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Sweetleaf
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05 Oct 2021, 10:58 am
05 Oct 2021, 11:13 am
05 Oct 2021, 7:15 pm
Aspie1 wrote:
Axeman wrote:
I get free sex every night so I'm good. 
Many men who see escorts are married. But that's beside the point.NOTHING in life in free. First off, living with a wife as an adult is like living with your parents as a child: you must obey her rules/wishes or face consequences; you are NOT a free man. Those rules/wishes can change at random for any reason, or even for no reason. If you don't think on your feet and obey the changes, she'll scream at you for hours for "not understanding her needs", make you sleep on the couch, give you the silent treatment for days, or even outright abuse you.
Also, wifely sex comes at a price too. A man has to continually appease his wife, so she doesn't get angry and withhold sex as punishment. Because hell has no fury like a woman scorned, right? Also, when she randomly decides she's "not happy" and files for divorce, he loses his home, his car, his prized possessions, 50% of his bank account, has to fight tooth and nail to see his kids, and has to pay her alimony for the rest of her life.
No, thanks! I'd rather pay $350 once every few months.
I can think of three reasons a married man would pay for it.
1. Their wife doesn't have a sex drive to match their own.
2. They aren't really cut out for monogamy.
3. They want to try stuff that their wife won't allow.
Reasons 1 and 2 are understandable from a
strictly evolutionary POV.
05 Oct 2021, 8:12 pm
Axeman wrote:
I can think of three reasons a married man would pay for it.
1. Their wife doesn't have a sex drive to match their own.
2. They aren't really cut out for monogamy.
3. They want to try stuff that their wife won't allow.
Reasons 1 and 2 are understandable from a
strictly evolutionary POV.
#1 is one thing I never understood---and I've been diddling escorts since 2005. Unless a beta-male married man is extremely rich---meaning like George Soros---and can afford to hire an escort once every few days, he already gets sex about once a month, give or take. It may not be great sex, and he may have to shell out for a pricey romantic dinner to get it, but sex is sex. Going to a fancy restaurant is less hassle than riding a train to a downtown hotel and looking over your shoulder for cops, and a romantic dinner with the wife costs almost the same as an hour with an escort. So why bother with escorts in the first place?1. Their wife doesn't have a sex drive to match their own.
2. They aren't really cut out for monogamy.
3. They want to try stuff that their wife won't allow.
Reasons 1 and 2 are understandable from a
strictly evolutionary POV.
#2 is dead-simple: if you're not cut out for monogamy, don't get married. You'll spare yourself the mental pain, the guilty conscience, the social embarrassment of being a cheater, and the unnecessary divorce costs.
#3 doesn't apply to me. Since I'm not into the highly kinky stuff, like BDSM and extreme fetishes, I can't think of a single sexual act I haven't tried.
So even if my tyrant governor enacts a marriage mandate for straight men, I'll already have gotten everything out of my system. And I can transfer my money to an offshore bank account, like I now use offshore e-mail servers to talk to escorts. Plus, with the Effexor I'm on, my sex drive is pretty low to begin with. The escort I saw recently had me on cloud nine for over 24 hours afterwards, though.
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05 Oct 2021, 8:18 pm
Axeman wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
Axeman wrote:
I get free sex every night so I'm good.
Many men who see escorts are married. But that's beside the point.NOTHING in life in free. First off, living with a wife as an adult is like living with your parents as a child: you must obey her rules/wishes or face consequences; you are NOT a free man. Those rules/wishes can change at random for any reason, or even for no reason. If you don't think on your feet and obey the changes, she'll scream at you for hours for "not understanding her needs", make you sleep on the couch, give you the silent treatment for days, or even outright abuse you.
Also, wifely sex comes at a price too. A man has to continually appease his wife, so she doesn't get angry and withhold sex as punishment. Because hell has no fury like a woman scorned, right? Also, when she randomly decides she's "not happy" and files for divorce, he loses his home, his car, his prized possessions, 50% of his bank account, has to fight tooth and nail to see his kids, and has to pay her alimony for the rest of her life.
No, thanks! I'd rather pay $350 once every few months.
Nothing that you posted applies to me or my situation. It's a stereotype produced by a mind whose view of marriage and women is warped and one dimensional.
My wife is also on the spectrum. We were so happy to find each other. She totally understands me and vice versa.
do you know how lucky you are?
06 Oct 2021, 1:45 am
auntblabby wrote:
Axeman wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
Axeman wrote:
I get free sex every night so I'm good.
Many men who see escorts are married. But that's beside the point.NOTHING in life in free. First off, living with a wife as an adult is like living with your parents as a child: you must obey her rules/wishes or face consequences; you are NOT a free man. Those rules/wishes can change at random for any reason, or even for no reason. If you don't think on your feet and obey the changes, she'll scream at you for hours for "not understanding her needs", make you sleep on the couch, give you the silent treatment for days, or even outright abuse you.
Also, wifely sex comes at a price too. A man has to continually appease his wife, so she doesn't get angry and withhold sex as punishment. Because hell has no fury like a woman scorned, right? Also, when she randomly decides she's "not happy" and files for divorce, he loses his home, his car, his prized possessions, 50% of his bank account, has to fight tooth and nail to see his kids, and has to pay her alimony for the rest of her life.
No, thanks! I'd rather pay $350 once every few months.
Nothing that you posted applies to me or my situation. It's a stereotype produced by a mind whose view of marriage and women is warped and one dimensional.
My wife is also on the spectrum. We were so happy to find each other. She totally understands me and vice versa.
do you know how lucky you are?
Well Aspie1 posts his crap like it's simple common sense. He has never been married or had what I would call a normal relationship with a woman.
Our meeting was luck, but after that it was two people who treated each other right.
06 Oct 2021, 4:05 pm
06 Oct 2021, 4:11 pm
Axeman wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
Cornflake wrote:
Would you like me to close your account? You're not forced to remain a member, you know.
No need. While do have a beef with the predominant politics on here, and feel saddened by the changes in the last few years, I find it of some use.
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09 Oct 2021, 9:43 am
Aspie1 wrote:
Axeman wrote:
I get free sex every night so I'm good.
Many men who see escorts are married. But that's beside the point.NOTHING in life in free. First off, living with a wife as an adult is like living with your parents as a child: you must obey her rules/wishes or face consequences; you are NOT a free man. Those rules/wishes can change at random for any reason, or even for no reason. If you don't think on your feet and obey the changes, she'll scream at you for hours for "not understanding her needs", make you sleep on the couch, give you the silent treatment for days, or even outright abuse you.
Also, wifely sex comes at a price too. A man has to continually appease his wife, so she doesn't get angry and withhold sex as punishment. Because hell has no fury like a woman scorned, right? Also, when she randomly decides she's "not happy" and files for divorce, he loses his home, his car, his prized possessions, 50% of his bank account, has to fight tooth and nail to see his kids, and has to pay her alimony for the rest of her life.
No, thanks! I'd rather pay $350 once every few months.
I've read some psychology about the couch thing. A man or a woman who's unwilling to sleep on the couch after he/she's made a mistake is likely unready and unwilling to accept rules, boundaries and limitations and the process of healing, mind, space and recovery of the one who has been harmed and wronged. The way the couch and each individual is regarded on each side of the viewing point can create or mend problems in relationships. It can be a meaningful process of giving and nurturing, enhancing value and recognizing fault as well as willfully accepting consequence and encouraging healing.
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09 Oct 2021, 9:46 am
Usually, it’s the man who has to sleep on the couch 
I never heard of a man forcing a woman to sleep on the couch after an argument.
09 Oct 2021, 9:49 am
kraftiekortie wrote:
Usually, it’s the man who has to sleep on the couch
I never heard of a man forcing a woman to sleep on the couch after an argument.
I never heard of a man forcing a woman to sleep on the couch after an argument.
Damn I thought this a dead thread.
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