you?

Well, in person she did sound way less crazy that I expected; fortunately.

That's good. I'm glad it sounds like you two had a good time.