Shebakoby wrote:
Janissy wrote:
Shebakoby wrote:
Janissy wrote:
Shebakoby wrote:
the most basic being the overwhelming pre-emptive rejection from guys. And by pre-emptive rejection I mean, the way they treated me all through the years made it clear that I wasn't going to get anywhere with them. Not that I tried, after puberty.
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When you say "all through the years" are you talking about childhood? I just ask because you said "not that I tried, after puberty". Just for the record, boys are
supposed to reject you before they hit puberty. It's a natural developmental phase. I think you should try again, if you are up for it. I've written too many posts pleading with men to not categorize all women according to experiences they have had in the past. This applies to women not categorizing men, too. There is no such thing as pre-rejected. Just as all women are individuals, so are all men. Those you have known are not predictive of those you have yet to meet.
It started in the childhood years. It CONTINUED after puberty. And since it was every single boy that I encountered in school, you'll excuse me for generalizing.
And this was two different sets of schools.
Why would I try after puberty if all the boys AFTER puberty hated me and made it abundantly clear?
You're an adult now. Men are different from boys. Give them another try. Here's a girl-tip (hopefully not too NT girly). Give older men a chance. Men who are older than you will automatically give you attractiveness bonus points just for being younger than them. You are 36 (I looked). Turn your eye towards the middle aged men. Yes, the single ones are probably on the rebound from a divorce or are confirmed bachelors, but that doesn't mean you are pre-rejected by them. The fact that you are younger than them is a bonus in their eyes- truth! And your inexperience is not percieved with the negativity that it would be if you were a man of the same age.
yeah but I'm not hot anymore so there goes that idea. Men that age want 20something blonde bombshells. Not a slightly overweight former blonde. Besides, someone that much older than me, I don't think I'd like that. Too much temptation for them to try to treat me like a child.
And in THIS town? Many men that age DRINK. I do not want an alcoholic.
actually guys wanting "blonde bombshells" is such a cliche and often untrue stereotype.
some prefer brunettes, some prefer redheads.
and you don't have to be a "bombshell" for people to find you attractive. looks are only half of the equation.
for example plenty of girls your age are still finding people to be with. it's a fact. it's not impossible.
my mom's like 40 and she found a few boyfriends after my parents got divorced. the current one's working out nicely.
and wanting to watch cartoons and stuff, and being silly isn't going to put the nails in your coffin either.
it can be pretty cute haha.
my stepsister's like that and she just got married not too long ago.
so i've thwarted your second excuse.
My mom's drilled it into my head that it WILL put nails in my coffin. At least, it would put nails in the coffin for any guy that has a good job and such. Like, she tries to make out that someone who'd accept my quirks MUST have SOMETHING wrong with them that would make them lazy and/or unable to work, or otherwise undesirable/'the wrong kind of person'.
I've been told my lack of experience in a relationship is 'baggage' equal to or greater than the 'baggage' people gain from experience in relationships. This somehow makes me undesirable, or