Fussy about dating black girls; The remark..

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I said that I was more fussy about dating black girl. Aside the negative reaction I got from my workmates, they assumed that I didn’t like dating black girls that much. From my point of view that remark does not specify whether I prefer them over other races, or vice-versa

The chef Gordon Ramsey is fussy about food then he is about cars. Does that mean he loves cars more then he does food?

It is strange how assumptions can be made unanimously by people.

Do you view black and white
women as fundamentally different
things though?

It's more like someone who eats
a LOT of crappy hot dogs, but
is VERY picky about their hamburgers.

Not sure that changes anything though,
except if they are so picky about their
burgers that essentially they NEVER can
stomach what's out there.

Is that the same Gordon Ramsey that's on Hell's Kitchen?

Tim

I'll admit- I am much more likely to be attracted to someone of my own color/race than someone of a different race.

And I'm not technically the Average American, because I am mainly Norweigan/Swedish so that is my physcial makeup.

I usually don't hit on girls who are black/asian/latin/indian simply because I wouldn't know what to say or do. I don't mean it in any prejudical way, but its the honest truth.

Doesn't mean I wouldn't have a relationship or marry one(Though I don't want to get married anyway); just that I would be more likely to hit on someone who looks similar to me only because I just dont know how to hit on anyone else.

I grew up in a rich white community with all rich people

Being Asian myself, so far I've only been attracted to white, Caucasian girls (especially those with delicate facial feautures). This is not because I think girls of other races are in any way inferior or anything, it's just my personal preference. And I also don't say that for instance Aborigine girls cannot be as sweet or charming as any Caucasian girl, it's just less likely that I will be attracted to them at first sight.

So as long as there's no racial prejudice involved, I don't see anything wrong with your reluctance to date black girls. Some people like blonde hair, others like black; some people like white skin, others like yellow...

Just respect other people's preferences, and don't begin to throw all the "you're a racist" crap at each other, unless there's a well-founded reason for it. First, it kills any healthy debate; second, it inflates the meaning of the word "racist"', which to me is still a bigoted, narrowminded believer in the assertion that some races are inherently superior/inferior to others.

Brian's onto something there. Y'all should stop to think how much of it is socialization and how much of it is your individual opinion that was somehow formed in a vaccuum of independent thought and was not influenced by your environment. Americans in particular like to sweep socialization under the rug.

That's true. To some extent- I will gladly admit that I have some amount of personal prejudice.

It isn't because I think white people are better; its because I literally have very little socialization with people from other races.

I kind of wished that I would have had a more diverse environment when I was growing up.

One time I almost got in a fight in school over this- I was Senior on the Swim Team and a Sophomore made a racist remark and some of the other guys started to laugh. I go really angry, almost started a fight with 1 versus 5.

I don't think it makes one racist to find certain races more attractive than others. I'm more attracted to white and middle eastern women than anything else.

Indeed. Given that A.C. happens to be black,
one wonders if the comments which he received
were racist in nature.

I have been a proven equal opportunity dater in the past as I'm not concerned with race.
However, at present, I have a caucasian wife.

I've only had sex (a one shot) with one
non-Caucasian. Not really a matter of
my own choosing, just how the cards
fell. I take what chases me, if it looks
good enough.

I know many people find people of who look similar to themselves attractive. It is plain romantic. Similar in looks, age, body fat, bla bla bla….. I have never seen a black aspie, if I did, I would probably very reluctant to let her go.

There are genetic health benefits in having dating someone of different race. That probably goes to explain why I am less fussy about the attractiveness of other races.

Example there is a Aspie white girl, who works in an office next to me. According to my workmates, she is not attractive at all, they often have comments of her not changing her clothes much or wearing no makeup. But I find her very cute. I love her youthful upper-class accent.

I part of why people choose attractive mate is because they want healthy attractive children. If I had children with her our genetic differences will cancel each other out. I suffer from dry skin, she suffer from greasy skin, the child is likely have healthy skin. She has a fin longish nose, but I have a wider one so the child will look just right. She ain’t got no ass..you get the point don’t you.

As an Aspie, I avoid every degree of social complexity I can -- I can't even handle a relationship with the fewest number of variables, and to me, being a multi-racial couple is definitely another variable to have to constantly handle and work with. I've contemplated dating women of all different races, but I don't realistically thing it's going to happen -- especially since I don't date at all anymore!

One thing I've worried about that, though, is all her male relatives and friends surrounding me and asking me what I'm doing dating her, since I'm a white boy -- giving me a hard time about it. Prejudice is multi-directional.

First, i worry about actually getting a date.

Then, I worry about what her race is.

Aspie Chav, I have heard from a lot of people that if you are a genetic mutt its healthier. Then again though I still wonder how much of our genetic problems as an overall (human) race are really things we can resolve that easily. With dogs at least they're probably some of if not the most genetically malleable creatures on earth - hence why selective and inbreeding would hit them so fast.

The more I think about it though I'd really think that if you were looking for someone opposite of you to offset certain genetic things I don't think her skin color will mean nearly as much as everything else you just mentioned. If you are a bigger built guy with a wider nose and you wanted to date a girl who had the more west-African Senegalese sort of appearance I don't think it would be any different than dating a white woman with those features.

I think if anything though, really thinking about genetics, I'd be more worried about having kids with another aspie - that's taking the ultimate of controlling factors in your own life and giving it a good chance to redouble in your future. Don't get me wrong, I'd definitely date an aspie and especially if she was enough like myself that we could really relate I could see us enjoying the rest of our years to gether; but, that's just it - I'd be pretty hesitant on having kids.

Most likely I'd feel my safest with this if I did encounter one of those odd dynamics of attraction again where I met a real alpha'ish verile female NT (kinda like one of the characters from Descent - and I have had women like that actually take an interest), because like you said you definitely don't want to pool too many of the same types of traits or genes together.


(edit: ok, I'm trying to splice my paragraphs so they aren't so straining...)

I'v acknowleded the problems with aspies having children an aspie. Expecially one that is genetically similar. I guess thare is no geting away from it. Even more so if I choose somone my own age 34, that is every increasing every year.

This goes back to thinking about logical, not social morality, which I live by. Logically it would be in the interest of the child, if the mother was a 22 year old chav, appose to an Aspie my own age, who looks very similar to me.

Strange though that some of my workmate thought it was wrong for me to date a 22 year old girl . Not though I was an experianced sexual preditor, who develped social manipulation skills over the years.