Just a little more love on Wrong Planet

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Well, guys, my time here on WrongPlanet is short. After hanging around these boards, especially this one, to find out more about my friends, family and myself and whether or not we have AS traits, how (and if) we work together, I think I've gleaned all I can. I've inadvertently started fights and gotten into some good debates, and I've learned a hell of a lot about the spectrum.

In the meantime, I've also observed and gotten pretty acquainted with a few of you, and even messaged back and forth -- my favourite pastime! As it is in my nature to form sentimental attachments, I thought I'd leave with a parting thread of uncomfortable proportions, just because I felt like it was needed.

If this has been done it hasn't been recently. I don't see a terrible lot of camaraderie around here, and there seems to be a lot of tension, especially on this Love and Dating board. I'd like to diffuse that a bit and focus on what everyone likes about certain people. For those brave enough, I'd like to know who would really enjoy meeting up with who on here, given the opportunity. It doesn't necessarily have to be romantic, the person or people could just as well be friend interests. You don't even have to be single to answer. You just have to like them.

Yeah, it sounds campy. So what? You know you want to answer. <3

EDIT: To clarify, this is an appreciation thread, of sorts. Really, it was meant to spark discussion about anything, but especially each other, and how we relate on this board. It's not meant to hook anyone up, I do not mean harm by it, and it's not SERIOUS BUSINESS. If you don't want to respond, that's ok, too.

Last edited by Orbyss on 07 Dec 2008, 8:55 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I'm not quite sure what to make of this thread. What do you want this to be? Surely not a dating service, we already have that.

There are a few people who have impressed me in this particular forum with some lucid and substantial posts, but that's not to say I agree with them all the time. But overall I imagine that I wouldn't post in this forum if I regularly discussed the opposite sex with my friends, most of whom are in long-term relationships. This forum, as it is currently, would be a poor substitute. I guess at the moment it's just filling a gap. Besides the advice that you and perhaps one or two others have given, I find it hard to say many positive things about my experience here.

Last edited by Hector on 07 Dec 2008, 8:24 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I don't really want to go out of my way to meet someone I know from the Internet. If I just happened to meet them again in real life, then I would be a little more open to it.

As it stands, though, my real life (such as it is) and my internet life are two separate and distinct entities. I'm far more verbose on the Internet than in real life, for example...

I've met plenty of people from the internet in real life. It's usually a little bit awkward, though I've made a decent friend or two this way. I'd have to share interests or otherwise have respect for the other person to want to be friends, though, and I haven't really made any sort of connection like that with anyone here yet.

I was recently let down at the last moment by a girl who I was about to meet up with dating pretenses, and worse still she unexpectedly favoured someone else from the same internet forum instead, so whatever limited experience I've had with internet relationships has been bad. I'm still open to the possibility of this happening, but I'm not going to invest nearly as much into the idea as I was doing before.

I've learned enough from the internet to know that I shouldn't trust it. That's why I keep my internet life insulated from my real life. One big example is that I don't buy anything online...

I have a totally different attitude. Personally, I wish more people (in many different forums) took their internet life seriously, then I might be on the same wavelength in seeking advice and the like.

I would like to meet most of you, honestly, although there are a few I could do without.
I wouldn't want to name names of the people whose posts I look forward to the most, because it seems like it might embarass or annoy them somehow.

I thought I went over that well in the first post. I'm not sure how to clarify -- it's supposed to be more of an 'appreciation thread,' but if there are people who want to spread a little love as well, I was encouraging that, as well. If not, oh well. But it's sort of a last attempt to see a little of something more positive on here, a sense of community, and it felt right to do it in Love and Dating more than anywhere else for the sole purpose of seeing if anyone might show just a little interest in someone else. It's nothing to take seriously, however, I can assure anyone of that.



Uh, well, I pretty much agree with all of that and feel the same way, which is actually part of the reason I made this post--to make it a more positive experience and to have 'a little fun'.

God forbid.

Wait, I'm atheist, no one take that literally.



Anyway, there's a reason I'm leaving. I don't leave forums willy nilly if I have a sense of community or reason to be there, and I've met a few now real life and long term friends off of some. Maybe I should add that it'd be nice to hear of people who've met from this board who've really hit it off.

One unfortunate thing is I can't help but see potential with quite a few of you here, but the atmosphere is so damn tense and stiff (I understand why) that it feels like nothing can really be let loose. I guess this is also one attempt to loosen things up a bit, just before I head off. I'll go back and edit, I think.



That's understandable, but what I mean here is more abstract than that. I don't mean anyone should be going out of their way, it's more a general thread about people showing appreciation. I can try to make that clear.

However, there are some people I wouldn't mind going and sharing a coffee or something with, striking up some conversation. I've done that plenty of times, each with very interesting results. Excitement and who-knows-what are never far around the corner in those situations.

It's at least interesting to hear both your experiences. It's a bit insightful, but it's hard to really imagine what goes on with guys here when they go on dating escapades. My curiosity is killing me half the time when I read posts on here, when all I see it, "It went to sh*t". BUT WHY?

I will miss giving advice here, however little it helped.

QFT.

I wanted to leave WP too for a while but then I went onto other forums and realized I was just letting certain people get to me. I reacted in a way that made it easy to be a target. I just try not to get that heavily involved in conflicts of opinion anymore.

Once in a while I'll stand up for what I believe in but I don't try and let a few members get to me. I do know that it does happen to get a bit bias here in the love and dating department as well as the PPR forum. So I just try and be careful with how an issue personally hurts me in some way. Not eveyone is going to agree on anything anyway.

I'd hate to see you leave just because of this. Then again, it might be wise to take a break from it for a while if it's getting to you that bad.

I try to be reasonable. Part of it might just be the condition; it would be like examining the herding instincts of cats...

You get all sorts in here, so some have something to prove. Everybody starts off learning love and dating through the school of hard knocks, so some people just haven't made all the beginner's mistakes yet.

Yeah, I know what you mean. You sure you don't want to give it a try?

I'll go first.

For starters, some people I love to see posts from on here are the two who've posted here already, as well as Fnord (I don't think I need to elaborate a lot), John Hopkins' relationship posts, Computerlove's irreverence, Haliphron for being a damn upstart :D, Legato for his seeming sensibility, Miss Construe for having all the guys after her (ok, and quality posts :D), Richard Benson for being, well, just too funny at times. And Tim Tex. Tim, I'll never forget you! <3

I'm missing people in my list due to overwhelm and being terrible with internet monikers. Hopefully I've shown my appreciation in my other posts, anyway. Everyone has their own input and it's all meant quite a bit to me, however, so no one take that as an insult -- I don't want anyone throwing things at me and calling this a contest. :(



I've noticed that in your threads actually, that you seem held back. I really enjoy your posts, actually, and I hope you can start to speak out more. I've noticed most of the women here are way too quiet, including myself. There is something intimidating a bout it, I agree. Fortunately, that's not really what's driving me away, but it doesn't help terribly, either.

No doubt I'll stick around, probably in the other forums from now on. I'm sure there's more to be had here and the discussions can be downright addictive for me sometimes. Didn't expect that coming here.

Oh, damn it, I didn't add you to the list. But you're on there. You've definitely had some good insight on this particular subforum, I'll give you that!

Hate to see you leave, Orbyss, but can understand the thought process leading to your decision. There are times I question what good is being served by being on here; when there is no answer, then it's time for me to do something else. Might be for an hour, might be a week, might just be gone. But there are seasons for all things. Your insights and strong opinions will be missed, and hope you continue to pop in now and then.


M.

I'm very disappointed that you're leaving, Orbyss... we need more members like you. But if you think it'll be better for you to leave, then so be it. Good luck, and feel free to come back and post any time.

internet forums are pretty much all alike.How useful an internet forum is depends on your purpose for joining. I was a member of 2 different photography forums and one focused entirely on socializing and drama, while the other one focused on craft improvement and increasing technical skill. Big surprise that I left the former.

I like this forum. I don't feel so ashamed to ask questions that I can't ask other people face-to-face and I don't know anyone in RL with ASD, so I spend most of my time with NTs who hate math and don't like science, and in general are not interested in anything I like, or who even think the way I think. So this place is a little rest area where I can converse with people who seem to think and act similar to me.

Why thanks. You know, you're always welcome back, so don't be a stranger.